St. John’s Lodge No. 9, F. & A. M. Trestleboard 7910 Greenwood Ave. N. (206) 623-0261 stjohns9@seattlemasons.org www.seattlemasons.org April 2015 Jim Russell, editor Serving Seattle since 1860 FROM THE EAST Masonic Wages “To pay the Craft their wages, if aught be due…….” By his sixteenth birthday, George Washington had Masonic wages are those which written, copied actually, “110 Rules of Civility & Decent are paid in love and brotherhood and Behavior in Company and Conversation.” Although attributed mutual help and information and to our beloved brother, French Jesuits may actually have inspiration and charity and assistance composed these rules in the 1500s. Some of these rules sound and being pals. They are worth much a little stuffy but they show a character that is becoming very more than money. Take the Masonic difficult to find in today’s society: these rules focus on other people rather than on wages out of a Lodge and you would our own self-interests. More than just manners, they teach us to make small need to revise the whole fraternity. sacrifices for the good of everyone and the sake of harmony. The payment Masons make to So why did Brother George select the following as the First Rule: “Every Masons is the most valuable which a Action done in Company ought to be with Some Sign of Respect, to those that are man can receive. Present.” Perhaps Brother George believes that respect is the keystone to the success of civility. CALENDAR First of all, what is respect? Respect is a feeling of esteem given to a person April 9 (7pm): Officers meeting or group. It relates to one’s positive ethics and attitude towards other people and April 15 (6:15pm) 7:30pm: St. entities. Respecting others is a way to express our feeling for them. It’s a method John’s 9 (dinner) Stated Official Visit of communication, which can build strong relations between people by respecting DDGM5 each other. When a person shows respect for someone, it means that the person has April 18 (10am): Daylight 232 some value for him. Some people, often the younger generation, think that Table Lodge showing respect means that they are degrading their own selves. They take respect April 25 (10am): Past Masters Brunch (Jimmy’s On Broadway) as a sign of weakness or inferiority that could harm one’s self-respect. However, April 25 (10am: Masonic Service this concept is very wrong at its core. Respect is a basic trait or emotion, which Bureau (Kirkland Masonic Center) makes us real human beings. April 27 (7-9pm): Ritual The best benefit of showing someone respect is getting it back. As is often instruction classes said, respect is not something that you get by asking for it or demanding it but April 28 (7pm): “Intender” rather by earning it. To be able to earn the respect of others, one must also show Masonic Education Study respect to them. April 29 (6:30pm): District 5 In Lodge, we are expected to conduct ourselves with the proper decorum; to Assoc. meeting (Spiro’s Pizza) show respect to our Brethren, the Lodge, Ritual and Masonry. While every Brother May 3 (8:30am-10am): FABulous professes a respect for the Lodge, etc., we must all be diligent to guard against Family Brunch – Ivar’s Salmon unintentional disrespectful behaviors. Minor and offhand actions can actually be House disrespectful. Actions such as: talking during the ritual, laughing or jibing when May 7 (7pm): Master Masons officers make mistakes, not doing what you say you will do and being Study Group Greenwood unappreciative of the work of others are all signs of disrespect to others. Although May 13 (6pm): Board of Trustees unintended, these actions can cause significant hard feelings among the Brothers. In May 16 (1pm): Open Air FC° Roche Harbor (lunch 11am) this area we all can work to improve. May 20 (6:15pm) 7:30pm: St. Parson Weems got this right; when he wrote that it was “no wonder John’s 9 (dinner) Stated everybody honored him who honored everybody.” Page FABulous Family Appreciation Brunch Sunday, May 3 – again at Ivar’s Salmon House on Lake Union May 21 (7pm): MM ° practice May 28 (7pm): Master Mason degree June 2 (6:30): Mark Twain Speaks dinner & entertainment 1 WBro. Russ Johnson, Master April 15 Stated Communication Page WBro. Russ Johnson and his officers invite everyone to come out to our April stated communication for a full evening of food, fellowship and Masonic instruction. Our Deputy of the Grand Master, VWBro. Sam Ali, will be making his first “official visit” bringing greetings from the Grand Lodge and offering a few inspirational gems of wisdom. VWBro. Ali is just getting his “feet wet” in his new role as Deputy of the Grand Master, only appointed to this position in February following the resignation and departure to the East Coast by VWBro. Franklin Donahoe. VWBro. Jim Russell, Lodge secretary and a member of the fraternity since 1984, will present this month’s Masonic education topic “How does Freemasonry really work on each Freemason?” followed by discussion on “is this Fraternity really worth my time and why?” Members of the Lodge will be encouraged to answer this question during the discussion period. (Because of very full VW Sam Ali business agendas, this will be the third attempt to hear VWBro. Russell’s thoughts on this subject.) VWBro. Ali is a Past Master of Daylight Lodge No. 232. He was the winner of the Grand Lodge Senior Warden’s ritual competition in 2013. Last month we celebrated in grand style with our FAMILY APPRECIATION BRUNCH MAY 3 annual Table Lodge – a tiled combination of Lodge Bring the kids. Bring mom, dad, and brother and sis! business and dinner amid an abundance of Toasts. This Reservations for this year’s FABulous Family month we again welcome all guests, ladies and gentlemen, Appreciation Brunch will again be limited, so don’t wait to our dinner and program. “Meet and greet” time too long to get your name on the list. Call the Lodge generally begins at 5:30pm, followed by dinner at 6:15. number today for this Sunday Please make your dinner reservations with the secretary morning May 3 event. Ivar’s at 206 623-0261 by Friday, April 10, prior to the meeting. Salmon House will open the If you need a ride, the secretary will be happy to find one doors at 8:30 for our St. John’s for you. Do you know of a brother who has not attended crowd – the public will be admitLodge in a while? Call him and ask if you can pick him ted at 9:30. If you arrive after up and bring him to Lodge. 9:30, you’ll likely be charged along with the general public (and fight the crowd). Grand Master’s Golf Invitational The Salmon House is located on the north shore of Lake Union and puts out a FABulous spread for our enjoyment. Below is just a sampling of one of Seattle's best brunches (Note: offerings may change due to seasonality). • Alder-Roasted Blackened Salmon over Andouille nd Corn Hash The 2 annual “Grand Masters Golf Invitational” rd • Salmon Cakes will be held Sunday, May 3 , 2015 at the Nile Shrine Golf • Crab and cheddar egg strata Course. Here is an opportunity for Fellowship, • Dungeness and Snow Crab Legs Friendship, Fraternalism, Family and Fun. This event is • Carving station including Prime Rib, Honey Glazed designed to support our youth groups and is open to Ham, Roasted Chicken anyone who wants to take the challenge. • Oyster shooter bar The tournament will be a 4-person scramble. Tee • Sautéed clams in white wine sauce time is 8am, with a shotgun start. Signups are under way. • Ivar’s award-winning clam and salmon chowders The cost is $100 per player. This covers green fees, cart• Traditional breakfast delicacies including eggs, sharing, snack bag, golf goodie bag and a banquet French toast, sweet breads, buttermilk pancakes, sausage, afterwards at the course. thick-cut hickory bacon, breakfast potatoes Visit with the Grand Master and his team members. • Made-to-order omelets and crepes For further information contact gmgolf@freemasons• Various salads and fresh fruit wa.org. Deadline for Registration and Payment is • House-made pastries and legendary dessert bar April 24th, 2015. including chocolate fountain This event conflicts with the St. John’s FABulous • Complimentary beverages including coffee, tea, soft Family Brunch, so you golfers will have to make a tough drinks and juice (free refills) choice. 2 DEPUTY OF THE GRAND MASTER TO VISIT IN APRIL MARK TWAIN VISITS IN JUNE Fifteen members of St. John’s Lodge enjoyed the opportunity to share a Saturday with our Grand Master, MWBro. Sam Roberts last month. Brothers from all Lodges in our District had lunch followed by a report on the “state of the District” from our newly appointed District Deputy, VWBro. Sam Ali. Grand Master Roberts invited the brothers to share their concerns and also reported on what is happening in our Washington jurisdiction. He encouraged the brothers to attend the annual meeting of Grand Lodge in Kennewick this coming June and said that there are a few exciting changes coming our way. Two candidates for Junior Grand Warden spoke and were available to greet the brethren. VWBro. Tom Eastman, a member of St. John’s and a Past Master of Eureka Lodge No. 20 received the prestigious Grand Master’s Achievement Award for his many contributions and service to our District. Attending from St. John’s were brothers Ashley Brinkley, Chuck Brockway, Greg Brown, David Campbell, Fred Eastman, Tom Eastman, David Holdsworth, Al Jorgensen, John Louderback, Jim Lumsden, Jeffrey Pullen, Neil Quinn, Jim Russell, Charles Tupper, and Darrel Womack. CHARTER In Latin charta was a paper, a card, a map; in Medieval Latin this became an official paper, as in the case of “Magna Charta.” Our “chart” and “card” are derived from the same root. A Masonic charter is the written paper, or instrument, empowering a group of brethren to act as a Lodge. An Evening with Mark Twain Dinner and show: $10 (advance), $15 at door Send $10 to “St. John's Lodge No. 9”, identify “Twain” PO Box 30069, Seattle, WA, 98113 Fifty years ago this month…. 3 St. John’s Brothers Enjoy District Meeting On April 29, 1965, a 6.5 magnitude earthquake struck Puget Sound, exactly 20 years after a lesser temblor did the same. Page MWBro. Roberts presents VWBro. Eastman his GMA Is there anyone who hasn’t read a little Mark Twain and fallen in love with his work? Or has heard about his successes and even more failures? Counted among his greatest successes were his live lectures and tales of adventure. Spend an entertaining, homespun evening with Jefferson H. Jordan, Jr., performing as master storyteller Mark Twain, a.k.a Samuel Clemens, in his one-man tribute to the great American writer and humorist’s life and works. MWBro. Jefferson Jordan, Grand Master of the Most Worshipful Grand Lodge of New Mexico AF&AM is known for his portrayal of Bro. Samuel Clemens (Mark Twain). St. John’s is bringing MWBro. Jordan to entertain us on Tuesday, June 2nd, at the Greenwood Masonic Center. Dinner will be served at 6:30pm, followed by an “Evening with Mark Twain” starting at about 7:15. Tickets for the buffet dinner and show are $10 in advance - $15 at the door. Mail your reservation payable to St. John’s Lodge. MWBro. Jordan was elected as Grand Master of New Mexico Grand Lodge AF&AM in March. He is also a member of the York Rite, Scottish Rite and the Shrine. FABULOUS FAMILY APPRECIATION BRUNCH RETURNS MAY 3 Reservations Required - Act Today!!! St. John's Lodge extends a cordial invitation to you and your family to be its guests on Sunday, May 3, for our 21st annual FABulous Family Appreciation Brunch at Ivar’s Salmon House beginning at 8:30 a.m. Doors open to the public at 9:30, so let’s beat the crowd! Ivar’s Salmon House is known throughout the Northwest and beyond for its fine cuisine and alder-smoked salmon. St. John’s members have also discovered their FABulous breakfast buffet! For our Brothers, as the name implies, all members of your family are invited. We encourage the kids to join us. Don’t forget Mom! For the Widow of our departed Brother, we invite you and your family members to share in this springtime celebration. We encourage the grandchildren to join us. St. John’s will be picking up the tab except for any alcoholic beverages – those are on you. Reservations are mandatory and are limited. Call the Lodge number 206 623-0261. IVAR’S SALMON HOUSE Taste what generations of families have known for, well... generations! Join us Sunday, May 3rd, for a lavish Seafood (and more) Buffet Brunch from 8:30 a.m. to 10:00 a.m. Call: (206) 623-0261 or email stjohns9@seattlemasons.org for reservations. Page Directions to Ivar's Salmon House: Take 1-5 to N.E. 45th Exit (#169). Go east, toward the University of Washington, and turn right at Brooklyn Avenue. Follow Brooklyn to Pacific Street and turn right. At stop sign, turn left. The Salmon House is one block further, on the left, at 401 N.E. Northlake Way. 4 Choose from wild salmon roasted over an alder BBQ pit, cracked Dungeness crab, chilled cocktail prawns, Manila clams, mussels, freshly shucked Pacific oysters, carving station with prime rib and honey baked ham, made-to-order omelet, crepes and pasta, traditional breakfast fare, freshly prepared salads, fresh fruit and a legendary dessert bar. Give me time to think. Give me a moment. Give me a second. You have heard these words many times, and you could not! It’s not yours to give. You have your time and I have mine. I can share with you a moment of my time. It takes my time to write this message to you and I hope that it brings meaning to you. I hope that it provokes thought. “Time is money.” Wrong! Money can’t buy Time. (Fact). Money can’t even buy Happiness. When you are born you’re given only so much time and what you do with your time is your business. When you are sitting in your rocking chair in the golden days of your life, all you will have are the memories, if you even have that! Don’t waste your time. Don’t waste your life. Don’t wait for anything. (Well, I overstate a bit.) Wait for me to complete this thought. "Give Me Love (Give Me Peace on Earth)” – John Lennon. What are you doing with your time? You are probably doing what you have to do! I am. It so happens that I am finding that this time is soul searching for myself as well as conveying this message to you. Who are you that I am writing to? You are my fraternal brother. I may not have met you yet. In time we will meet. We share a meal and attend Lodge in the inspiration that joins us together. It may be on a different day and a Lodge in a State that I have never been to – yet. The theme of “give me time” is not a request for your time. It is an alarm. Take time where you can. Enjoy every moment. Make time. Make every moment count. Have fun. Laugh without concern. Join in a conversation not a controversy. Time now to think; think how you can affect the world, your community, your neighbors. Oh, what the heck. Reach out and touch your bride and say “Thank You.” Think now, you have the time. Give time when you can share it. Take your time you deserve it. District 5 Event Might Be Up Your Alley! The District 5 Assoc. is looking to offer a day of Bowling at the Roxbury Lanes and Casino—2823 SW Roxbury, Seattle. District president Bro. Steve Harrell is looking to reserve a day in May or June and will have information and cost available for the April 29 Association meeting. Expect Lodge competition as well as a possible competition with District 4. Start practicing to knock down those pins! o VWBro. Jim Maher announces that there will be a South King County Rainbow for Girls reception at the Renton Masonic Center on May 2 to honor the Grand Worthy Advisor. (The Grand Worthy Advisor is Susannah Maher, VWBro. Maher’s daughter.) Tickets are available at $36 each. o Bro. Steve Harrell encourages the brothers to help out at the Masonic Information Booth at the Fremont Fair, June 20-21. A sign-up sheet is available through the Daylight Lodge website. o Bro. Andrew Everett invites everyone to his installation as DeMolay’s State Master Councilor at Great Wolf Lodge (Grand Mound) on Saturday, April 25. Dinner ($39) will be at 6:30, followed by the installation of officers at approximately 8:15. o VWBro. Ashley Brinkley reports that tickets are available for the June 26 Everett AquaSox baseball game. They are priced at $10 each and include the game and all-you-can-eat pre-game gathering in the covered food pavilion. o WBro. Eric Koteles reports that the Master Mason study group holds monthly sessions in the Greenwood Masonic library, led by WBro. Helmuth Svoboda. In 1895 They got it right the first time! State of Washington public education: HB 90, broadened curriculum to provide that “not less than ten minutes each week must be devoted to systematic teaching of kindness to not only our domestic animals, but to all living creatures” (1895 Wash. Session Laws Ch. V, Sec. 1). APRIL MEETING HIGHLIGHTS: Here’s a look at what’s happening at our April stated communication: Dinner - guests welcome 1. Menu: Minestrone soup; beef tenderloin with bordelaise sauce; season roasted vegetables and potatoes; deep fried apple pie a la mode. (allergies, vegetarian? Let us know a week before.) 2. Know your brother (tentative) 3. Committee chairmen reports Stated Meeting - tiled 1. Masonic education: How does Freemasonry really work on each Freemason? 2. Deputy of the Grand Master visits Refreshments Kick back, visit, and enjoy a beverage and dessert 5 Bro. Jeffrey Pullen Give Me Time GOOD OF THE ORDER Page Junior Warden Message Here’s a little known fact about Freemasons – they are obsessed with empty chairs. You don’t have to talk very long to just about any group of Masons, and the subject of all those empty chairs comes up. “We’ve got to fill those empty chairs in our Lodges!” they’ll exclaim. The Blue Lodges are worried about empty chairs. The Scottish Rite is worried about those empty chairs. The York Rite is worried about empty chairs. The Shrine. Amaranth. Order of the Eastern Star. “We've got to fill those blessed empty chairs!” Grand Lodges come up with plans to increase membership. Here in Illinois, just since I’ve been a Mason we’ve had several different ideas about how to fill those chairs. We went from 2B1ASK1 to being able to ask somebody if they'd like to join our Fraternity. We still have empty chairs. One of our Grand Masters, a good friend of mine, had a great plan. Every member should add a member to their Blue Lodge. He was known to always have petitions in his pocket. We did add members, but we still have empty chairs. My York Rite Chapter back when I joined came up with a magic number of new members they’d like to add that year, and they worked tirelessly, putting on degrees, and putting guys through the Chapter. They added a large number of new members. I was one of those guys that went through then. Guess what? They still have empty chairs! The problem is, we’re asking the wrong question. The question isn’t how can we fill those chairs – the question is why are those chairs empty to begin with? When I joined the Lodge, it was because I was looking for something. I wanted to improve myself. I wanted to learn new things. I wanted to gain new skills. I wanted to be more active in my community. I wanted to be a part of something traditional and something ancient. In an ever changing world, I wanted something in my life that remained steady and consistent. And I’ve found all those things, but not entirely within the walls of my Lodge. Much of what I’ve gained has been through my own explorations and studies into the Craft. If it hadn’t been for my own initiative I’m not sure I would have found that greater meaning that makes my Lodge attendance and participation so fulfilling. Our chairs are empty because so many of our Lodges have gotten so involved with the business of Freemasonry, they’ve forgotten the purpose of the Craft – to make good men better by constantly working to improve ourselves. We spend so much time reading minutes, and reciting committee reports, we forget that we’re supposed to be learning something as well. The expectation of our membership versus the reality of our meetings is the reason so many of our chairs are empty. The world is a busy place, and very few men are willing to waste a couple hours of their time once or twice a month to sit through a meeting when the only thing they might learn in that meeting is that the Lodge’s building insurance went up 8% from last year, and somebody needs to make sure we have enough pancake mix by Saturday’s breakfast. Todd E. Creason, 33° is the Founder of the Midnight Freemasons blog and the author of several books and novels, including the Famous American Freemasons series. He is a Past Master of Ogden Lodge No. 754 (IL), and currently serves as Secretary. You can contact him at: webmaster@toddcreason.org Bandera Masonic Lodge Awards Essay Winners Bandera, Texas - Representatives from the Bandera Masonic Lodge awarded top fifth grade writers at each Bandera SD elementary school an HP split tablet laptop for their winning essay entries in the annual Masonic Lodge contest. The runner-up at each campus received a check for $100. This year’s essay topic was taken from an inspirational quotation given by Bandera School District Athletic Director David T. Sine – “In order to sail the high seas of tomorrow, you cannot be anchored to yesterday.” Each January, fifth graders at Alkek and Hill Country elementary schools are challenged to write an essay that highlights patriotism, scholarship or American heroes on a designated topic. The Masonic Lodge of Bandera has sponsored this contest for more than 25 years. …and Eureka Lodge Sponsors a Science Fair… St. John's brothers WB Greg Brown and VWB Tom Eastman getting ready to present the awards (on table behind) at the 58th annual Washington State Science and Engineering Fair in Bremerton on March 28th. Eureka Lodge No. 20 is a major sponsor of the Fair and WB Greg is the current Master of Eureka. VWB Tom is a Eureka Past Master. 6 by Todd E. Creason, 33° There’s no sense in worrying about how to fill those chairs in your Lodge if you aren’t willing to figure out why they are empty to begin with. We must do better. Like it was said in that famous movie “Field of Dreams” – if you build it they will come. Your Lodge will start seeing fewer and fewer empty chairs when you start giving your members, old and new, the thing we promised them in the beginning – Light! Page Freemasonry's Obsession with Empty Chairs St. John’s April 15 Communication: Headline 150 Years Ago Lincoln is assassinated and Olympia and Seattle mourn on April 15, 1865 HistoryLink.org Essay 858 about unattended, in the darkness of night, as the noon day sun. This was the most severe blow we had yet received, for it shook the confidence of man in his fellow-man and almost seemed to betoken a revival of scenes as bloody as had marked the French Revolution, but it was the last expiring struggle of slavery, and the blood of Abraham Lincoln, poured out on the altar of Freedom, had consecrated our soil forever, so that none but Freemen could hereafter breathe upon it. The assassin’s knife had only added certainly to certainty” (Seattle Weekly Gazette). The shock and sorrow apparently was shared by nearly everyone. Following President Lincoln’s death, every Puget Sound newspaper printed black borders around all of their columns. Years later an episode came to light that occurred when the news of Lincoln’s assassination reached Seattle. Jake Harding, a fiddler who played for Seattle’s First Dance, and who used to “call” Quadrilles in Chinook Jargon for dances attended by both Indians and whites, worked at the time in the Eureka Bakery. In 1909 Harding recalled that when the news of the assassination came, “a sawyer in Yesler’s mill, named Bill B. Dillon, said he was d----d glad it had happened.” This fellow was chased for days, “for the purpose of hanging him from a tree, but he escaped in a canoe and was never seen again.” (Seattle Post-Intelligencer, 1909). Sources: Seattle Weekly Gazette, April 20, 1865, p. 2; Washington Democrat, (Olympia), April 15, 1865, p. 2; "Jake Harding Fiddled for First Dance in Seattle," Seattle Post-Intelligencer, September 20, 1909, p. 1. By Greg Lange, February 03, 1999 The annual communication of Grand Lodge is practically around the corner. The 2015 annual communication will be Friday, June 12th and Saturday, June 13th at the Three Rivers Convention Center in Kennewick, Washington. Get the registration information from the GL website at http://www.freemason-wa.org/, but hurry, hotel space is filling fast. Thinking that you will skip this year? Think again! This is where we elect the Junior Grand Warden (a future Grand Master), vote on changes to our rules and laws and review our finances. It’s THAT important! All Master Masons are eligible to attend the annual session, with voting rights for Masters, Wardens and Past Masters. Three have declared their candidacy for Junior Grand Warden. They are VWBros. James Kendall, Paul Waadevig, and Charles Wood. Each has contributed his thoughts about the future of Washington Freemasonry within the pages of the Masonic Tribune. 7 GRAND LODGE ANNUAL COMMUNICATION Page At about 1pm on April 15, 1865, Olympia and Seattle (probably at the same time) received news by telegraph that President Abraham Lincoln (1809-1865) had died that morning from an assassin’s bullet he received the night before. Lincoln was the 16th president of the United States of America, and guided the country through the Civil War. The Washington Democrat in Olympia reprinted the first news by telegraph transmission received from the East Coast via California as follows: “Marysville, Cal. Saturday, April 15. President Lincoln was shot through the head at Ford's Theatre at Washington [D.C.] last night. Secretary Seward was simultaneously stabbed in his bed. The President died at 8:30 this morning. Seward about 9 o'clock.” There are misstatements in the telegraph. The president died at 7:22am, not at 8:30. Secretary William Seward (1801-1872), secretary of state in Lincoln's cabinet, was badly injured, but survived the stabbing. In 1867 he would negotiate the purchase of Alaska from the Russians. Seattle gathered to mourn Lincoln’s death in one of the largest meetings ever assembled here. The main speaker, the Honorable Selucius Garfielde, addressed the people in an “eloquent and thrilling” oration. In summary he stated: “Deep as was the stain ... cast on the American Nation by this causeless and cruel rebellion, - low as we had sunk in our own estimation, we were to sink still lower. It had been our boast and pride, that [President Lincoln], our Ruler, was one of ourselves. No pomp or pageantry surrounded him; no body guard waited on him as he went forth, nor sentry kept a watch at his door, but, secure in that respect which his fellow citizens paid his station, let their politics be what they might, he had moved Delia Motavalli - Fairfield, Connecticut Dependency CASA Program I believe in finding a good frog. It seems that all throughout childhood, we are taught to look for a happily ever after. “And they all lived happily ever after”; isn’t that the conclusion to many children’s films? When I was a kid I always thought of that as magical; but now really it just seems unrealistic. And it teaches us that what we want is a fairytale like they have in the storybooks. We all want to be Cinderella who gets swept off her feet by the hot prince; we want to live in the royal castle, right? But I don’t think that’s necessarily a good thing for us to seek. Now I’m not saying I believe in being pessimistic, but I do believe in being realistic; it’s something I got from my mom. My mother and I always have our best conversations in the rain. We sit Delia Motavalli in the car, neither of us wanting to brave the rain to get to the house. So we sit. We watch droplets race down the windshield, listen to the rain strike the roof of her little blue Honda, and feel the heater on full-blast rushing at our feet (just the way we like it). I don’t know why, but sitting in the car, we always talk more than normal. There was one rainy day when my mom told me something that is going to stick with me forever. Earlier that day she and my dad had been arguing about something; I can’t remember what. So she said, “Don’t spend your life looking for Prince Charming. Instead, find yourself a really good frog.” At the time, I found this thought really disheartening. Who wants to think that you’ll never find Prince Charming? You’ll never get to be Cinderella? Another thought that struck my mind: if my mom says there’s no Prince Charming, then what’s my dad? A frog? I asked her, and she replied with, “Of course! If he were Prince Charming, he wouldn’t snore, would be able to cook, and we would never argue. But you know what? He’s a damn good frog.” Of course, being young, I didn’t think of the meaning behind what she was saying. I was too busy thinking of it literally, visualizing my mom as a princess and my dad in frog form. But a few years later, I understand the value of my mom’s words. You can’t expect everything to be perfect. Let’s be completely honest; if you wait your whole life for your prince with flowing hair, statuesque features, and a white horse, you’re going to be lonely. I think that the point of finding a good frog is you accept something that’s great, flaws and all. It’s so easy to be picky. You can find the one tiny thing that’s wrong, and that one tiny thing is what you can’t get your mind off of. But in life, we can’t afford to wait years in vain for perfection. So I think that a good frog, an amazing frog, the best frog you can find is what we’re really looking for in this world. Don’t laze through life waiting for a happily ever after, because I don’t think you’ll be very happy with the outcome. This I believe. One of many community programs that St. John’s members help to support, both with our time and our dollars, is the Court Appointed Special Advocate (CASA) program for children. In addition to our financial support, our Treasurer VWBro. Jim Maher devotes a portion of his time to this cause. A Voice For Children The Dependency CASA Program serves children up to 11 years old who have allegedly been abused and/or neglected. The process focuses on the best interests of the child. The court will try to reunite a family if conditions at home improve sufficiently. A Court Appointed Special Advocate (CASA) is a trained volunteer who represents the best interests of children as they are taken through the legal process. These trained volunteers: Investigate the case and inform the court Help identify resources to address a child’s special needs Recommend temporary and permanent plans for the child Process Designed To Act Quickly Usually, a court orders the appointment of a CASA and the program attempts to quickly assign the case to an available volunteer. The CASA talks with the child, parents, family members, social worker, school personnel, health care providers, foster parents and others who know about the child’s situation. In addition, the CASA reviews relevant documentation and prepares periodic reports to the court as to findings and recommendations for the child. The CASA assignment continues until the child is returned home or finds another permanent home. Volunteers are represented in court by program attorneys and assisted by paralegals and social work staff. The Advocates Each Court Appointed Special Advocate is screened, trained and supervised. They are equipped with a detailed training manual and must complete 28 hours of training before receiving a case. Volunteers also participate in ongoing training, study groups and recognition events and conferences. Due to a shortage of volunteers, the program is currently able to assign a CASA in only about 60 percent of the dependency cases in King County. The program is accredited by the National CASA Association, which conducts regular assessments, using 12 standards of compliance, and requires periodic reaccreditation. In addition, the program frequently solicits feedback from attorneys and the advocates they represent. 8 St. John’s Charities Page Find a Good Frog
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