Teen Dating Violence Pensacola - FavorHouse of Northwest Florida
3/30/2015 UNDERSTANDING TEEN DATING VIOLENCE KELLY OTTE 850-241-0241 KELLYOTTE@COMCAST.NET TRAINING OBJECTIVES Understand teen dating violence and its consequences Identify risk factors, protective factors, warning signs and challenges for seeking help for teens. Learn strategies for communicating with teens about the important of healthy relationships. Learn about technology and abuse relationships. Understand what resources are available to prevent dating violence. 1 3/30/2015 DATING VIOLENCE /DEFINITIONS Legal Definition Barwick-Rushchak Act Working Definition https://youtu.be/9SOZ4Pji90I Is abusive and violent behavior in teen dating relationships Reflects the perpetrator’s desire to control and dominate the victim Covers a wide range of behavior that includes verbal and emotional, physical and sexual abuse. 2 3/30/2015 POWER & CONTROL WHEEL PREVALENCE Young people, ages 12-19 experience the highest rates of rape & sexual assault and youth (Truman, Jennifer, 2010), 18-18 years old experience the highest rates of stalking (Baum, Katrina, 2009). Among 11-14 year olds 62% say they know friends who have been verbally abused by a boyfriend/girlfriend. More than 1/3 know someone their age who have been pressured by a boyfriend/girlfriend to do things they didn’t want to do. (TRU Study, 2008). A survey of 7th graders in a high-risk community found that more than one in three boys (35%) and 1 in 4 adolescents reports being a victim of physical dating abuse (Swahn MH, 2008) 3 3/30/2015 18% of women aged 18-24 report being forced to have sex. 13% were age 11 and younger; 15% 12-14; 30% 15-16; 27%17-18 (Child Trends #30, TEEN DATING VIOLENCE IN FLORIDA 2008) 1:5 teenage girls involved in a serious relationship have been hit, slapped or pushed (NCADV, 2008) WHO ARE THE VICTIMS? Race & Ethnicity Socioeconomics/Class Geography Educational Status High risk populations 4 3/30/2015 LONG TERM IMPACT Girls with a history of physical and sexual dating violence are significantly more likely to: Engage in substance abuse (binge drinking, cocaine use, smoking, and unhealthy weight-control behaviors) Engage in risky sexual behavior before age 15 Have multiple sexual partners To have been pregnant (4-6 times more likely than nonabused peers) To have attempted suicide during the previous year (8-9 times more likely than non-abused peers) HOW TEENS DEFINE DATING Talking Hanging Out Going Out Talking 5 3/30/2015 WARNING SIGNS A TEEN IS IN A VIOLENT RELATIONSHIP: Pressure to have sex Calls or texts excessively Uses guilt Threatens to harm themselves if they break up Acts like the boss Monitors their technology Show up unannounced Uses sex to manipulate Monitors their whereabouts DISCLOSURE They may not Fear of losing friends Fear of telling an adult Fear of retaliation Love him/her 6 3/30/2015 WHY THEY MAY STAY IN THE RELATIONSHIP Emotional attachment Fear Lack of understanding about healthy relationships Social pressure to have a boyfriend/girlfriend Low self esteem and lack of confidence Isolation or alienation from friends and family HOW THEY MAY RESPOND Anxious Confusion Shamed Depressed Denial Defensive Afraid 7 3/30/2015 HOW TO HELP - TALKING TO TEENS Create safe space Confidential Don’t lecture. Ask open ended questions How did that make you feel? Primary messages I care about you. You are not alone I want to help you I believe you I am worried about you HOW TO HELP Favor House Statewide Hotline National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline Do a risk assessment and safety plan Discuss how to break up safely Avoid being alone with abuser Make it clear that relationship is over Be cautious and report stalking or threats Create a support system 8 3/30/2015 Gather evidence-photos, clothing, messages and letters Get written statements from witnesses Assist with filing charges and/or protective order If in a school Away agreement, counseling, support group, escort between classes, etc. HOW PARENTS CAN HELP Recognize how important it is they told them. Comforting and supportive Control emotions Educate themselves Get help from Favor House, FCADV, National Hotline 9 3/30/2015 HOW PARENTS CAN HELP Help them explore options Understand that if they punish them it may make things worse Remember why they didn’t tell in the first place Parents should help the teen recognize their strengths Remind them they are not responsible Help with a safety plan SAFETY PLANNING The Basics Resources Thing to keep in mind 10 3/30/2015 HOW TO RESPOND TO BATTERERS At school At home of victim Use caution RESOURCES ON DATING VIOLENCE Florida Coalition Against Domestic Violence http://fcadv.org/projects-programs/teen-dating-violence Dating Violence Resource Center, National Center for Victims of Crime www.ncvc.org/ncvc/main.aspx?dbID=DB_DatingViolenceResourceCenter101 National Youth Violence Prevention Resource Center www.safeyouth.org/scripts/teens/dating.asp Choose Respect, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention www.chooserespect.org Teen Action Campaign www.seeitandstopit.org Liz Claiborne http://www.loveisnotabuse.com/home.asp Family Violence Prevention Fund http://endabuse.org/programs/teens/ 11
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