NON-PROFIT ORG. U.S. POSTAGE PAID PERMIT NO. 7066 PALATINE, IL P&DC 2049 Ridge Avenue | Evanston, IL 60201 847.475.5800 | www.cradle.org CHIEF EXECUTIVE OFFICER Julianne S. Tye, President BOARD OF DIRECTORS Margarita E. Kellen, Chair Anna Marie Hajek, Vice Chair Stephen S. Cole, Jr., Secretary/Treasurer Pamela F. Amos Richard C. Burnstine, M.D. Margaret A. Cartier Paula M. and John F. Dix, Jr. John L. Fairfield Raymond Grady DeVerille A. Huston Catherine C. Klettke Margaret K. and David E. Mason Judith A. Muhlberg Priscilla A. Newman Mary T. and Michael E. Phenner Corrine V. Reichert Kevin J. Rochford Lawrence Rubly Thomas F. Ryan Robert E. Sargent Ardythe E. and Gale E. Sayers Barbara Sereda William R. Stasek Virginia L. Uhlenhop Marianne L. Woodward HONORARY DIRECTORS Margaret M. Adams W. Randolph Adams, Jr. Harold S. Bott, Jr. Joan and Stanley M. Freehling Jane and Allan Gunn Rose Ann and Addison C. Hoof Nancy M. and Charles F. Hovey, Jr. Suzanne S. Meyer Aidan I. Mullett Jacqueline L. Schoellhorn Mary H. and Bernard F. Sergesketter Paul B. Uhlenhop FALL 2007 09/15 VAE SPEAKERS SEMINAR The Cradle, Evanston 9:00 a.m. – 12:00 p.m. 9/29 NAVIGATING EARLY INTERVENTION AND SPECIAL EDUCATION SERVICES Adoptive Parent Workshop* DePaul University, Naperville 9:00 – 11:00 a.m. 09/29 THE CRADLE BALL The Ritz-Carlton, Chicago 6:30 – 11:00 p.m. 8 The Cradle Newsletter CRADLE l Calendar 9:00 to 11:00 a.m. 10/13 AUTUMN MOON FESTIVAL Oakton Community College, Des Plaines 3:00 – 6:00 p.m. 10/16 AIN’T MISBEHAVING – THE DIFFICULT JOB OF DISCIPLINE Adoptive Parent Workshop* The Cradle, Evanston 6:30 – 8:30 p.m. Sisters Zoila & Thi Nga have beautiful smiles! OPEN ADOPTION RELATIONSHIPS AND HOW THEY EVOLVE Adoptive Parent Workshop* The Cradle, Evanston * Fees: $20 per person per workshop, $10 for second family member, nonrefundable. Register online at www. cradle.org/ed_workshops.html or by calling 847.733.3233. 11/03 SUMMER | 2007 A STORY OF OPENNESS CRADLE Events THE CRADLE BALL Creating Families, Changing Lives Saturday, September 29, 2007 The Ritz-Carlton, Chicago Lupe's daughters Alexia and Aaliyah with Julie and Anthony Kaczmarek L upe Maravilla is a lovely young woman with two daughters, five-year-old Aaliyah and threeyear-old Alexia, a great new job at the Chicago Board of Trade, and a wonderful fiancé, Rudy, who has three children of his own. She is also a Cradle birthmom who placed her son Anthony with Sharon and Greg Kaczmarek a little less than four years ago. At the time, she was a frightened and overwhelmed nineteen-year-old, trying to care for her toddler daughter and infant son within an abusive relationship. Fearing for her life, Lupe took Aaliyah and Anthony and fled from the home they shared with her boyfriend. They ended up in a shelter, exhausted, alone and with no money. While watching TV one weekend at the shelter, Lupe saw an ad for The Cradle and decided to call. Cradle birthparent counselor Arletta Diggs arranged to meet Lupe first thing Monday morning at a McDonald’s to talk about her options. When Arletta first saw the scared, bruised young woman, her heart went out to Lupe. A strong bond formed between the two. “Arletta went beyond being my counselor,” Lupe said. “She was always so supportive and inspired me to go on.” That day they also took Anthony to The Cradle Nursery, where he was lovingly welcomed. Lupe is grateful to Arletta for informing her about her rights and educating her about open adoption. Together, they reviewed profiles of waiting families and Lupe selected a couple that ultimately decided to withdraw from the domestic program. Her next choice was the Kaczmareks, whom she met and instantly liked. She was glad that (Continued on page 2) Join us for a splendid evening celebrating The Cradle and families. Our 13th annual black-tie event will feature a cocktail and hors d’oeuvres reception beginning at 6:00 p.m., dinner, dancing, auctions, a raffle and more. Tickets are $300 and can be purchased online at www.cradle.org (click on Cradle Foundation and Events). For more information about the Ball, contact Bonnie Krasny, Events Manager, at 847.733.3234 or bkrasny@cradle.org. AUTUMN MOON FESTIVAL Saturday, October 13, 2007 Oakton Community College, Des Plaines Cradle Connections sponsors this fun fall event for families with children from China, Korea, Vietnam, Cambodia and Taiwan. Participants enjoy traditional entertainment, cultural games, crafts, and an Asian buffet. For more information, contact Maureen Kelly at 847.733.3230 or mkelly@cradle.org. CONGRATULATIONS! Michael and Heather Cichon, and big brother Adam, took baby Nathan home in April. The Cradle's m ission is to benefit ting choices. children... by providing education, guidance and life-long support on paren ies. Our commitment is to ser ve as a partner in creating and sustaining nurturing famil A STORY OF OPENNESS, MESSAGE FROM THE PRESIDENT from page 1 they had two other children, also Cradle babies, who would be older siblings to Anthony. And while placing her son was Dear Friends, the hardest decision she had ever made, Lupe felt secure that Happy summer! I hope you are enjoying the longer days with lots of sunshine and outdoor activities. This time of year both warms the body and lifts the spirit. It is a time when you might glimpse a Cradle nurse taking one of our young charges out for a stroll in the neighborhood. We have witnessed with gratitude the passing of many seasons at The Cradle and the “budding” of many new families. Anthony would be okay. He went home with Sharon and Greg In this season of growth and renewal, we would like to acknowledge all of the individuals who have guided The Cradle and The Cradle Foundation over the years through their service on our boards. These dedicated volunteers share a passionate commitment to our mission, lending their time, talents and support to help ensure The Cradle’s continuing vitality. Some board members have served for decades, while others have only recently joined our leadership. Pictured below are our newest directors. We welcome them and thank them, along with each of our veteran directors, for their exceptional contributions to our work. Sharon said, “but because it is in the best interest of their child.” in September 2003, and since then, the connection between the two families has deepened. Having cultivated good relationships with each of their three children’s birth families, the Kaczmareks are well qualified to talk about openness. Sharon fully recognizes the intense struggle birthmothers go through and the incredible sacrifice they make. “It is a decision they make not because they want to make it,” Over the past few years, Sharon has delighted in watching how far Lupe has come and how proactive she has been in turning her life around. Lupe has taken courses at Truman College and spoken in area high schools about teenage pregnancy, domestic violence and adoption. A year and a half ago she met Rudy, a kind, supportive man who understands the challenges of parenting as a young person. The Kaczmareks have taken Anthony to see Lupe and her family, including her parents and brothers. They, in turn, have come to visit Sharon, Greg and their kids. Best wishes, Everyone in this “extended family,” as Lupe calls it, is looking forward to her wedding on the beach next summer. Julie S. Tye “One of the neatest things about the openness of these relationships is the people that come into our birth families’ lives,” Sharon observed, such as new partners or spouses. Nicole, birthmother of the Kaczmareks’ older son, Andrew, is now married and has two young sons, one of whom is Sharon’s godson. Nicole and Andrew’s birthfather, Kevin, have remained friends and recently spoke at The Cradle Foundation’s golf tournament fundraiser. Ten-year-old Andrew goes on outings with his birth- John Barth, founder of AdaZon Inc. and Cradle dad (x3!) was elected to The Cradle Foundation Board in January 2007. Barbara Sereda, adoptive mom and Founder of Adoption Advocates of America, was elected to The Cradle Board in March 2007. Pamela Amos is an investment analyst and mom to son Chris. She was elected to The Cradle Board in January 2007 parents and half siblings and occasionally spends the night at Nicole’s. The Kaczmareks’ eldest child, Julie, age 12, enjoys a comfortable relationship with her birthparents, who are married and live out of state. Julie’s birth grandparents live in northeast Illinois, where she goes from time to time to visit them and ride their horses. Another benefit of openness, according to Sharon, is that it helps children deal with issues surrounding adoption. “It brings two families together, and there are more people to answer the tough questions” children inevitably ask. Anthony Kaczmarek, who turned four in May, has many people in his life who love him and who’ll be there to answer his questions. 2 The Cradle Newsletter POST ADOPTION WORKSHOPS Open to the Community NAVIGATING EARLY INTERVENTION AND SPECIAL EDUCATION SERVICES IN MEMORIAM Saturday, September 29, 2007, 9:00 to 11:00 a.m. DePaul University, Naperville Campus Get an overview of the Early Intervention system for infants and young children up to 3 years of age and the Special Education system for children from 3 years to young adulthood. Learn about common risk factors, how and when to search for services, eligibility requirements, types of service plans, and how these services can help meet your child’s developmental and learning needs. The Cradle mourns the recent passing of two dedicated and beloved Nursery staff members. Margaret Leonard, a graduate of The Cradle’s Infant Nurse Training Program, devoted thirty-one years of service to the Nursery until her retirement in 2006 due to health issues. She was the only local remain- Presenter Pat Kluzik-Stauch, MA, is an adoptive parent and Early Intervention Specialist with 20 years of experience as ing graduate of this unique program in infant care that was a teacher and educator. started by Florence Walrath in 1923 and continued through AIN’T MISBEHAVING – THE DIFFICULT JOB OF DISCIPLINE 1978. “Even after she retired,” said Nursery Director Victoria Tuesday, October 16, 2007, 6:30 to 8:30 p.m. The Cradle, Evanston Gain a better understanding of your child’s emotions and behavior and how to provide him/her with choices. Learn techniques to be firm but kind, how to be more consistent in your actions, and when consequences do and don’t work. Brooks, “Margaret would come in to hold the babies or fold the laundry.” She also kept in touch with families in the area, to get updates on their Cradle babies. After a long battle with cancer, Margaret passed away on April 25 at age 64. Speaker Nicole Hoffman, Psy.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist who works with children and adults in individual, marital, family and group therapy. OPEN ADOPTION RELATIONSHIPS AND HOW THEY EVOLVE Saturday, November 3, 2007, 9:00 to 11:00 a.m. The Cradle, Evanston Winifred “Winnie” Kauffman, a volunteer Cuddler who became a part-time infant aide six months ago, died suddenly on June 24 following a brain hemorrhage. An adopted person herself, Winnie loved being at The Cradle and caring Several families in open adoption relationships will share their insights and experiences. While every situation is for the babies in the Nursery. Victoria recalls that Winnie unique, all relationships tend to change over time, with ups and downs along the way. Our panel of adoptive parents was thrilled when she got to go on her first baby pick-up. In will offer their observations on openness and on communication with their child’s birthparents. addition to working at The Cradle, Winnie held a doctorate Workshop host and moderator, Susan Vernon, LCSW, is The Cradle’s Director of Post Adoption Services. in education and was on the faculty of Columbia College Fees: $20 per person per workshop, $10 for second family Chicago and National-Louis University. She was fifty-seven. member, non-refundable. Register online at www.cradle. org/ed_workshops.html or by calling 847.733.3233. Both Winnie and Margaret will be deeply missed. CONNECTING WITH l Friends THE SILVER l Cradle W hen Cradle parents Don and Martha Pollack brought six-year-old Rebecca home from Guatemala in 2001, there was a welcome surprise waiting for them. Don, a Senior Vice President at Northern Trust Company, learned that the company provided reimbursement for a portion of their adoption fees, up to a total of $5,000. “The Northern is a very family friendly company, and this is just one way it supports its employees and their families,” said Don. “It’s a recognition that not everyone adds to their family in the same way, and the support is very much appreciated.” The Northern Trust is one of six winners of the 2007 Silver Cradle Award, which is presented annually to Chicagobased companies that provide adoption benefits for their employees. The other winners include Allstate Insurance Co., Baxter International, McDonald’s Corp., Sidley Austin LLP, State Farm Insurance Co. and W.W. Grainger. The awards will be presented at the annual Cradle Ball, to be held on September 29 at the Ritz-Carlton in Chicago. The Silver Cradle Award is sponsored by The Cradle Associates, the young professionals board of The Cradle. Peter Hickey, president of the Associates, says the Silver Cradle is intended to encourage companies to support employees’ efforts to adopt. “There are so many children who need families, and the cost of adoption fees can be prohibitive for some families,” said Peter. “The Silver Cradle Award recognizes companies that are helping their employees connect with children in need of loving homes.” 6 The Cradle Newsletter 6 The Cradle Newsletter W here can you go to learn about modern art or how to prepare a rack of lamb? The answer is The Cradle Foundation, where we have just completed our third in a series of small parties to welcome new friends and reconnect with old friends. Our purpose is to give our donors a better understanding of the depth of Cradle programs and services, and how everyone can help keep them strong. These events feature special guests with a personal connection to adoption. On May 31, we welcomed MacArthur Fellow and adoptive father Inigo Manglano-Ovalle to The Cradle. Inigo discussed the evolution of his extraordinary artwork, and shared the story of his “Iceberg 2004,” a monumental steel and aluminum sculpture that was recently installed at The Art Institute of Chicago. As Cradle President Julie Tye noted that evening, most people have a limited understanding of The Cradle, seeing only the tip of the iceberg as our core adoption program, with the bulk of our services to families, birthparents and children unseen and below the surface. In June, two dozen people met with Julie Tye and Cradle Foundation President Brooke Voss to discuss opportunities for The Cradle through new supportive resources. The evening has spurred further volunteer activity and planning. Our third event was on July 12 at the newly opened Now We’re Cookin’ commercial kitchen and demonstration space in Evanston. Dan Smith and Steve McDonagh, aka The Hearty Boys, entertained us as they prepared a gourmet meal for thirty people. Dan and Steve were the original winners of The Next Food Network Star competition, and now have a cooking show on the network. They are also fathers to Nate, a two-year-old who, we learned, is a dependably picky eater. We are grateful to all who have participated in these events. If you would like to be part of the effort to secure resources to support The Cradle, please call Sue Petersen at 847.733.3227 and she will provide information about our next intimate and informative event. Iceberg 2004 by Inigo Manglano-Ovalle BRINGING THE CRADLE to the Classroom E very adoptive parent has heard the questions. Wellmeaning people ask, “What if he wants to find his ‘real’ mother?” … “How can she be your child if she doesn’t look like you?” Misunderstandings about adoption are common, but more than a hundred Cradle volunteers work hard to spread accurate information. They are members of our Volunteers for Adoption Education (VAE) group. During the 2006-07 school year, VAE spoke to nearly 200 high school and college classes. VAE speakers tell their own stories, and include upto-date information about adoption. Although most presentations are held in high school Health and Child Development classes, VAE volunteers present programs whenever and wherever they receive teachers’ requests, and also represent The Cradle at school and com- NOTEWORTHY THE CRADLE ROCKS! On March 27, the Chicago Tribune ran a terrific commentary about The Cradle by senior correspondent, editor and columnist Charles M. Madigan. Earlier in the month, Madigan had made a donation to The Cradle and came in for a tour with Julie Tye. He praises the organization and our work in his article, concluding that The Cradle “deserves to thrive.” Madigan also highlights the need for donors to give regularly if The Cradle is to continue serving children and families. For a copy of “The Cradle rocks!” contact Heidi Bloom at 847.733.3240 or hbloom@cradle.org. ALP LAUNCHES COURSE #9 Adoption Learning Partners launched its ninth course, “Adopting the Older Child,” on May 10. This engaging, interactive online course is designed to help prospective adoptive parents determine whether adopting an older child, either internationally or through the domestic child welfare system, is right for them. For more information, go to www.adoptionlearningpartners.org. munity health fairs. This year’s presentations covered CRADLE FAMILY IN THE NEWS a huge geographic area – from Antioch High School On May 15, Fox News Chicago aired a poignant story about Cradle parents Meg and Scott Costello and their two Russian sons – Ilyin, who came home with his mom and dad in January of this year, and Nikolai, who has been waiting in a Siberian orphanage since 2004, because the Russian government has not yet cleared his adoption. Julie Tye was also interviewed for this story. For a link to the webcast, e-mail hbloom@cradle.org. in the north, to Coal City High School in the south, to Johnsburg High School in the northwest, and Plainfield and Geneva in the west. Many speakers are needed to handle all the presentation requests. If you’re a birthparent, adopted adult, or adoptive parent, you can help! Since most programs are held during regular school hours, you should have some daytime availability. The next VAE Speakers Training Seminar will be held Saturday morning, September 15, at The Cradle. For more information, please contact Lynne Firestone, Volunteer Coordinator, at 847.733.3229 or lfirestone@cradle.org. NETWORKING for Special Needs Adoptive Parents We are exploring the possibility of organizing an informal support group for Cradle adoptive families in the Chicago area. If you adopted a child with special needs and are interested in meeting with other parents to discuss your experience, share information and socialize, please e-mail Martha King at mkking101@hotmail.com or call Heidi Bloom at 847.733.3240. THE CRADLE SOCIETY IN RUSSIA IS RE-ACCREDITED! In a ceremony on July 4th at the Ministry of Education in Moscow, the Russian government issued an official renewal of accreditation to The Cradle’s Russia adoption program. The Cradle is one of only a handful of U.S. agencies in the first group of agencies being accredited and the only Illinoisbased agency now accredited by the Russian government. This much anticipated move to issue re-accreditations effectively reopens Russia to U.S. families looking to adopt. STAFF MILESTONES Congratulations to the following staff members who recently celebrated anniversaries of more than a decade (or two!) of service to The Cradle: Jane Page, Clinical Director of Adoption Services – 28 years Kathleen Perysian, CIN, The Cradle Nursery – 24 years Diana Lazarus, RN, The Cradle Nursery – 19 years Pam Summers, Case Aide – 16 years SUMMER EVENTS l Benefit the Cradle WE EXTEND OUR SINCERE GRATITUDE TO OUR GENEROUS EVENT SPONSORS AND DONORS: CRADLE CLASSIC SPONSORS GOLD The Connelly Family Foundation, Merrill Lynch (Larry Macy),The Northridge Group, Inc., Water Street SILVER ASC Architects, AT&T (Jerry Gerami and Vicki Jones), BCU, BlueCross BlueShield of Illinois, Evanston Northwestern Healthcare, Susan and Scott Garrett, VeriSign Third place foursome of Ray Finato, Marc Heidkamp, Bob Bourke and Alan Curtis had a great day at Knollwood. L ake Forest’s Knollwood Club, one of the premier golf clubs in Illinois, was the setting for The Cradle Foundation’s seventh annual benefit tournament, The Cradle Classic, held on Monday, June 11. Over 100 friends of adoption turned out for a brilliantly sunny but mild day filled with eighteen holes of golf on this championship caliber course, shootout and putting events, lunch, a silent auction, $1,500 cash raffle and post-tournament reception. The afternoon also included hole-in-one contests to win fabulous prizes including a 2007 Ford Mustang Convertible, a set of Callaway Golf irons and a cruise package for two. Event chair Greg Kaczmarek, a Cradle parent of three, led a dedicated team of volunteers whose efforts helped raise more than $70,000 for The Cradle. We would like to thank everyone who played a part in ensuring the success of this year’s Cradle Classic and congratulate the day’s winners. WINNING FOURSOME Steve Consago, Anthony LoCascio, E.J. Mazzei and Tony Perrelli STRAIGHTEST DRIVE, MEN & WOMEN (HOLE #10) Jerry Bear and Marianne Tadish CLOSEST TO THE PIN, MEN & WOMEN Marc & Marcie Heidkamp (Hole #12) Dave Hormel (Hole #4) LONGEST DRIVE, MEN & WOMEN (HOLE #1) Joe Drygas and Becky Adorable SPECIAL SPONSORSHIPS Juliet S. Amante, Contact Telecom, Garrett Capital Advisors, Mariani Enterprises HOLE SPONSORS Bernardi Securities, Inc., Nicole and Bryce Bulman, Bank of America, Credit Suisse Securities (USA) LLC, Health Advances LLC, Leaders Bank, Carol and Lance Piccolo, Richard F. Riley, Jr. RAFFLE, HOLE-IN-ONE, SHOOTOUT AND PUTTING EVENTS The Quatrochi Family and Westfield Ford A DAY AT THE RACES SPONSORS WIN PFS, Sharmac Capital Management DAILY DOUBLE Cathleen and Joel Jaglin, Ann and Mark Mersmann EXACTA Mary and Jim Connelly, Friends of Peter Hickey SPECIAL SPONSORSHIPS Bridgestone Company, Friends of Corry Connelly IN-KIND DONORS Sunset Foods, Wilmette Pet Supplies Special thanks to the many individuals and businesses that donated silent auction items for the above events. 4 The Cradle Newsletter A DAY AT THE RACES FOUNDATION l Briefs SPECIAL GIVING OPPORTUNITY ENDS DECEMBER 31 From left, Peter Hickey, Callie Chang, Brooke Voss, Alison Tye, Nancy Iida, Dominique Iida, Julie Tye, Corry Connelly and Eric Mersmann A sell-out crowd of 320 Cradle parents, children and friends joined us at Arlington Park on Sunday, June 24 for A Day at the Races. Presented by The Cradle Foundation and The Cradle Associates, this annual all-age event is a favorite among Cradle families. Guests enjoyed beautiful weather, exciting horse racing, an elegant buffet lunch and fun activities for the kids. Thanks to the generous support of our sponsors, attendees, and everyone who purchased a raffle ticket or bid on a silent auction item, A Day at the Races raised more than $45,000 for The Cradle. We would also like to thank event co-chairs Eric Mersmann and Nancy Iida and the members of their committee for organizing such a terrific day. “Once again it was a fantastic afternoon and a lot of fun for everyone who attended the event,” Mersmann said. “A Day at the Races was a great success thanks to the hard work and generosity of many people. The Cradle Associates are very proud of the results.” If you are already taking a minimum required distribution from your IRA, consider donating it to The Cradle Foundation before you pay taxes on it! Under the Pension Protection Act of 2006, Cradle supporters who are 70.5 years or older may make a tax-free distribution of up to $100,000 directly from their IRA to The Cradle Foundation. The gift must be transferred directly from your IRA fund manager prior to December 31, 2007 to qualify. Please call Jenny Merdinger at 847.448.8752 or Stefanie Dziedzic at 847.733.3232 for more information. SUPERVALU SUPPORTS THE CRADLE Minneapolis-based SUPERVALU Inc., the third largest retail grocery chain in the U.S., recently made a $7,000 grant to The Cradle through the company’s “Chip-In for Charity” program and the SUPERVALU Foundation. SUPERVALU senior VP and chief information officer, Paul Singer, is the driving force behind the “Chip-In” initiative, which raises funds in support of adoption and child welfare organizations through employee contributions. Singer is also the father of three girls adopted from Russia. COMBINED FEDERAL CAMPAIGN The Cradle has been approved for inclusion in the 2007 Chicago Area Combined Federal Campaign (CFC). The world’s largest and most successful annual workplace giving campaign, the CFC collects pledges made by federal civilian, postal and military donors during the campaign season (Sept. 1 to Dec. 15) in support of eligible health and human service organizations. If you or someone you know works for the federal government and participates in the CFC, please consider making a pledge to The Cradle Foundation (ID #20149) this year. Thanks!
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