1. society
2. social institution
3. marriage

Towards freedom of Love, Relationship and Choice
For rejoicing solidarity and commitment to
Humanity, Peace and Life
SAHAS 2015
(Strengthening Alliances for Humanity and Secularism)
Thank you contributors!!
Trideep & Loveleen
Shailaja & Zubair
Mudit & Farha
Zamrooda & Rajnish
Shabana & Manish
Anwar & Himani
Adil & Poonam
Nikunj & Samiya
Nayana & Agneeb
Rangwala & Amrita
Yusra & Rajesh
Mahfuz & Priyanka
Munnalal & Razia
Natasha & Afzal
Shivaji & Surekha
Ghazala & Naasir
Amitabh & Sehar
Shweta & Jamal
Abha & Mirganka
Surendra & Farhat
Kashyap & Zulekha
Rajeev & Kashifa
Swapn & Farha
Harsh & Rabaab
Bharti Sharma
Arun & Kala
Vikas & Pooja
Kavita & Jamshed
Apoorvanand & Poorva
Neeraj & Ashima
Ragini & Bharat
Sarfaraz & Dipti
Pragati & Johann
Neeraj & Javed
Ajaz & Shweta
Mohd. Asif
Rahul & Prantika
Shiraz & Nicole
Raghven & Anamika
Shubhrajyoti &
Shivani
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Introduction
By Editor : Dr. Rahul Das
Scarcely would one disagree with me, if I say that life is a struggle. Yet, there are a brave few who
decide to take on life's insurmountable odds for the larger good of society so that this world is a
better and a more harmonious place to live in.
It's been a year since a laudable effort was undertaken to galvanise the civil society over intercaste and inter-faith marriages. That was Dhanak's initiative and its pillars were the indomitable
couple Asif and Ranu.
This task is neither for the faint-hearted nor the weak-kneed. It is an onerous task that calls for
extraordinary strength of character, which Asif and Ranu have in good measure.
In 2014 when SAHAS (Strengthening Alliances for Humanity and Secularism) was held, India
realized for the first time that Valentine's Day could be a springboard for bringing about a dramatic
change in mindset and well-entrenched values regarding marriages.
People from different walks of all life from all across this wide and diverse country trooped into
the national capital for an engagement that has set the tone for a tectonic shift in old beliefs.
It is needless to say that last year's congregation was a huge success that has now put even greater
responsibility on Dhanak to do even better this year.
Over the past year, a lot of effort has been undertaken by Dhanak to address the vital issue of inter
faith and inter caste marriages. There have been successes. There have been disappointments
too.
But, it has been a journey well worth it.
As the year has rolled by and we look forward to the second edition of SAHAS, it can be said with
confidence that we have indeed put our best foot forward and our journey for a world filled with
love and peace has well and truly begin.
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Love…A jihad against religious fanaticism
By Asif Iqbal
L
ove between two individuals has been an
inspiration for several writers, poets and film
makers. But, during the last few years, love is
drawing people's attention for wrong reasons.
Challenges of faith and other differences, which
are being overcome by the duo in love, are now
becoming significant for others. Suddenly, focus from
'success in love' has shifted to the element of
'cheating in love'.
Success or failure in love is based on various
factors.
Similarly, marriage has its own challenges which
have to be dealt by the couple, irrespective of the
nature of marriage. But, surprisingly any failure or
maladjustment between couples of two different
faiths (particularly Hindu-Muslim) gets linked with
the religion.
The word jihad is being linked with the innocent,
natural and selfless feeling called love. A new term
viz. “Love Jihad” is coined by few faith based
organizations. The religious leaders from these
organizations are encouraging men from their
community to marry with women from other faith, to
fulfill a religious motive. Some are doing it explicitly
and others through clandestine methods. They are
trying to strengthen the prevalent myths in our
society that mixed marriages are never successful.
A few Hindu organizations are trying to propagate
a myth that all such interfaith marriages where the
male is a Muslim or Christian are malicious and are
solemnized with single objective of religious
conversion of the female from the other faith.
Similarly, the Muslim and Christian organizations
are not ready to accept any interfaith marriage
without religious conversion of a nonMuslim/Christian (except the Catholics). In any case,
women are the worst sufferers.
Marriage is about compatibility but, the same
compatibility becomes a cause of dispute in an
interfaith marriage where the couple mostly doesn't
have any contact from their respective families due
to marriage out of their faith.
There is hardly any external support and the
marital adjustment becomes difficult where both,
the wife and husband are equally strong about their
views and experiences related to worldly and
religious practices.
But, it is almost impossible to paint such an
alliance in black and white as they are dealing with a
term called LOVE.
It will be appropriate here to share DHANAK's
primary data of past one decade to address the
projected malicious attempt of religious conversion
in the name of love and marriage.
Out of more than 500 cases; around 50 percent
Hindu, 31 percent Muslim and 7 percent Christian
females have married or in love with males out of
their faith. Remaining 12 percent are the cases of
intra - caste/religion marriage or alliance.
Apparently, the shared figures shall justify the
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anguish of the Hindu extremist organizations.
DHANAK wishes same kind of empowerment for
the females from other faiths too.
However, if we take percentage of females
marrying out of their faith from the total population
of the urban females in each concerned faith, then
the picture changes totally.
I would like to do a different calculation based on
the religious population of urban females of India
according to the 2001 census report. Out of around
13.6 Crores of total urban females, Muslim and
Christian females add to 2.8 Crores and around 10
Crores are Hindu females. Surprisingly, we find that a
total of 0.00068 percent of Muslim and Christian
females is daring to marry out of their faith in
comparison to 0.00024 percent of Hindu females.
I have limited my calculations to urban female
population only, as majority of the cases being dealt
by DHANAK are from urban background.
Moreover, it's a fact that, based on various sociopolitical orientation and educational exposure, the
Hindu girls are in better position to exercise their
Right to Choice.
nks
But, the data clearly reflects that the females
equally empowered in Muslim and Christian
community are able to take such crucial decision
about their life.
So why love between a girl and boy from MuslimHindu background is being viewed with suspicion and
is called love jihad? Shall we leave the word love to be
redefined by those who have not experienced love in
true sense? Surprisingly, the society is accepting the
new definition of love which is being given by those
who are working to spread hatred between people of
different faiths and have no understanding or
experience of love.
I would like to reiterate here that, love is natural
and not a mission. None of us have used love and
marriage for religious conversion of our spouse. But,
now most of us are determined to use love as a nonviolent tool to jihad against man-made differences of
faith, caste, region, sex, language etc. Let's unite
and deter the voice against all such attempts of
building an exclusive society by the separatist forces.
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Love Jihad: Twenty Five Years On
By Shailaja Rao, Asif Iqbal and Wanette Tuinstra
S
hailaja Rao and Zubair Mohammad are an
interfaith Hindu-Muslim couple. They married
despite an incredulous display of opposition
from both civil authorities and self-appointed
community leaders, both of who claimed that their
actions in contravention to the Special Marriage Act
(1954) were in fact in the couple's best interest.
Fortunately, Shailaja and Zubair were not dissuaded
and twenty five years and two children later, are able
to share their tale together which although,
heartwarming, remains acutely relevant to today.
"Our story has the elements that formulate a typical
Bollywood movie. Boy meets girl; they fall in love
and plan to get married; parents oppose; they get
married anyway and live happily ever after. Many
interfaith couples experience a similar outline but
once details are appended, each couple has a unique
story to tell.” begins Shailaja.
“Zubair and I met in 1984. At first, we developed a
great friendship and respect for each other. Later,
realizing our friendship had a deeper meaning we
decided to get married. We both were determined on
having a court marriage but were open to satisfying
our parents' wishes regarding wedding celebrations,
if they were agreeable to our relationship. That sadly
did not happen.
“We went ahead and filed for the Notice of Intended
Marriage required for the Special Marriage Act and
submitted it on April 1, 1985. In India, there is a
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mandatory one month waiting period before a couple
can solemnize their marriage. During this period, a
public notice is displayed on a bulletin board outside
the court building. In addition, a notice is sent to the
parents/guardians. These are the main deterrents
for couples who intend to marry in such a way. We
were however blissfully ignorant of these potential
issues. The strongest aspect of the Special Marriage
Act is that it is a civil contract between two people,
irrespective of a religion or faith they follow and
there are no ceremonial requirements. This
appealed to us.
“We rushed into an auto rickshaw and on our way
picked up some of our friends who accompanied us to
the court. We breathed a sigh of relief when we got
there safely and our excitement was building at the
thought that we would soon be recognized as
husband and wife. Little did we know that the real
drama was yet to unfold.
“During the month long waiting period, we had
someone who claimed to be a lawyer visit our home.
He tried to convince me that I was making a mistake
which would be devastating for the rest of my life.
He eventually left with no assurance from me to even
consider backing off from what I intended to do.
“We eagerly looked forward to being called into the
magistrate's room. More friends gathered to support
and celebrate with us. We were guided into the room
by the court staff. But as we entered, we were
startled to see some familiar faces inside the room.
These men were from my father's workplace.
“In addition to this incident, unexpectedly, a notice
of our imminent marriage got delivered by mail. My
father dismissed my intentions as silly and childish. I
believe he assumed I was really not going to go ahead
with it.
“It became apparent that they had managed to dash
to the courthouse before we did and had already
discussed their disapproval over our impending
marriage with the magistrate. The magistrate began
by saying that I was not of marriageable age despite
having my date of birth on paper. When he noticed I
did not succumb to his nonsensical comment, he
went on to say that my parents (who were living
abroad at the time) were on their way to participate
in the ceremony and that we should wait for them.
This remark didn't hold with us either. I told him that I
had spoken to my parents a few hours ago and they
were aware of my intention of getting married and
were unwilling to participate.
“We intended to get married as soon as the waiting
period was completed. Zubair was firm about not
waiting any longer than required to avoid issues that
could possibly creep up if the word about our
marriage got around.
“The morning of our wedding, I attempted to get my
parents' approval one last time, by telephone as they
were abroad. Their answer was not any different
from their previous ones. Zubair and I went ahead
with making arrangements for our trip to the court.
“Despite having been extremely cautious, Zubair
could sense something was stirring up in his office
when the staff found out why he was applying for
leave that day. He decided there was no time to
spare and we had to get to the court sooner rather
than later.
"Eventually, the magistrate was running out of ideas
on how to stop the marriage and decided to separate
me from everyone else so he could speak to me
alone. Then, I was taken to another room along with
the familiar men to have a conversation. There, they
repeatedly explained how they were trying to
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protect me and considered me as their daughter.
After much effort on their part, they gave up as I
stood firm with my decision.
“Once again back in the magistrate's room there was
yet another round of debate. This time, our friends
began to emphatically vocalize their support for us.
The magistrate finally buckled under pressure and
went ahead to complete the formalities of the
marriage process. The day was May 2, 1985.”
Shailaja and Zubair's succeeded in getting married
but their tale is not unique. Despite the commitment
and tenacity of couples such as them who availed
themselves of the Special Marriage Act of 1954, the
last sixty years in India have actually borne witness
to an increasing hostility to Interfaith and inter caste
couples. Asif Iqbal of DHANAK, an advocacy and
support organisation for Inter Faith and Inter Caste
couples, explains that: “The situation has not
changed over the last 60 years in India. Although,
Mixed marriages are getting media attention now the
situation has become worse due to the involvement
of religious organizations. Religious hatred,
patriarchal mindsets and poor legal and
administrative support are the challenges to
interfaith marriage. “
The Special Marriage Act (1954) is the only civil
marriage legislation in India that permits interfaith
marriage, in that the faiths of the marrying couple
are essentially irrelevant. Elsewhere in India,
interfaith couples could be married in a Hindu
ceremony and the marriage registered in a Hindu
Marriage Act (1955) if one of the partners converts to
Hinduism. Alternatively, in some states an Islamic
nikah is possible, again if one of the partners
converts to Islam.
Indeed for many interfaith couples in India,
conversion is the most expedient route to marriage.
Avantika Srivastva, Program Coordinator at AALI's
Resource Centre (Association for Advocacy and Legal
Initiatives, a Lucknow-based feminist advocacy
group that addresses issues of violence against
women and has been working on women's right to
choice in sexual relationships.) explains that
“When couples apply to be married under the Special
Marriage Act, a one-month notice announcing the
marriage is put up in court. This creates fear in the
minds of couples of word of their marriage reaching
their families. They are also afraid that if someone in
the family comes to know, it could even lead to honor
killing.” Precisely the experience of Shailaja and
Zubair.
“But if the boy or girl converts, they have the option
of either going to an Arya Samaj mandir, in which
case they will get a marriage certificate by end of the
day, or doing a nikah, in which case they will get a
nikah nama, which is also a legally valid document.
So this also a reason why the boy or the girl converts”
explains Srivastva further.
The incentive to convert in order to facilitate a
recognized marriage however does not solve the
wider social issues that underpin the opposition to
interfaith and inter caste marriage in India. Asif Iqbal
of DHANAK explains that,
"Although, it's a constitutional right to any Indian
citizen to adopt, practice, and preach its religion,
there are a few states like Gujarat, Tamil Nadu,
Himachal Pradesh etc. which curbs this right with
their state laws (that are unconstitutional). Any
interfaith couple who wish to go for a religious
marriage in these listed states, have to intimate the
local authorities about conversion of one of the
couples, as no religious marriage is possible between
interfaith couples (particularly Hindu-Muslim
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couple) without religious conversion of one of the
couples. The only option of marriage under Special
Marriage Act (SMA) is too challenging for many
couples…so basically, the couple can't get married.”
“In other states where there is no state law against
religious conversion the couple prefer religious
marriage as it is quick and easy to perform but then
there comes the question of Love Jihad.“
Love Jihad is the highly inflammatory, conspiracy
driven, political term given by Hindu nationalists to
instill fear in Hindu communities that Muslim men
will seduce Hindu women, forced them to convert,
undermine the caste system in order to propagate
Islam and alter in their favor the religious
demographics of India. The 'Love Jihad' banner is a
highly effective fear tactic to keep communities
segregated, sanction honor related violence and
maintain the political stranglehold of patriarchy. It
encourages violent crimes against those women in
particular who dare to defy tradition- and risk
diluting their community identity- by marrying
outside of their caste or religion. The same
accusations have been hurled at Christians and
Buddhists accused of luring Hindus from lower castes
into the fold. Asif Iqbal explains that, “The religious
organizations are becoming vocal and violent against
interfaith marriages as they want to retain the social
order and mixed marriages are an aberration which is
affecting the purity of race also. Unfortunately they
are too powerful to be opposed and have their
significant presence in India.”
The rationale behind the 'love jihad' conspiracy and
the very real consequences on the safety of many
interfaith and inter caste couples in India, goes some
way in explaining why civil authorities- such as the
magistrate in the case of Shailaja and Zubair -are
often complicit in opposing and preventing mixed
marriages, and are willing to contradict the legal
provisions available to interfaith and inter caste
couples.
Inter faith and Inter caste couples in India, not only
face particular legal obstructions to their marriage,
but find few places to turn. The hostility to Mixing in
India means that interfaith and inter caste couples
often have to go on the run, because even the police
are known to return young women to their families.
In some cases young women are pressured to lie and
claim they were raped or otherwise duped into a
marriage in order to save the family's honor. The
young man is subsequently charged with kidnapping
and a cycle of communal vengeance ensues, with
deadly consequences.
“This an extremely serious issue. This kind of a
campaign will have serious negative implications on
couples who are in inter-religious relationships and
marriages. They will be afraid now of being attacked
or having such allegations levelled against them.
Such statements (raising fears about 'love jihad)
have strong impact on people because it has to do
with religious sentiments, with people's faith and
beliefs. When such insecurities are created in the
minds of parents, they'll be afraid that their
daughters will be trapped. And because of such
feelings of insecurity, the vulnerability and violence
against women will only increase,” says Avantika
Srivastva, from AALI's Resource Centre.
Asif Iqbal of DHANAK adds, that “Conversion is an
issue for inter faith couples, but in the way it is being
pitched as Love Jihad is very dangerous. It leads to
hatred and threatens the very existence of interfaith couples. The entire list of questions like poor
implementation and awareness of the Special
Marriage Act, control over the sexuality, liberty and
equality of women, and faith based co-existence are
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being brushed away by the term, 'Love Jihad.'”
The prospect of 'love jihad' encourages many families
to adopt ever more restrictive practices to safeguard
the undue burden placed upon girls and women to
maintain the purity of the community, such as forced
early marriage, and removal from integrated schools
and workplaces. The arranged marriage system
which underpins Indian family life is adopted by
Hindus, Christians, Muslims and Sikhs in order to
preserve family lineage, cultural and religious
traditions. Interfaith and inter caste marriages not
only threaten the homogeneity of India's faith
communities but are also a significant challenge to
the pervasive, institutionalized inequality, best
exemplified by the caste system. Kancha Illia,
Director, Centre for the Study of Social Exclusion and
Inclusive Policy, Maulana Azad National Urdu
University, Hyderabad writing on the phenomenon of
interfaith and inter caste marriages in India, explains
that many women throughout India's history have
embraced other faiths in order to secure their
wellbeing and equality. Illia cites the case of the
Brahminic lower caste Hindu women had been
ostracized by society, forced to go semi- naked and
whose 'untouchableness' forced them endure
seclusion and exploitation, until the Cheraman
Perumal royals converted many of them to Islam in
the early 6th century.
Illia writes that, for loving Muslim men was a true
jihad, a resistance against oppression for these
lower caste women as it improved their status and
wellbeing and in some ways liberated them. In his
view, if certain patriarchal forces in India want to
stop conversion, or ' If they, indeed, want to stop
“love jihad”, they should take up massive social
reforms amongst all castes. The reforms should be
spiritual, cultural, and include the dimension of
man-woman relationship.”
The fear tactics against interfaith and inter-caste
Marriage, from 'Love Jihad' to honor related
violence, to obstructive civil authorities and legal
mechanisms also nearly completely obfuscate the
benefits and particular joys of inter faith and inter
caste family life. Asif Iqbal is effusive in explaining
both the personal delights of an interfaith marriage
and the wider social benefits,
“The joys of interfaith marriage is about celebrating
different festivals like Holi, Diwali, EIDs, Christmas
etc. Moreover, it has also helped us to be rationale
about various religious practices and beliefs. The
understanding about other faith has increased.”
“Marriage has its challenges irrespective of its
nature. Couples associated with DHANAK feel happy
about their mixed marriage. Although, it is equally
challenging to swim upstream. It's a perpetual
challenge because we are living and leading our lives
according to our terms and perception of faith. The
pride and perspective about interfaith alliance are
shared from personal experiences in regular
meetings and mails.”
Aside from the threats stemming from 'love jihad'
propaganda and providing that the couple can find a
way forward through the legalities of interfaith and
inter caste marriage, a key concern about interfaith
marriage is that the children will be neither one faith
nor the other, and will be confused, but Asif Iqbal's
perception is refreshingly, quite the opposite.
“Actually, it is we are confused, not the children of
mixed parentage. Children are smart enough to deal
with the diversities and complexities of life. The
differences between the parents are healthy ones,
provided they are resolved or debated peacefully.
Differences will appear normal if the parents believe
in equality and respect other faiths and so shall the
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message will be conveyed to the kids. It's important
the message related to faith disputes between the
parents should be conveyed properly to the kids or
else it will leave a bitter taste in the child's mind and
he or she will evolve her own way of dealing with it.”
Reflecting on her own lengthy experience, Shailaja
and Zubair are also emphatic that respect has also
been a key component for a successful interfaith
marriage, and Shailaja also has some further advice
for Mixed couples, “The advice I give to future
interfaith couples is that the foundation for any
marriage is love and respect for each other. I also
emphasize that it is beneficial for both individuals to
be financially independent. I believe this gives the
freedom and confidence to take that daring step in a
society which is plagued by a caste system, religious
tensions and a patriarchal mentality.”
For Zubair and Shailaja, twenty five years of
interfaith love has proven to be its own greatest joy
and benefit, and is an experience they want to share
with others. “On the occasion of our 25th wedding
anniversary I started an Interfaith Marriage group in
Facebook.” Explains Shaliaja of her decision to
widen the benefits of interfaith marriage to other
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couples and wider society, “My intention to start this
group was to see what type of issues couples face in
these times and to help in some way. The group has
grown to over 450 members. The group has exposed
me to many wonderful people worldwide with
similar interests, backgrounds etc. and it has been
extremely rewarding. “
Despite experiences of bureaucratic obstinacy,
family opposition and even threats, Shailaja and
Zubair as well as Iqbal and the other volunteers at
DHANAK are humble in their acknowledgement that
their cross cultural marriages and families will have a
bigger impact on building an Indian society of
equality and tolerance. For Shailaja, her inspiration
and hope is best exemplified by her favorite quote
from John Lennon's 'Imagine'
“You may say I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one.
I hope someday you'll join us. And the world will live
as one."
The article was first published at
http://goldenroomblog.wordpress.com/2014/02/1
2/dhanak-celebrates-valentines-day/
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varèkkZfeZd vkSj vartkZrh; fookgksa ds f[kykQ dke djrh gSaA èkud ds
vkflQ bdcky ds eqrkfcd %
gkykr esa muds lkeus yo ftgkn dk loky vk [kM+k gksrk gSAÞ
^yo ftgkn* csgn HkM+dkÅ] lkft'ku vkSj jktuhfrd LokFkksZa ls izsfjr
tqeyk gS tks fganw dBeqYykvksa us fganqvksa esa ;g Mj iSnk djus ds fy,
mNky fn;k gS fd eqfLye yM+ds fganw yM+fd;ksa dks Qqlyk dj mUgsa èkeZ
ifjorZu ds fy, ckè; djsaxs] bLyke ds izlkj ds fy, tkfr O;oLFkk
dks u"V dj nsaxs vkSj Hkkjr ds èkkfeZd lehdj.k dks vius i{k esa eksM+
ysaxsA yo ftgkn dk ukjk nksuksa leqnk;ksa dks ,d&nwljs ls nwj j[kus]
bTtr vkSj [kkunku ds uke ij gksus okyh fgalk rFkk fir`lÙkk ds
jktuhfrd opZLo dks tk;t Bgjkus dk cgqr dkjxj Hk;&izsfjr ukjk
gSA ;g ukjk ijaijk dks pqukSrh nsus dk lkgl fn[kkus & vkSj QyLo:i
viuh lkeqnkf;d igpku ds {kh.k gksus dk tksf[ke mBkus & okyh ,slh
efgykvksa ds lkFk [kqysvke vkSj cgq/kk ccZj fgalk dks c<+kok nsrk gS
tks viuh tkfr ;k èkeZ ds ckgj fookg djuk pkgrh gSaA ;gh bYtke
vdlj bZlkb;ksa vkSj ckS)ksa ij Hkh yxk;k tkrk jgk gS fd os fupyh
tkfr;ksa ds fganqvksa dks Qqlyk dj vius èkeZ esa [khap jgs gSaA vkflQ
bdcky ds eqrkfcd] ßèkkfeZd laxBu varèkkZfeZd fookgksa ds f[kykQ
eq[kj vkSj fgald gksrs tk jgs gSa D;ksafd os lkekftd O;oLFkk esa dksbZ
cnyko ugha pkgrsA muds fglkc ls fefJr fookg ,d ,slk HkVdko gS
tks dfFkr uLyh 'kq)rk ds muds nkos dks Bsl igqapkrk gSA vQlksl fd
vkt gekjs ns'k esa ,sls yksxksa dh rkdr bruh c<+ pqdh gS fd mudk
fojksèk djuk eqf'dy gks x;k gSAÞ
ß;ksa rks gj fganqLrkuh ukxfjd dks viuh ethZ ls fdlh Hkh èkeZ dks
viukus] mldks vey esa ykus vkSj mldk izpkj djus laoSèkkfud
vfèkdkj feyk gqvk gS exj xqtjkr] rfeyukMq] fgekpy izns'k vkfn
dqN jkT;ksa ds izknsf'kd dkuwuksa ¼tksfd vlaoSèkkfud dkuwu gSa½ ds rgr
bl vktknh ij xaHkhj cafn'ksa Hkh gSaA ;fn bu jkT;ksa esa dksbZ Hkh
varèkkZfeZd tksM+k èkkfeZd fookg dk fodYi viukuk pkgrk gS rks lcls
igys mls nksuksa esa ls fdlh ,d O;fDr ds èkeZ ifjorZu ds ckjs esa
LFkkuh; iz'kklu dks lwfpr djuk gksrk gS D;ksafd varèkkZfeZd tksM+ksa
¼[kklrkSj ls fganw&eqfLye tksM+ksa esa½ rc rd èkkfeZd fookg laHko ugha
gS tc rd nksuksa esa ls ,d O;fDr ml èkeZ dks u viuk ys ftl èkeZ ds
rgr os 'kknh djuk pkgrs gSaA fo'ks"k fookg vfèkfu;e ds rgr 'kknh
dk ,dek= fodYi cgqr lkjs tksM+ksa ds fy, dkaVksa Hkjk jkLrk gksrk gS-- yCcksyqvkc ;s fd bl jkLrs ij py dj 'kknh djuk rdjhcu
ukeqefdu gSA
^yo ftgkn* dh dfFkr lkft'k ds f[kykQ nh tkus okyh nyhy vkSj
cgqr lkjs vartkZrh; vkSj varèkkZfeZd ;qxyksa ij blls tks xaHkhj vlj
iM+rs gSa] muls ,d gn rd bl ckr dks le>k tk ldrk gS fd D;ksa
flfoy iz'kklu Hkh vdlj fefJr fookgksa dks jksdus esa 'kkfey gks
tkrk gS & elyu 'kSytk vkSj tqcsn ds ekeys esa eftLVªsV dk O;ogkj
& vkSj varèkkZfeZd o vartkZrh; ;qxyksa ds fy, miyCèk oSèkkfud
izkoèkkuksa dks èkrk crkus ls ckt ugha vkrkA
ßnwljs jkT;ksa esa] tgka èkek±rj.k ds f[kykQ dksbZ izknsf'kd dkuwu ugha gS
ogka izseh ;qxy vkerkSj ij èkkfeZd fookg dks gh izkFkfedrk nsrs gSa
D;ksafd èkkfeZd jhfr ls fookg tYnh laiUu gks tkrk gSA exj ,sls
Hkkjr esa varèkkZfeZd vkSj vartkZrh; ;qxy u dsoy vius fookg ds
jkLrs esa [kkl dkuwuh ckèkkvksa dk lkeuk djrs gSa cfYd muds ikl
enn vkSj xqgkj yxkus ds fy, dksbZ T;knk fodYi Hkh ugha gksrsA Hkkjr
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esa fefJr lacaèkksa ds izfr bl fo}s"k dk urhtk ;g gksrk gS fd
varèkkZfeZd vkSj vartkZrh; ;qxyksa dks vdlj vius&vius ?kjksa ls
Hkkxuk iM+rk gS D;ksafd ?kjokyksa dh rks ckr gh NksfM+;s] vxj iqfyl dks
Hkh irk py x;k rks og Hkh mudks enn nsus dh ctk; mUgsa tcju
muds ?kj okyksa ds gokys djus ls ckt ugha vk,xhA dqN txgksa ij
;qofr;ksa dks Mjk&/kedk dj muls ;g c;ku rd fnyok;k x;k gS fd
muds lkFk cykRdkj gqvk gS ;k mudks 'kknh ds fy, Qqlyk;k x;k gS
rkfd ifjokj dh bTtr ij dksbZ vkap u vk tk,A ,sls foijhr gkykr
dk urhtk ;g gksrk gS fd ,slh yM+dh ds izseh dks vigj.k ds vkjksi
esa tsy esa can dj fn;k tkrk gS vkSj tsy ds ckgj lkaiznkf;d izfr'kksèk
dk ,d pØ 'kq: gks tkrk gS ftlds ifj.kke cgqr ekjd lkfcr gksrs
gSaA
vkyh fjlkslZ lsaVj dh voafrdk JhokLro dgrh gSa] ß;g csgn lathnk
elyk gSA bl rjg ds vfHk;ku ls varèkkZfeZd lacaèk cukus vkSj fookg
djus okys tksM+ksa ds fy, cgqr xaHkhj udkjkRed gkykr iSnk gks tk,axs
vkSj muds lkeus dHkh Hkh geys ;k ,sls xaHkhj vkjksiksa dh LFkk;h
vk'kadk iSnk gks tk,xhA bl rjg ds c;kuksa ¼tks ^yo ftgkn* dk [kkSQ
iSnk djrs gSa½ ls yksxksa ij cgqr xgjk vlj iM+rk gS D;ksafd bldk
rkYyqd mudh èkkfeZd Hkkoukvksa ls] yksxksa dh vkLFkkvksa vkSj fo'oklksa
ls gksrk gSA tc eka&cki ds fnyks&tgu esa bl rjg dh vlqj{kk ?kj
dj tkrh gS rks os Hkh yxkrkj bl Mj ls cspSu jgus yxrs gSa fd gks u
gks ,d fnu mudh yM+dh dks Hkh Qqlyk fy;k tk,xkA vlqj{kk dh
,slh gh Hkkouk ls efgykvksa ds lkFk gksus okyh fgalk vkSj mu ij yxh
cafn'kksa o mudh ykpkjh vkSj c<+ tk,xhAÞ
blh ckr dks vkxs c<+krs gq, èkud ds vkflQ bdcky dk ekuuk gS fd
ßvarèkkZfeZd tksM+ksa ds fy, èkek±rj.k ,d elyk rks gS exj ftl rjg
bls yo ftgkn ds rkSj ij is'k fd;k tk jgk gS] mlls ;g vkSj Hkh
xaHkhj leL;k cu x;k gSA vc èkek±rj.k ?k`.kk dk lzksr cu tkrk gS
vkSj varèkkZfeZd tksM+ksa ds vfLrRo dks gh pqukSrh nsus yxrk gSA ^yo
ftgkn* tSls tqeyksa dk lgkjk ysdj fo'ks"k fookg vfèkfu;e ds
fØ;kUo;u dh detksfj;ksa] ;kSfudrk ij fu;a=.k] efgykvksa dh
vktknh o lekurk rFkk èkkfeZd lg&vfLrRo tSls lkjs csgn xaHkhj
vkSj egRoiw.kZ elys viuh vgfe;r [kks nsrs gSaAÞ
^yo ftgkn* dh vk'kadk ds pyrs cgqr lkjs ifjokj viuh yM+fd;ksa
ij vkSj Hkh T;knk cafn'ksa j[kus yxrs gSa rkfd leqnk; o ifjokj dh
'kq)rk vkSj bTtr cuk, j[kus dh efgykvksa ls tks mEehn dh tkrh gS
mldks iwjk djus esa os dgha pwd u tk,aA fygktk] vkSj T;knk rknkn esa
de mez fookg gksus yxrs gSa] yM+fd;ksa dks Ldwyksa vkSj dk;ZLFkyksa ls
fudky dj ?kj fcBk fy;k tkrk gSA vjsaTM eSfjt ;kuh eka&cki dh
ethZ ls r; dh xbZ 'kknh Hkkjrh; ikfjokfjd thou dk vkèkkj gSA
[kkunku dh oa'kkoyh] laLÑfr vkSj èkkfeZd ijaijkvksa dks dk;e j[kus
ds fy, fganw] bZlkbZ] eqlyeku vkSj fl[k] lHkh us 'kkfn;ksa ds fy, ;gh
rjhdk viuk;k gSA varèkkZfeZd vkSj vartkZrh; fookg u dsoy
Hkkjrh; lekt dh bl le:rk dks pqukSrh nsrs gSa cfYd tkfr O;oLFkk
esa fn[kkbZ nsus okyh loZO;kih] laLFkkxr vlekurk dks Hkh lhèkh pksV
igqapkrs gSaA gSnjkckn fLFkr ekSykuk vktkn us'kuy mnwZ ;qfuoflZVh esa
lsaVj QkWj fn LVMh vkWQ lks'ky ,DlDywtu ,s.M bUDywflo ikWfylh
ds funs'kd izks- dkapk byS;k varèkkZfeZd vkSj vartkZrh; fookgksa dh
ifj?kVuk ij fy[krs gq, crkrs gSa fd Hkkjr ds iwjs bfrgkl esa cgqr
lkjh efgykvksa us viuh [kq'kgkyh vkSj lekurk gkfly djus ds fy,
nwljs èkeks± dks viuk;k gSA byS;k czkã.koknh tkfr O;oLFkk esa fupyh
tkfr dh fganw efgykvksa dk mnkgj.k nsrs gSa ftudk lekt }kjk
cfg"dkj dj fn;k tkrk FkkA mUgsa v)ZuXu gkyr esa jguk iM+rk FkkA
NBh 'krkCnh dh 'kq#vkr esa psjeu is:ey jktifjokj }kjk ,slh
cgqr lkjh efgykvksa dks bLyke viukus ds fy, izsfjr fd;k x;k
ojuk mlls igys rks viuh ^vLi`';rk* ds pyrs bu vkSjrksa dks
viuh iwjh ftanxh ,dkar esa 'kks"k.k >syrs gq, fcrkuh iM+rh FksA
byS;k fy[krs gSa fd bu efgykvksa ds fy, eqfLye iq#"kksa ls izse djuk
lgh vFkks± esa ,d ftgkn FkkA ;g bu fuEutkrh; efgykvksa ds fy,
mRihM+u ds f[kykQ ,d izfrjksèk Fkk D;ksafd blls mudh gSfl;r vkSj
[kq'kgkyh esa btkQk gksrk Fkk vkSj dbZ ek;uksa esa mudks eqfDr feyrh
FkhA byS;k dh jk; esa] vxj Hkkjr esa dqN fir`lÙkkRed rkdrsa
èkek±rj.k dks jksduk pkgrh gSa ;k ß;ks os okdbZ ^yo ftgkn* dks jksduk
pkgrh gSa rks mUgsa reke tkfr;ksa esa Hkkjh lekt lqèkkj 'kq: dj nsus
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pkfg,A ;s lqèkkj vkè;kfRed] lkaLÑfrd gksus pkfg, vkSj muesa
iq#"k&L=h lacaèkksa ij Hkh iwjk è;ku fn;k tkuk pkfg,AÞ
varèkkZfeZd vkSj vartkZrh; fookgksa ds f[kykQ Hk; QSykus ds fy,
mNkys x, ^yo ftgkn* ds ukjs ls ysdj bTtr ds uke ij gksus okyh
fgalk rd vkt tks fofHkUu gFkdaMs viuk, tk jgs gSa vkSj ftl rjg
flfoy iz'kklu o fofèk ra= Hkh bu fookgksa dk leFkZu ugha djuk
pkgrk] mlls varèkkZfeZd vkSj vartkZrh; ikfjokfjd thou ds lkjs
ykHk vkSj lkjh [kqf'k;ka f[kyus ls igys gh u"V gks tkrh gSaA vkflQ
bdcky ,d varèkkZfeZd fookg ds futh lq[k vkSj O;kid lkekftd
ykHkksa dks c;ku djrs gq, Hkkoqd gks tkrs gSa %
ßvarèkkZfeZd fookg dk vkuan bl ckr esa gS fd vki gksyh] fnokyh]
bZn] fØlel] lkjs R;kSgkj euk ldrs gSaA blls gesa vyx&vyx
èkkfeZd jhfr&fjoktksa vkSj fo'oklksa ds ckjs esa ,d rdZlaxr le>
gkfly djus esa Hkh enn feyh gSA nwljs èkeks± ds ckjs esa gekjh tkudkjh
Hkh c<+h gSA
ß'kknh pkgs fdlh Hkh rjg dh tk,] mldh viuh dfBukb;ka gksrh gSaA
èkud ls tqM+s ;qxy vius fefJr fookgksa ds ckjs esa [kq'k gSaA ysfdu ,sls
cSjiw.kZ gkykr esa yxkrkj vkxs c<+rs jguk Hkh vklku ugha gSA ;g ,d
,slh pqukSrh gS tks gj yEgk vkids lkeus jgrh gS D;ksafd vki vius
<ax ls vkSj èkeZ dh viuh le> ds fglkc ls viuh ftanxh th jgs gSaA
varèkkZfeZd lacaèkksa dk ;g Q[kz vkSj le>nkjh gekjh fu;fer cSBdksa
vkSj bZesy vkfn esa lkeus vkus okys futh vuqHkoksa esa Hkh lkQ fn[kkbZ
iM+rh gSaAÞ
^yo ftgkn* ds izksixsaMk ls iSnk gksus okys [krjksa vkSj blds ckotwn
dkuwuh fj;k;rksa ds tfj, izseh ;qxyksa dks feyh dke;kfc;ksa ds ckn
varèkkZfeZd fookgksa esa ,d vge fpark ;g gksrh gS fd ;gka cPps u rks
bl èkeZ ds gksrs gSa vkSj u ml èkeZ ds vkSj fygktk os ,d gn rd
Hkzfer fn[kkbZ nsrs gSaA bl ekeys esa vkflQ bdcky dh jk; esa ,d
rktxh vkSj QdZ gSA ßvly esa dUQ;wt cPps ugha gSa] ge yksx gSaA
cPps rks thou dh fofoèkrkvksa vkSj isphnfx;ksa ls vklkuh ls fuiV
ysrs gSaA eka&cki ds chp QdZ LoLFk fofo/krk dk mnkgj.k Hkh cu
ldrs gSa c'krsZ vki mu ij BaMs fnekx ls vkSj 'kkafr ls cgl djsa vkSj
mudks gy dj ysaA vxj eka&cki lHkh èkeks± dh lekurk esa fo'okl
j[krs gSa vkSj mudk lEeku djrs gSa rks muds chp erHksn lkekU;
fn[kkbZ nsaxs vkSj fygktk ;g lans'k [kqn&c&[kqn cPpkas rd Hkh igqap
tk,xkA ;g cgqr t:jh gS fd eka&cki ds chp èkkfeZd fookn ls
lacafèkr lans'k cPpksa dks Li"V :i ls laizsf"kr fd;k tk, ojuk cPpksa
ds fnyks&fnekx ij cgqr [kjkc vlj iM+rk gS vkSj fQj os [kqn gh
ml erHksn vkSj mlds vlj ls fuiVus ds rjhds <wa<us yxrs gSaAÞ
[kqn vius yacs rtqcsZ ds ckjs esa ckr djrs gq, 'kSytk vkSj tqcSj Hkh
bl ckjs esa cgqr tksj nsdj dgrs gSa fd ,d lQy varèkkZfeZd fookg
dh dke;kch ds fy, ijLij lEeku cgqr egRoiw.kZ gSA 'kSytk ds ikl
fefJr ;qxyksa ds fy, ,d vkSj lykg Hkh gS] ßHkkoh varèkkZfeZd ;qxyksa
dks esjh lykg ;s gS fd fdlh Hkh 'kknh dh cqfu;kn eksgCcr vkSj
,d&nwljs ds izfr bTtr ij [kM+h gksuh pkfg,A xkSj djsa fd blls
nksuksa gh tksMh+nkjksa ds fy, vPNk jgrk gS fd os vkfFkZd :i ls ,d
nwljs ls Lora= gksaA esjk [k;ky gS fd blls vkidks tkfr O;oLFkk]
èkkfeZd rukoksa] fir`lÙkkRed lksp ls djkg jgs lekt esa ;g lkgl
Hkjk dne mBkus dh vktknh vkSj vkRefo'okl feyrk gSAÞ
tqcSj vkSj 'kSytk ds fy, varèkkZfeZd eksgCcr ds 25 lky dk ;g
lQj gh mudh ftanxh dh lcls cM+h [kq'kh vkSj lcls cM+k ljek;k
jgk gSA ;g ,d ,slk rtqZck gS ftls os T;knk ls T;knk yksxksa ds lkFk
ckaVuk pkgrs gSaA varèkkZfeZd fookg ds ykHkksa dks vU; ;qxyksa vkSj
O;kid lekt rd Hkh igqapkus ds vius QSlys dks Li"V djrs gq,
'kSytk crkrh gSa] ßviuh 'kknh dh 25oha lkyfxjg ij eSaus Qslcqd
ij ,d Interfaith Marriage Group 'kq: fd;kA eSa tkuuk
pkgrh Fkh fd vkt ds tekus esa bl rjg ds ;qxyksa ds lkeus fdl
rjg ds elys iSnk gksrs gSa vkSj mudh fdl rjg enn dh tk ldrh
gSA vc bl xzqi ds lk<+s pkj lkS ls T;knk lnL; gks pqds gSaA bl lewg
dh ekQZr eq>s nqfu;k Hkj ds ,sls cgqr lkjs csfelky yksxksa ls feyus
dk ekSdk feyk gS ftudh fnypfLi;ka vkSj i`"BHkwfe esjs tSlh gSA ;gh
esjh bl dksf'k'k dk lcls cM+k bZuke gSA
ukSdj'kkgh vfM+;yiu] ikfjokfjd fojksèk vkSj ;gka rd fd èkefd;ksa
ds ckotwn 'kSytk vkSj tqcSj rFkk bdcky vkSj èkud ds vU;
okWyafV;lZ fouezrkiwoZd bl ckr dks js[kkafdr djrs gSa fd muds
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varlk±LÑfrd fookgksa vkSj ifjokjksa ls ,d ,slk Hkkjrh; lekt jpus
esa cgqr xgjk ;ksxnku gksxk tks fd lekurk vkSj lgu'khyrk dh
cqfu;kn ij [kM+k gksxkA 'kSytk dh izsj.kk vkSj mEehn dks tkWu ysuu
dh dfork ^besftu* ds muds bl ilanhnk m)j.k esa ns[kk tk ldrk
gS%
rqe pkgks rks eq>s LoIun'khZ dg yks
exj eSa vdsyk ugha gwaA
;dhu ekuks] ,d fnu rqe Hkh esjs tSls gks tkvksxsA
---vkSj rc lkjh balkfu;r ,d Mksj esa ca/kh gksxhA
blls igys ;g ys[k
http://goldenroomblog.wordpress.com/2014/02/1
2/dhanak-celebrates-valentines-day/ ij izdkf'kr gks
pqdk gSA
DHANAK and me
By Shailaja Rao
I
have always been interested in the dynamics of
interfaith relationships but wasn't quite sure on
how to go about creating a support group. I joined
Facebook about 5-6 years ago and tried to figure out
what the point of it was -- except for posting
pictures, wishing people on their birthday and
fetching some 'Likes'.
Upon delving into Facebook a bit more, I had an idea.
I decided to start a Facebook group for Interfaith
couples. I had no clue on how to proceed as the
administrator of the group. Starting with a handful of
people, slowly the numbers grew and so did my
involvement. Today the Interfaith Marriage group is
600+ members strong and growing. I have made
excellent connections with various interfaith
organizations and made many dear friends.
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I found DHANAK while doing an online search. I got
fascinated by their passion to work on issues related
to interfaith relationships and felt like they were the
right fit for me. DHANAK's honest effort and
approach on handling a variety of issues resonated
with me. Today I am a member and a volunteer for
DHANAK. I am proud to share the vision of DHANAK
and be in the company of fine people who work
tirelessly while facing many obstacles.
Now more than ever, amidst heightened religious
sensitivity in our social fabric we need to impart all
the support we can to aid organizations like DHANAK.
Only with our support can it persist in accomplishing
the many pressing issues regarding Interfaith and
Inter-caste relationships.
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arèkkZfeZd lacaèkksa dh xfrdh esa ges'kk esjh fnypLih
jgh gS exj cgqr le; rd eq>s ;g le> esa ugha
vkrk Fkk fd bl izlax esa ,d ennxkj lewg dk
xBu dSls fd;k tk,A rdjhcu 5-6 lky igys eSaus Qslcqd
TokWbu fd;k vkSj ;g irk yxkus dh dksf'k'k dh fd rLohjsa iksLV
djus] tUefnu ij yksxksa dks eqckjdckn nsus vkSj ^ykbDl* bdëk
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djus dh reUuk ds vykok Qslcqd dh nqfu;k okLro esa vkSj
D;k&D;k gSA
Qslcqd dh ijrksa esa tkus ij eq>s fLFkfr dqN gn rd le> esa vkus
yxh FkhA fygktk] eSaus Hkh varèkkZfeZd tksM+ksa ds fy, ,d Qslcqd
lewg 'kq: djus dk QSlyk fy;kA eq>s dqN vanktk ugha Fkk fd lewg
dh ,MfefuLVªsVj ds :i esa eq>s D;k djuk gksxkA [kSj] eqëh Hkj
yksxksa ls 'kq: gqvk ;g flyflyk vkxs c<+us yxk vkSj lkFk&lkFk
mlesa esjh fnypLih vkSj lfØ;rk Hkh c<+rh xbZA vkt bl baVjQsFk
eSfjt xzqi@Interfaith Marriage Group ¼varèkkZfeZd
fookg lewg½ esa 600 ls T;knk lnL; gSa vkSj ;g QsgfjLr
fnu&ij&fnu yach gksrh tk jgh gSA eSaus fofHkUu varèkkZfeZd laxBuksa
ds lkFk 'kkunkj rkYyqdkr dk;e fd, gSa vkSj cgqr lkjs deky ds
nksLr ik, gSaA
èkud ds fe=ksa ls esjk ifjp; Hkh ,d vkWuykbZu ryk'k ds nkSjku gh
gqvkA varèkkZfeZd lacaèkksa ij dke djus ds muds tks'k us eq>s QkSju
izHkkfor fd;k vkSj eq>s yxk fd 'kk;n ;gh esjs fy, lcls ekfQd
txg gSA fofHkUu izdkj ds varèkkZfeZd eqíksa ij dke djus dk mudk
rjhdk vkSj bZekunkjh Hkjk joS;k eq>s [kwc jkl vk jgk FkkA vkt eSa
Hkh èkud dh lnL; vkSj okWyafV;j gwaA eq>s bl ckr dk Q[kz gS fd
eSa èkud dh lksp vkSj utfj;s dh okgd gwa vkSj ,sls 'kkunkj yksxksa
dh gelQj gwa tks reke eqf'dyksa ds ckotwn viuh eafty dh rjQ
vFkd c<+s tk jgs gSaA
gekjs lkekftd rkus&ckus esa èkkfeZd Hkkouk,a fnu&ij&fnu eq[kj
gksrh tk jgh gSa blfy, vkt gesa èkud tSls laxBuksa ds fy, gj oks
enn tqVkuh pkfg, tks gekjs fy, eqefdu gSA gekjs tSls yksxksa dh
enn ds ne ij gh èkud varèkkZfeZd vkSj vartkZrh; laca/kksa ls tqM+s
cgqr lkjs xaHkhj vkSj laosnu'khy eqíksa ij viuk y{; gkfly dj
ldrk gSA
Love and companionship matter...
By Kavita Sharma
M
arriage is said to be the most beautiful
institution of love, care, companionship and
friendship.
For me, marriage is a bond of faith, commitment and
understanding between two companions. If one can
understand and respect the values, beliefs and
traditions of his or her partner, then they can lead a
happy married life, irrespective of which religion,
caste or creed they belong to. Spending 14
memorable years with my life partner Jamshed
Khan, under the same roof, all I can say is I am
blessed.
I never imagined leading a married life with a person
of another religion, but practically things have not
been that difficult for me.
Initially, it was a tough job for both of us to convince
our families, as I belong to a traditional Brahmin
family and he belongs to a Muslim Pathan family. But
we made sure that we will not hurt the sentiments of
our parents and will only marry when we are
accepted.
Finally, miracle happened and both of us were
accepted in each other families. So all I can say is
that mine was an arranged HinduMuslim marriage.
All marriages require faith, love and commitment
towards each other. Even in arranged marriages
people are unhappy. Every day we witness so many
divorce cases in arranged marriages.
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Nowadays, interfaith and inter-religious marriages
are common. Everyone needs a companion in life so
how does it matter, if he is not from your caste and
religion. In our society where marriage is very
important for an individual then why not everyone be
free to choose a life partner of his or her choice?
This month we will be completing fourteen
wonderful years of our marriage. We have been
fighting and arguing on various issues, but religion
has never been a part of our disagreements.
feels proud to be a child of HinduMuslim parents. She
says she is lucky to enjoy the rituals and traditions of
both religions.
She recites "Qalma'' as well as "Gayatri Mantra". Lord
Ganesha is her favorite God. It gives me pleasure to
observe "Karwa Chauth fast" for my husband and I do
so. All festivals in my family are celebrated with joy
and happiness.
Every religion teaches us about moral values and we
must follow them and enjoy our lives.
Our daughter Mahie who is ten years old now also
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eksgCcr vkSj fnynkjh Hkh vge gS--& dfork 'kekZ
grs gSa fd 'kknh nks yksxksa ds chp eksgCcr] fQØeanh]
lkgp;Z vkSj nksLrh dh lcls [kwclwjr laLFkk gSA
esjs fy, 'kknh nks tksM+hnkjksa ds chp vkLFkk] izfrc)rk vkSj
le>nkjh dk caèku gSA vxj ,d O;fDr vius@viuh tksM+hnkj dh
ewY;&ekU;rkvksa] fo'oklksa vkSj ijaijkvksa dks le> ldrk] le>
ldrh gS] mudks lEeku ns ldrk@ldrh gS rks os ,d [kq'kgky
'kknh'kqnk ftanxh th ldrs gSa] pkgs mudk èkeZ] tkfr] iaFk dksbZ Hkh
D;ksa u gksA vius thou lkFkh te'ksn [kku ds lkFk ,d gh Nr ds
uhps fcrk, x, 14 ;knxkj lkyksa ds ckn eSa ;gh dg ldrh gwa fd
eSa cgqr [kq'kfdLer gwaA
eSaus dHkh dYiuk Hkh ugha dh Fkh fd eSa ,d fnu fdlh nwljs èkeZ ds
O;fDr ds lkFk viuk lkjk thou fcrkÅaxh exj eSa [kq'kulhc jgh
fd esjs fy, fLFkfr;ka T;knk eqf'dy u FkhaA 'kq: esa ge nksuksa ds fy,
;g ,d eqf'dy dke Fkk fd vius ?kjokyksa dks dSls jkth fd;k
tk,A eSa ,d ijaijkxr czkã.k ifjokj ls rkYyqd j[krh gwa vkSj
te'ksn ,d eqfLye iBku ifjokj ls vkrs gSaA exj geus bl ckr
dk [k;ky j[kk fd ge u rks vius eka&cki dh Hkkoukvksa dks Bsl
igqapk,axs vkSj u gh mudh jtkeanh ds fcuk 'kknh djsaxsA vkf[kjdkj
;s dfj'ek Hkh gqvk vkSj ge nksuksa dks gekjs ifjokjksa esa Lohdkj dj
fy;k x;kA eSa rks ;gh dg ldrh gwa fd esjs 'kknh ,d vjsaTM
fganw&eqfLye 'kknh FkhA
lHkh 'kkfn;ksa esa ijLij vkLFkk] izse vkSj izfrc)rk dh t:jr gksrh
gSA buds fcuk cgqèkk vjsaTM 'kkfn;ksa esa Hkh yksx uk[kq'k jgrs gSaA gj
jkst vnkyrksa esa vjsaTM eSfjtksa ds u tkus fdrus rykd ds ekeys
lquokbZ ds fy, yxs jgrs gSaA
vktdy varèkkZfeZd fookg vke gksrs tk jgs gSaA lHkh dks ftanxh esa
fdlh u fdlh dh t:jr gksrh gSA fygktk blls D;k QdZ iM+rk gS
fd og O;fDr vkidh tkfr ;k èkeZ ls gS ;k ughaA tc gekjs lekt
esa lHkh ds fy, 'kknh bruk Hkkjh egRo j[krh gS rks ,slk D;ksa u ,slk
fd;k tk, fd ge lHkh dks viuh ethZ ls viuk@viuh thou
lkFkh pquus dh vktknh ns nsa\
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bl eghus gekjh 'kknh ds 14 cs'kdherh lky iwjs gks tk,axsA ge
reke eqíksa ij yM+rs&>xM+rs jgs gSa] cgl djrs jgs gSa exj èkeZ
gekjs erHksn vkSj rukruh dk elyk dHkh ugha cukA
gekjh csVh ekgh vc 10 lky dh gksus dks vkbZ vkSj mldks Hkh
fganw&eqfLye eka&cki dh larku gksus dk Q[kz gSA og dgrh gS fd
mls nksuksa èkeks± ds jhfr&fjokt vkSj ijaijkvksa esa etk vkrk gSA ;g
mlds fy, lkSHkkX; dh ckr gSA
og dyek Hkh i<+ ysrh gS vkSj xk;=h ea= HkhA x.ks'k mlds fiz;
nsork gSaA eq>s vius ifr ds fy, ^djok pkSFk* dk ozr j[kus esa cgqr
larks"k feyrk gS vkSj eSa bls fu;e ls fuHkkrh gwaA esjs ifjokj esa lkjs
R;kSgkj [kq'kh ls vkSj eLrh ls euk, tkrs gSaA
gj etgc gesa ,d tSls uSfrd ewY; fl[kkrk gSA gesa ykfteh rkSj
ij mudk ikyu djuk pkfg, vkSj ftanxh dk etk ysuk pkfg,A
Is religion that important?
Isn't love enough?
By Ajaz
W
ith the recent changes in the world, there
has been quite a lot of aspirations and at
the same time, ambiguity related to the
future.
We, the present generation of this country, have got
choices to make. It's the first time that we have this
freedom, to decide and nurture what our future
world will be. It's indeed a big responsibility. The
times are changing, and the change is us. We need to
be the positive change, the vibrant energy that can
drive the nation to a world of happiness, liberty and
humanism. And the special power need to fuel this
change is what we already have love.
We can cite a number of examples, where religious
differences are twisted, broken, and then showcased
in a new face, just to attain popularity, to gain
political benefits, and ultimately the power to
control millions.
Who are they? Who gave them this power?
The answer is, they are humans like us, and it's we
who gave them this power.
Now the question is why? The answer is, it's because
of our belief system. And this belief system is
imposed on us, through a term called 'Religion'.
What is Religion? Have you ever tried to
conceptualize, from where this term came.
Religion is difficult to define. However, it has
numerous definitions across the world by numerous
philosophers.
Spiritual leader Dalai Lama says, “This is my simple
religion. There is no need for temples; no need for
complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own
heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.”
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One of the greatest leaders Abraham Lincoln said,
“When I do good, I feel good. When I do bad, I feel
bad. That's my religion.”
Social reformist of India B.R. Ambedkar said, “I like
the religion that teaches liberty, equality and
fraternity.”
These sayings were not individualistic views. They
were to make us think, to make us question what we
have been following.
Religions were created by us, humans, to have faith,
hope, trust in god, the omnipresent, super power
who created this world.
However, traditions, culture, practices came along,
and with this came competition, comparison,
difference of views and beliefs, as imposed by
several religious leaders.
And this led to clashes, violence in the name of
religion, contests in proving which religion is better,
than the other. This only brought hate.
A Hindu guy or his family, might seem liberal to
accept guy's Muslim friends, as his companions
during his early days of life, school, college, work,
but when it comes to choosing bride, they would
select a girl from the same religion, same caste.
Same goes with Muslim families or other religions as
well.
Did god made the differences?
No, every human being was/is created with same set
of features. Equal in all sense.
So, isn't love, understanding, care, trust enough?
Does her/his religion affect the relation you are
going to have with that human being you are going to
spend your entire life with? It doesn't.
The time has come, that we get ahead of this old
belief system, disapprove wrong beliefs, practices,
and appreciate people for their actions, for what
they actually are, irrespective of religion.
Choice of religion is a voluntary decision, and
everyone has the freedom to follow practices they
want to follow.
Same should be the case with choosing your life
partner. Everyone should have the freedom to
choose their partners, irrespective of their faith.
Inter-faith couples can be the fore-runners of the
modern world, who will be free of hatred, who will
respect all the religions, the symbols of unity and
peace, and who can lead this country ahead, free of
regionalism, bureaucracy, chaos, and uncertainty.
As we conclude, we can say, religion is there to
spread love, peace, harmony among humans.
Keep loving, caring...and thinking.
The reason being difference in religion, culture, and
belief.
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D;k etgc bruk vge gS\
D;k flQZ eksgCcr dkQh ugha gS\
c
& ,tkt+
hrs lkyksa ds nkSjku nqfu;k esa tks cnyko vk, gSa mudh
cnkSyr yksxksa ds [okckssa dks ubZ mM+ku rks feyh gS exj
lkFk gh Hkfo"; dks ysdj ,d vLi"Vrk Hkh iSnk gqbZ gSA
bl ns'k dh ekStwnk ih<+h] ;kuh ge yksxksa ds ikl QSlys ysus dh dqN
vktknh gSA igyh ckj ,slk gks jgk gS fd gekjs ikl ;g r; djus
dh vktknh gS fd ge vkus okyh nqfu;k dks D;k 'kDy nsuk pkgrs gSaA
,d cgqr cM+h ftEesnkjh gS ge ijA tekuk cny jgk gS vkSj ;g
cnyko gkeh gSaA gesa ,d ldkjkRed cnyko] ,d thoar ÅtkZ dk
:i ysuk gksxk tks bl eqYd dks [kq'kgkyh] eqfDr vkSj balkfu;r dh
nqfu;k esa ys tk ldsA vkSj bl cnyko dks lkdkj djus ds fy, tks
[kkl rkdr pkfg, oks igys ls gekjs ikl gS & I;kjA
gekjs ikl ,slh fdruh gh felkysa gSa tc èkkfeZd erHksnksa dks u;k jax
fn;k x;k gS] èkeksZa dh vuki&'kuki O;k[;k,a dh xbZ gSa rkfd
yksdfiz;rk gkfly dh tk lds] fl;klh Qk;ns mBk, tk ldsa vkSj
gqdqer ij dCtk fd;k tk ldsA
dkSu gSa ;s yksx\dkSu gS tks mUgsa ;g rkdr nsrk gS\
bldk tokc gS gekjs tSls balkuA ge gh gSa tks mUgsa ;g rkdr nsrs
gSaA vc loky ;g mBrk gS fd D;ksa\tokc ;g gS fd blds fy,
gekjh lksp ftEesnkj gSA ;g lksp ^èkeZ* ;k ^etgc* uke dh 'k; dh
vkM+ ysdj ge ij ykn nh tkrh gSA
vkSj] ;g èkeZ ;k etgc gS D;k\D;k dHkh vkius bl ckr ij lkspk
gS fd ;g 'kCn vk;k dgka ls gS\
èkeZ ;k etgc dks ifjHkkf"kr djuk cgqr dfBu gSA vyx&vyx
nkSj esa vkSj vyx&vyx ns'kksa esa u tkus fdrus QylfQ;ksa vkSj
nkfu'keanksa us bldh vufxur ifjHkk"kk,a nh gSaA
nykbZ ykek dgrs gSa] ß;gh esjk ljy lk èkeZ gSA blds fy,
eafnj&efLtnksa dh njdkj ughaA blesa yacs&pkSM+s n'kZuksa dh Hkh dksbZ
txg ughaA gekjk viuk fnekx] gekjk viuk fny gh gekjk eafnj
gSA n;kyqrk gh gekjk n'kZu gSAÞ
vczkge fyadu ds eqrkfcd] ßtc eSa dqN vPNk djrk gwa rks eq>s
vPNk yxrk gSA tc eSa dqN cqjk djrk gwa rks eq>s cqjk yxrk gSA ;gh
esjk èkeZ gSAÞ
lekt lqèkkjd ch-vkj- vacsMdj us dgk Fkk] ßeq>s oks èkeZ ilan gS
tks eqfDr] lekurk vkSj HkkbZpkjs dk ikB i<+krk gksAÞ
;s dFku flQZ O;fDrxr jk; ugha gSaA ;s gesa lkspus&fopkjus] tks dqN
ge vHkh rd djrs vk jgs gSa ml ij loky [kM+k djus ds fy,
izsfjr djus ds rjhds Hkh gSaA
èkeZ dh jpuk ge balkuksa us gh dh gS rkfd ge ml ije 'kfDr ij
vkLFkk] mEehn vkSj Hkjkslk j[k ldsa ftlus bl nqfu;k dks jpk gSA
exj èkhjs&èkhjs ijaijk,a] laLÑfr;ka] thus ds rkSj&rjhds lkeus vk,
vkSj blh ds lkFk vyx&vyx xqVksa esa izfrLièkkZ] rqyuk] erHksn Hkh
'kq: gq, tks dbZ èkeZ xq#vksa dh dkjLrkuh dk urhtk FksA
;gka ls èkeZ ds uke ij] dkSu lk èkeZ csgrj gS ;g lkfcr djus ds
uke ij Vdjkoksa vkSj fgalk dk flyflyk 'kq: gqvkA uQjr iSnk
gqbZA
dksbZ fganw yM+dk ;k mldk ifjokj Ldwy] dkWyst] n¶rj esa fdlh
eqfLye yM+ds dks nksLr cukus ds ekeys esa mnkj fn[kkbZ nsrk gSA exj
tc nqYgu pquus dk loky vkrk gS rks ogh ifjokj vius gh èkeZ]
viuh gh tkfr dh yM+dh pquus ij vM+ tkrk gSA
;gh dgkuh eqlyekuksa esa vkSj reke nwljs èkeksZa esa Hkh jkst fy[kh tk
jgh gSA otg flQZ ;g crkbZ tkrh gS fd gekjs vkSj muds èkeZ]
laLÑfr vkSj ewY;&ekU;rkvksa esa QdZ gSA
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D;k ;g QdZ Hkxoku us cuk;k gS\
th ugha] balku rks lHkh ,d tSlh 'kDy&lwjr vkSj ,d tSlh lhjr
ysdj iSnk gq, gSaA ge lkjs rks ,d tSls gSaA
rks D;k flQZ I;kj] le>nkjh] fQØeanh vkSj ,d&nwljs ij Hkjkslk
gh dkQh ugha gS\
D;k fdlh dk etgc mu lacaèkksa dks Hkh r; dj ldrk gS tks vki
ml 'k[l ds lkFk cukus tk jgs gSa ftlds lkFk vki viuh iwjh
ftanxh fcrkus dh [okfg'k j[krs gSa\th ughaA
vc oDr vk pqdk gS fd ge bl iqjkuh lksp ls vkxs fudysa] >wBs
fo'oklksa dk [kkfjt djsa] yksxksa dks muds dkeksa ds vkèkkj ij ljkgus
dh vknr MkysaA bl vkèkkj ij mudh ljkguk djuk lh[ksa fd os
okLro esa D;k gSa] u fd bl vkèkkj ij fd os fdl èkeZ ls gSaA
èkeZ pquuk ,d LoSfPNd QSlyk gksrk gS vkSj gjsd dks og èkeZ pquus
dh vktknh gS ftl ij og vey djuk pkgrk gSA ;gh ckr thou
lkFkh pquus ds loky ij Hkh ykxw gksrh gSA gjsd dks viuh ethZ ls
viuk@viuh thou lkFkh pquus dh vktknh gksuh pkfg, pkgs fdlh
dk èkeZ dqN Hkh D;ksa u gksA
varèkkZfeZd tksM+s vkus okyh nqfu;k ds iFkizn'kZd gSa & ,d ,slh
nqfu;k tks uQjr ls vktkn gksxh] tgka lc èkeksZa dk cjkcj vknj
gksxk] tks ,drk vkSj 'kkafr dk izrhd gksxh] vkSj tks bl ns'k dks
{ks=okn] vQlj'kkgh] vQjkrQjh vkSj vfuf'prrk ls vktkn
djds vkxs ys tk ldrh gSA
ge ;dhu ls dg ldrs gSa fd èkeZ nqfu;k Hkj ds yksxksa esa I;kj] 'kkafr
vkSj ln~Hkko QSykus dk ,d tfj;k Hkj gSA
rks tukc vki Hkh I;kj djrs jfg,] fQØ djrs jfg,--- vkSj lksprs
jfg,A
Highly Recommended: Love Jihad
By Natasha
F
or These days I call myself a Love Jihadi. It
amuses me no end.
My husband was in the office of the local electricity
supply office a few days ago, trying to inspire the
officers to restore the electricity connection to a
factory space he is in charge of.
“We cannot come in the way of nation-building,” he
was saying. “You and I must contribute towards this
collective goal. Restoring electricity to this factory is
your duty towards the nation's economic growth.”
He turned to look towards me to make sure I was
playing my role of important-looking-mediawalla
who must not be messed with. I was distracted. “I'm
just a Love Jihadi,” I was
thinking in my head, but I
quickly tried to look stern
and cross at the same
time.
Our children are learning to read Arabic on the
weekends these days. They made good progress in
the early weeks and then began to look like their
heart wasn't in it.
“Tell them stories,” I said to their teacher. “They like
stories.”
Last Saturday, my daughters came to me and began
to tell me the story of Prophet Musa and King Fir'aun.
“The king had a dream that a baby boy would be born
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who would grow up and kill him.”
“Just like King Kansa,” I added, getting excited.
“He ordered that all newborn boys should be killed.
So Musa's parents put him in a basket and set him
afloat in the Nile river to save his life.”
“Just like Krishna! I mean like Karna,” I said.
It was fascinating. After this I behaved myself and
listened to the story quietly. My eyes big like dinner
plates.
Afzal and I got married in 2002. Both of us had
witnessed the aftermath of the riots in Gujarat that
year. He had gone to volunteer in the refugee camps
after I had returned from a work assignment.
My friends, Barkha, Rachna and I had been filming in
Vadodara when some people drove up to us in a
Honda City. A young woman, younger than both of us,
came up to us and said she had been looking for us
since she had heard that our team had arrived in
Vadodara. She wanted us to visit her home.
It looked like the Greater Kailash-1 of Vadodara when
we drove into Ayesha's neighbourhood. Her home had
been set ablaze by rioters. Some parts of the floor
were still so hot that it was not safe for us to enter
every room. A charred refrigerator, a heap of ash
where the dining table had been. I remember the
shoes I was wearing as I stepped over the rubble
filming the devastation with my video camera.
Barkha was talking to Ayesha and some other people
in her family. There was a wrought-iron swing in their
lawn. I touched it tentatively. That swing was life.
Their life as it had been.
In November 1984, my brothers and I had gone to the
roof of our DDA flat in New Delhi to witness a mob
setting fire to a white corner house in Panchsheel
Enclave. The home had been looted the night before
and the Sikh family had fled to safety. For years I
used to peer outside the window of my school bus,
staring at the ruined home every day.
“They won't come back,” my brother had explained
to me. “They will probably sell this off for whatever
it is worth.”
Our hearts break and somehow they keep working.
Lives are ruined and people get back to building their
homes again. We lose hope and then we find it again.
It's trendy to be cynical but we are all creating,
restoring, healing, trying to put back broken pieces
all the time.
The first time I began to have a conversation with our
firstborn about why we were celebrating Eid even
though her school was not, she interrupted me to let
me know what she knew.
“I know, Mamma,” she said. “Prateeksha told me.”
“What did she say?”
“She said I am a Pandit, you are a Muslim.”
“Excellent,” I thought. “Good job, Prateeksha.”
It's weird when you look at it in isolation. We are
encouraged to hate. Love is hated. Hate is loved. If I
can hate vocally and violently, I'm in. Love means go
and stand outside the classroom and reflect on what
you did wrong. It can get me expelled.
But Love Jihadis are sneaky. They are good at love.
We can love you even if you insist on hating us.
After our visit to the electricity supply office, my
husband took me to the local police station. He
needed to file an FIR to report a missing electricity
meter.
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“I'm a journalist,” I practised in my head a few times
in case I might need to whip out this sentence to
inspire anyone to do the work they were being paid
to do anyway. We must have looked menacing enough
because the paperwork got done smoothly. I stared
at a man sitting on his haunches in the corner. His
wrists were tied together with a jute rope that was
then tied to the iron window grill next to him.
“I want to go to the temple,” I said to my husband as
we walked out. We walked across the road from the
v
police station to a swanky new Jain temple.
My seven-year-old daughter's words echoed in my
head as I crossed the threshold into the inner
sanctum.
“Mamma, can we go to a temple even if we don't
pray?”
(This was first published in Mint Lounge here:
http://www.livemint.com/Leisure/74MdYokXsAU
TJBLk0yLcvJ/Highly-Recommended-LoveJihad.html )
yo ftgkn
& urk'kk
ktdy eq>s [kqn dks ,d yo ftgknh dgus dk 'kkSd
pjkZ;k gS! ;g tqeyk eq>s fdl dnj xqnxqnkrk gS]
crk ugha ldrhA esjs ifr dqN fnu igys fctyh
okyksa ds n¶rj esa x, Fks] ;g vtZ djus fd muds rgr vkus okyh
,d QSDVjh dk fctyh dk dusD'ku dkV fn;k x;k gS ftls nksckjk
cgky dj fn;k tk,A
fctyh okyksa ls mUgksaus dgk fd ßge jk"Vª fuekZ.k ds jkLrs esa ugha
vk ldrsA eq>s vkSj rqEgsa] feydj bl lk>k y{; dh rjQ c<+uk
gSA bl QSDVjh dh fctyh cgky djuk ns'k dh vkfFkZd izxfr ds
fy, vkidk QtZ gSAÞ
mUgksaus ,d ckj eqM+dj esjh rjQ ns[kk] ;g ;dhu djus ds fy, fd
eSa ,d xaHkhj ehfM;k okyh dh Hkwfedk lgh <ax ls vatke ns jgh gwa
;k ugha D;ksafd ,sls O;fDr ds lkFk iaxk ysuk yksxksa dks Bhd ugha
yxrkA exj esjk è;ku dgha vkSj FkkA esjs tgu esa ;gh py jgk Fkk
fd eSa ß,d yo ftgknh gwaAÞ [kSj] exj vius ifr dh vka[kksa ls
vka[k feyrs gh esjh utjksa esa Hkh ,d l[rh vk xbZ vkSj eSa eqLrSnh
ls viuk jksy vnk djus yxhA
gekjs cPps vktdy 'kfuokj] brokj dks vjch Hkk"kk lh[k jgs gSaA
'kq: esa mUgksaus vPNh dksf'k'k dh exj tYnh gh yxus yxk fd blesa
mudk fny ugha yx jgk gSA eSaus muds mLrkn lkgc dks dgk]
ßmudks dgkfu;ka lqukb,] esjs cPpksa dks dgkuh ilan gSaAÞ
fiNys 'kfuokj dks esjh csVh esjs ikl vk;h vkSj eq>s iSxacj ewlk
vkSj ckn'kkg QSjksu dh dgkuh lqukus yxhA
ßckn'kkg dks ,d liuk vk;k fd ,d NksVk lk yM+dk dgha iSnk
gksxk tks cM+k gksdj mldks ekj nsxkAÞ
ßdal dh rjg!Þ eSaus dgkuh esa viuh rjQ ls tksM+kA
ßmlus gqDe fn;k fd lkjs yM+dksa dks iSnk gksrs gh ekj fn;k tk,A
rc ewlk ds eka&cki us mls ,d Vksdjh esa j[kdj uhy unh ds ikuh
esa cgk fn;k fd 'kk;n dksbZ mls cpk ysxkAÞ
ßfcYdqy Ñ".k dh rjg!esjk eryc d.kZ dh rjgÞ] eSaus cksykA
;g cM+k etsnkj rtqckZ FkkA blds ckn eSa lathnxh ls vkSj pqipki
mldh dgkuh lquus yxhA esjh vka[ksa vpjt ls QSy jgh FkhaA
vQty vkSj eSaus 2002 esa 'kknh dh FkhA ge nksuksa ml lky xqtjkr
naxksa dh foHkhf"kdk ds ckn ds gkykr ns[k pqds FksA tc eSa vius ,d
dke ls ykSVh rks ge nksuksa jkgr f'kfojksa esa okWyafV;j ds rkSj ij
enn djus x, FksA
esjh lgsyh cj[kk] jpuk vkSj eSa oMksnjk esa fQYe cuk jgs Fks fd
rHkh gksaMk flVh esa cSBs dqN yksx gekjs ikl vkdj #dsA ,d ;qorh]
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tks ge rhuksa ls mez esa de Fkh] dkj ls fudy dj gekjs ikl vkbZ
vkSj cksyh fd og rHkh ls gesa <wa< jgh gS tc ls mlus lquk fd
gekjh Vhe oMksnjk vkbZ gqbZ gSA oks pkgrh Fkh fd ge mlds ?kj
vk,aA
tc ge vk;'kk uke dh bl yM+dh ds eksgYys esa igqaps rks ogka
fnYyh ds xzsVj dSyk'k I tSlk utkjk FkkA exj] mlds ?kj dks
naxkb;ksa us tyk fn;k FkkA Q'kZ ds dqN fgLls vHkh Hkh brus xeZ Fks
fd mu ij iSj j[kuk equkflc ugha FkkA tyk gqvk fÝt] Mkbfuax
Vscy dh txg jk[k dk <sjA vius fofM;ks dSejs ds lkFk rckgh ds
bl eatj dh fQYe mrkjrs gq, esjk ikao tc bl eycs ij iM+k esjs
ftLe esa ,d daidaih lh eglwl gqbZA cj[kk vk;'kk vkSj mlds
?kjokyksa ls ckr dj jgh FkhA muds ykWu esa yksgs dk ,d >wyk gqvk
djrk FkkA eSaus cM+s ukeglwl <ax ls mls NqvkA dy rd ;g >wyk
ftanxh dk xokg FkkA bu yksxksa dh galh&[kqf'k;ksa dk gejkgA
uoacj 1984 esa eSa vkSj esjk HkkbZ iap'khy ,Udyso esa vius MhMh,
¶ySV dh Nr ls mUeRr HkhM+ dks dksus okys lQsn edku esa vkx
yxkrs ns[k jgs FksA fiNyh jkr dks ml ?kj dks ywV fy;k x;k FkkA
ogka jgus okyk flD[k ifjokj fgQktr dh mEehn esa ogka ls Hkkx
pqdk FkkA lkyksa rd eSa jkst viuh Ldwy cl dh f[kM+dh ls ml
rckg edku dks ns[krh jghA
esjs HkkbZ us eq>s crk;k Fkk] ßos yksx vc ugha ykSVsaxsA vc T;knk ls
T;knk os bls csp nsaxs] pkgs tks Hkh dher feysAÞ
gekjs fny VwVrs gSa vkSj u tkus dSls os dke Hkh djrs jgrs gSaA
ftanfx;ka rckg gks tkrh gSa vkSj yksx fQj ls vius ?kj&edkuksa dh
rkehj esa yx tkrs gSaA ge mEehn [kks nsrs gSa vkSj fQj mEehn geesa
tUe ysus yxrh gSA vkRedsafnzr gksuk vktdy QS'ku dh ckr gS
exj ge lHkh gj oDr jpus] phtksa dks fQj ls pykus] ?kkoksa ij
ejge yxkus] VwVs&fc[kjs VqdM+ksa dks fQj ls ,d&nwljs ls tksM+us esa
yxs jgrs gSaA
igyh ckj tc gekjs igys cPps us iwNk Fkk fd ge bZn D;ksa eukrs gSa
tcfd mlds Ldwy esa rks bZn ugha eukbZ tkrh rks esjs tokc nsus ls
igys gh mlus eq>s Vksd dj crk;k Fkk fd mldks D;k dqN igys ls
ekywe gSA
ßeq>s ekywe gS eEek] izrh{kk us eq>s crk;k FkkAÞ
ßD;k crk;k mlus\Þ
mlus dgk fd ßeSa iafMr gwa] rqe eqlyeku gksAÞ
ßcgqr [kwcÞ] eSaus lkspkA ßcgqr vPNs] izrh{kk!Þ
vxj ge bl ckrphr dks iwjs lanHkZ ls dkV dj ns[ksa rks cM+k csrqdk
yxsxkA gesa uQjr ds fy, c<+kok fn;k tkrk gSA eksgCcr ls uQjr
fl[kkbZ tkrh gSA uQjr gekjh egcwck gSA eSa ftruk cqyan vkokt
esa vkSj ftruk fgald <ax ls uQjr dj ldrh gwa] eSa mruk gh
nenkj ekuh tkÅaxhA eksgCcr dk eryc gS ^tkvks tkdj d{kk ds
ckgj tkdj [kM+s gks tkvks vkSj lkspks fd rqeus D;k ukikd gjdr
dj Mkyh gS!* blds ,ot esa Ldwy ls esjk uke Hkh dV ldrk gSA
exj yo ftgknh cM+s <hB gksrs gSaA os I;kj djus esa ekfgj gksrs gSaA
ge ,sls yksx gSa tks rc Hkh rqEgsa I;kj dj ldrs gSa tc rqe gels
uQjr djrs gksA fctyh n¶rj ls ykSVus ds ckn esjs ifr eq>s ikl
ds Fkkus esa ysdj x,A mUgsa fctyh ds ,d ehVj dh pksjh dh
,QvkbZvkj Hkh ntZ djkuh FkhA
dksbZ gekjh ckr ij roTtks u ns vkSj eSa viuh Hkwfedk fuHkkus esa
yM+[kM+k u tkÅa blfy, vius eu gh eu esa eSa ckj&ckj ;g dgus
dk vH;kl dj jgh Fkh fd ßeSa ,d i=dkj gwaAÞ t:j ge mu yksxksa
dks 'kSrkuh vkRek,a yxh gksaxh D;ksafd lkjk dkxth dke QVkQV
eqdEey gks x;k FkkA dksus esa ,d vkneh ?kqVuksa ij flj j[kdj
mdMwa cSBk FkkA mldh dykb;ka lu dh jLlh ls caèkh Fkh vkSj jLlh
dk nwljk fljk f[kM+dh ds taxys ls caèkk FkkA
ßeq>s eafnj tkuk gSÞ] eSaus vius ifr ls dgk vkSj ge ckgj fudy
vk,A Fkkus ds ckgj vkdj geus lM+d ikj dh vkSj ,d vkyh'kku
u, tSu eafnj esa nkf[ky gks x,A
eafnj ds Hkhrjh d{k dh ngyht ikj djrs gq, esjs fny esa esjh lkr
lky dh 'kgtknh ds y¶t xwat jgs Fks % ßvEek] vxj geas iwtk u
djuh gks rks Hkh D;k ge eafnj tk ldrs gSa\Þ
;g ys[k igys
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A MINOR DETAIL
DON'T KILL THEM WHO LOVE
Anonymous
Lee Macqueen
I thought…
I aspire for a nation where love is not incarcerated
Nor is there a need for (couple) protection homes
Where it is free to manifest itself in human beings
And not ripped of its sanctity to maintain the social order.
You would be my partner, my future forever.
I thought…
Rituals were insignificant,
Just a minor detail for us to be together!
I thought…
You would agree. But you did not.
Rituals challenged your identity,
The 'you'!
I did not see this earlier. But I know it now.
Did I not fall in love with 'you'?
Yes.
I aspire for a nation where love can bloom and flourish
Where in the name of caste and religion it is not maimed,
A place where it can chart out its own course
And a time when it will have more defenders than stranglers!
I aspire for a nation where Love will be the ultimate goal
Humanity, Justice, Equality and Freedom as pillars to this
vision
Guarded from the brutality in the name of 'Family and
Societal Honour'
Embraced by all as the only path to salvation of soul.
I did not fall in love with the picture
..of how I wanted you to be.
YOU TAUGHT ME…
Or …of how my family wanted you to be.
Shamiya Mirza Patel
I fell in love with you.
You taught me to SPEAK,
But now you have suppressed my VOICE.
You taught me to EXPRESS,
But now you can't understand my EXPRESSIONS.
You taught me to CARE,
But now you have created FEAR.
You taught me to LEAD,
But now you want me to FAIL.
You taught me to FLY,
But now you have DETACHED my wings.
You taught me to LOVE,
But now you want it to be DISCRIMINATED.
You taught me to be HUMAN,
But now you are being INHUMAN.
You taught me HONOUR (Respect),
But now you consider it WOEFUL for your ego.
You say it your PRIDE, but I say it CRIME.
Stop the SHAME, Stop HONOR KILLING!
So, if we were to restart our journey,
The details would surely be different.
I would leave..
…those irrelevant details and rituals behind.
I see how the 'us' exists
because of how different we are!
And how similar we are!
It took me time to realize this.
I am blessed,
You are my partner, my present, my future.
We are not perfect.
But that's just a minor detail.
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cnyko dh mEehn---
fi
oSfHkU; gh thou dk eylw= gS
vkfny
Nyk o”kZ cM+k mEehn dk lky jgkA fgUnqLrku ds
bfrgkl esa 'kk;n igyh ckj fdlh Hkh pquko dk brus
cMs+ iSekus ij izpkj&izlkj gqvkA v[kckj] jsfM;ks o
lks'ky ehfM;k dksbZ Hkh txg cph ugh FkhA vki pkgsa ;k u pkgsa]
vki dks bl gks&gYys dk fgLlkk cuuk gh FkkA bl ls dksbZ QdZ
ugh iM+rk fd vki dh jktuhfr esa fnypLih gS ;k ugh] vki
ilUn djsa ;k u djsa] exj vki bls bXkuksj ugh dj ldrs FksA
gkykWfd futh rkSj ij esjk jktuhfr ls vyxko ugh gS] ij ;g
lc gesa ;k fQj ;wW dgWw fd eq>s dSls vlj djrk gS t:j lkspus
vkSj 'kk;n esjs fy[kus dh otg gSA
esjk ;g ekuuk gS fd fdlh Hkh pht dks tkus oxSj ml ij jk;
dk;e ugh djuh pkfg,A ;gh esjh lksp] gekjs ekStwnk iz/kku ea=h
ujsUnz eksnh ds fy, Hkh jgh gSA mudh tks Hkh vkykspuk,sa jgh gksa]
ij mudh nks ckrsa ljkguh; FkhA ,d muds nkSj esa xqtjkr esa vkbZa
vkfFkZd izxfr vkSj nwljh tehauh usrk gksus ds ukrs yksaxksa ds lkFk
muds tqM+ko dh] tks esjh ut+j esa 'kk;n yxkrkj mudh rjDdh ;k
thr dh otg FkhA cgqr lkjs ukjs vkSj 'yksxu tSls *lcdk lkFk
lcdk fodkl* 'kk;n bl ckr dk ,glkl fnykrs Fks fd] lcdks
lkFk ysdj pyus dh lksp dkfcys rkjhQ gS vkSj mldk lkFk fn;k
tkuk pkfg,A
eSa fujk'kkoknh ugh cuuk pkgrkA ysfdu] ,d ubZ ckr eSausa fiNys
8&9 eghuksa es tkuh] le>h vkSj lh[kh gSA 'kk;n bl ls bruk
QdZ ugh iM+rk gS fd th-Mh-ih- 6 izfr'kr ls c<dj 9 gks xbZ]
isV~ksy 73 :- yhVj gS ;k 86 gks x;k] VekVj ds nke fdrus ?kV
;k c< x;s gSaA exj bl ls QdZ iM+rk gS fd eSa ?kj ls ckgj fudYkWw
rks esjs vUnj ;g Hk; ;k fpark u gks fd esjk uke vkfny gS ;k esjh
iRuh fdlh vkSj /keZ ls gSA eq>s ftu ckrksa dk Qdz gksuk pkfg, mls
crkrs gq,s dksbZ [kkSQ u gksA
vkfFkZd izxfr lkekftd <kWps vkSj lksp ij cnyko yk ik,sxh ;k
fQj t+ehuh gdhdr tkuus dk eryc mlesa cnyko ykus fd ,d
lPph dksf'k'k gksxh] ;g nksuksa Hkze VwVs gSaA D;k QdZ iMs+xk vxj
fcuk VekVj dh lCt+h [kk ysaxsa ;k fQj viuh xkM+h ds ctk;
ifCyd V~kaliksVZ dk bLrseky dj ysaxsaA exj ;g tks t+guh x+jhch
gS] mldk cM+k QdZ iM+rk gSA gekjh bl Mseksdzslh ls vPNk rks
HkwVku gS tgkW Hkys gh jkt 'kkgh gS vkSj mudh th-Mh-ih- 'kk;n
ge ls de gS] exj oks th-,u-ih- (xzkWl us'kuy gSIihusl)
le>rs gSA
gkYkkWfd esjs lkFk uk rks ,slh ?kVuk gqbZ gS vkSj uk dksbZ ,slk vuqHko
jgk gS fd ftl ls esjs t+gu es ;g lc vk;kA fQj ,slk D;k gqvk]
ftlus eq>s bu lc ckrksa dks lkspus ds fy, etcwj fd;k \'kk;n
vkl&ikl dk ekgkSy] Vh-oh- ] lks'ky ehfM;k------ bu lcus
'kk;n /kkfeZd mUekn dks vkSj c<kok fn;k gSA ,d lksp eu es gS
fd vkus okyh ih<h dh nwljs et+gc ds fy, bTt+r vkSj le>
c<sxh] ;g lksp /kwfey gqbZ gSA ,slk dguk Hkh xyr gksxk fd ;g
fgUnqLrku esa gqbZ fl;klh Qsj cny dh otg ls gks jgk gSA iwjh
nqfu;k esa gks jgh vyx&vyx ?kVuk,sa 'kk;n bldh otg gksA
exj] gekjs ns'k ls tks ,d veu dk iSxku tkuk pkfg, Fkk] ge
mlesa ukdke jgsa gSaA cfYd gekjs ;gkW gks jgh ?kVuk,sa] pkgs oks *yo
tsgkn* ;k *?kj okfilh* gksa] mUgksaus vkx esa ?kh dk dke fd;k gSA
bl ckr esa dksbZ nks jk; fd dey cgqr lqUnj gS exj mldh
lqUnjrk ls xqykc dh [kw+clwjrh de ugh gks tkrhA ,sls es 'kk;n
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gekjs cxhps /kud dh 'kkFkZdrk vkSj c< tkrh gS tgkW dey]
xqykc] pesyh] twgh lc ,d lkFk f[ky&c< jgsa gSa vkSj [kw+'kcw
QSyk jgsa gSA
---- ;fn gj ,d euq”; dk /kkfeZd er ,d gks tk,s vkSj gj
O;fDr ,d ekxZ dk voyEcu djus yxs rks lalkj ds fy, og cM+k
cqjk fnu gksxkA rc rks lc /keksaZ ds lkjs fopkj u”V gks tk,saxsA
oSfHkU; gh thou dk ewylw+= gSA
& Lokeh foosdkuan
vkf[kj ;s yc D;ksa didik;s \\
eq>s f'kdLr u ns ikvksxs------ esjs gkykr
vpZuk flag
teky fl)hdh
vkf[kj ;s yc D;ksa didik;s \\
vkf[kj ;s yc D;ksa didik;s \\
dqN ,slk gqvk gh D;ksa ftlus fny rksM+ Mkyk -----uk tkus fdlus mUgsa gels bruk nwj dj Mkyk \\
dy tks brus djhc Fks ----vkt tkus dgkW pys x;s \\
mudh galh ---- mudh vkR;eh;rk dks D;k gks x;k \\
vpkud muds u gksus dk x+e ---muds gksus dh [kq'kh ls T;knk gksus yxk \\
vkSj ;s esjk vkgr fny fc[kj dj jksus yxk \
mudks eglwl djus esa ;s dld dgkW ls vkbZ \\
tkus D;ksa ;s eugwfl;r esjs ?kj esa pyh vkbZ \\
;s Qklyksa dh nhokj u tkus fdlus cukbZ \
iwNrh gWw [kqn ls fd] gqbZ dkSu lh ,slh Hkwy \
dh uksp Mkys esjs liuksa ds Qwy \
vjs vks ekyh ns[k vius iwjs ckx dks---vkSj lksp tjk fd rwus dh gS D;k Hkwy \
D;ksa ns nh gedks ,slh lt+k------- \\
vius eu ds vanj >kad rks t+jk----;s tks rUgkbZ;kW dk;e dj nha rqeus ,slh \\
D;k rqEgs ugha dpksVrh esjs tSlh \\
vkf[kj ;s yc D;ksa didik;s \\
vkf[kj ;s yo D;ksa didik;s \\
eq>s f'kdLr u ns ikvksxs------ esjs gkykr
ds lkWl ckdh gS vHkh------ vkl ckdh gS vHkh!
vHkh eqlyly gS ck&gks'kh esjh
vHkh csgks'k gS uk&mEehnh esjh
vHkh ft+Unk gS esjh ft+n dk lgkjk eq>dks
vHkh Fkduk gS uk&xokjk eq>dks
;s dSlk lQj gS--------- tgkW eaft+y jg&xqt+j gS
;s dSlk tquwu gS-------- ds t[+e csvlj gS
jkgsa rax gSa rks D;k\-------eat+j /kqa/kyk gS rks D;k\------ teha is iSj gSa vHkh
;s tax gS rks yM+uk gS [kqn ls---thruk gS eq>s------ fQj ,d ckj eq>ls------t+cku is rkys yxs gks Hkh rks D;k\
vkW[kksa esa mEehn vkckn gS vHkh
;s eku Hkh ysa ds] Nk,W gS vHkh jkr ds [k+keks'k va/ksjs
gj gky fQj ykSV gh vk,axsa] f[ky&f[kykrs losjs
cl rsjk lkFk dkQh gS vHkh
;wW gh dg nsuk teky] viuh nkLrku&,&fny
ds ,glkl ckd+h gS vHkh] vYQkt+ ckd+h gS vHkh
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rqe dkSu \\
xqy'ku dqekj
dSls crkmW eSa rqEgs
esjs fy, rqe dkSu gks
dSls crkmW eSa rqEgs
rqe /kM+du dk xhr gks-----rqe thou dk laxhr gks----rqe ft+Unxh---rqe canxh-----rqe jkS'kuh-----rqe rkt+x+h-----rqe [k+q'kh gks-----rqe izse gks-----rqe gh esjh euehr gks
esjh vkW[kksa esa rqe-----esjh lkWlksa esa rqe-----esjh ;knksa esa rqe-----esjh vkWgksa esa rqe
cgrh gS mlesa ,d vxu-----;s tYQsa rqEgkjh ?kVkvksa lh
gksaVksa ij f[kyh eqLdku lh
rqEgh esjh rd+nhj gks-----;Ww /;ku esa esjs gks rqe----tSls eq>s ?ksjs gks rqe------
psgjs ij NkbZ pkWnuh-----vkokt esa gS jkfxuh-----'kh'ks ds tSlk vax gS-----Qwyksa ds tSlk jax gS-----ufn;ksa dh tSlh pky gS-----D;k gqLu gS D;k deky gS-----rqe uxfj;k esjs [+;kc dh-----dSls crkmW eS rqEgsa gkyr fnys&csrkc dh
iwjc esa rqe-----if'pe esa rqe-----mRrj esa rqe-----nf{k.k esa rqe-----thou ds gj iy esa rqe-----gj txg cl rqe gh rqe-----rqEgha esjh dfork gks
rqEgh esjh xhrk gks-----rqEgh esjh dqjku gks---rqEgh esjk Hkxoku gks----dSls crkmW eSa rqEgs
esjs fy, D;k gks rqe
dSls crkmW eSa rqEgs----dSls crkmW eSa rqEgs
rqEgha esjk /keZ------rqEgh esjk dje-----rqEgh esjh bcknr-----rqEgh esjk bZeku-----rqEgh esjh pkgr-----rqEgh esjh eqLdku-----ns[krk gWw gj iy ftls-----rqe ogh rLohj gks------
;s tks rqEgkjk :i gS-----tSls lqcg dh f[kyrh /kwi gS-----panu lk gS ;s cnu------
rqe 'oklksa dh xfr ij /;ku u nsuk----eqUuk yky oekZ
rqe 'oklksa dh xfr ij /;ku u nsuk----rqe ryk'kuk er
vius [kks;s&[kks;s iu dks
mls rks
eSausa lgst fy;k gS]
rqe 'oklksa dh xfr ij Hkh
/;ku u nsuk
esjs 'oklksa lax vuqukfnr gksdj
budk rhoz gksuk r; gS]
dksbZ [k+kl ckr ugh gS
dejs esa j[kh eksecRrh dk
/khjs&/khjs fi?kyuk
;g fi?kyu vlj gS
tyrh ykS dh rfi'k dk]
dqN 'kCn fy[kuk rqe
esjh ihB ij
eSa mUgsa vuqeku ls
i<uk pkgrk gWw
otg u gksrs gq, Hkh
cs'kd rqe :B tkuk
eukuk lh[kk gS
vlj ns[kwWxk
cLl]
rqe mnkl er gksuk
;gha eSa pwd tkmWxk
vkSj rqEgkjs lkFk&lkFk
eSa Hkh mnkl gks tkmWxk
eSa Hkh------
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Neelam & Noor
Sumit
Yogesh
Ani
Anish & Juhi
Shikha &
Faizan
Malik
Preeti & Harris
Shalini &
Rizwan
Harmeet &
Ahmar
Kurudi
Shamina &
Rishi
Samir
Sofie
Rachel &
Rahul
Vijesh
Dr. Samir
Amir
Kriti
Shyam & Pooja
Shahista
Dr. Aashish &
Dr. Mehraj
Kashifa &
Rajeev
Fauzia
Pledge for humanity
balkfu;r dh 'kiFk
I take this vow today
That, with every individual
I will have a relation of humanity.
eSa vkt ;s ç.k ysrh gw¡
fd] eSa gj 'k[l ls
balkfu;r dk fj'rk j[kw¡xh
I will not differentiate with any
individual
over caste,
religion,
colour,
language,
region,
sex etc.
eSa fdlh Hkh 'k[l ls mldh
t+kfr]
/keZ]
jax]
Hkk"kk]
oxZ]
{ks=]
fyax
vkfn ds dkj.k
Neither will I consider myself
superior or inferior
due to societal differences.
d¨Ã Hksn&Hkko ugh d#¡xha
vkSj uk gh vius d¨
lekt fufeZr
Hksn&Hkko¨a ds vk/kkj ij
Å¡pk
I will always allow
those younger than me
to put across their views
and thoughts without any fear.
I will never resort to violence
in human relations.
My every thought and deed
will be based on human values.
Long
Long
Long
Long
Long
live
live
live
live
live
Humanity
Equality
Peace
Love
Humanism
eSa vk;q esa cM+¨a ls
fopkj¨a es er Hksn ds dkj.k ?k`.kk ugha d#¡xh
vkSj N¨V¨a d¨ cs& [k©Q loky iwaNus
vkSj fopkj j[kus dk ges'kk e©dk nw¡xh
eSa balkuh fj'r¨a es
fgalk dk ç;¨x
dHkh ugha d#¡xh
esjh gj l¨p
vkSj deZ
ekuoh; ewY;¨a ij
vk/kkfjr jgsxh
balkfu;r ---------- ft+Unkckn
cjkcjh ---------- ft+Unkckn
'kkafr ---------- ft+Unkckn
izse ---------- ft+Unkckn
ekuoh; ,drk --------- ft+Unkckn
In solidarity
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* Hindi translation by Yogendra Datt
And
;k uhapk ekuw¡xh
* For private circulation only.
I will not hate anybody elder to me
due to difference of opinion