WINTER 2014/15 IN THIS ISSUE • Volunteer Hours in a Box and Training • Criminal Injuries Compensation Board • Upcoming Events and Workshops • Call for Survivors for Research Study 2014/15 BOARD OF DIRECTORS President: Michelle Martin Treasurer: Martin Higgs Secretary: Phillip Redford Directors: April Aldridge Lauricella Catherine McGrath indi Miskolczi Agata Wesolowski Jen Sage Eden Maher Samantha Gervais Registered Charitable Number: 107837528 RR 0001 Mobilizing Voices for Change in 2015 By Sonya Vellenga, Executive Director Welcome to our winter edition of our newsletter! We invite you to read about the work we have done over the past season and our plans for the months ahead. This has been a busy fall! Each day, the media - whether it be print or online - covered an area relevant to the continuum of sexual violence. As a Centre, the impact of enhanced media coverage meant that our volume increased on our phone lines, in our office space, and in our media outreach. I reflect on the story headlines: that of Jian Ghomeshi and a belief that violence without consent is to be assumed, that of Bill Crosby and the assumption of consent while drugged, that of our elective officials on Parliament Hill and the assumption that sexual harassment is a part of all workplaces, that of sexual assault at our colleges and universities and the assumption that sexual violence is part of one’s post-secondary experience. Research tells us that many women do not label their unwanted sexual experience as sexual abuse or assault, but perhaps a ‘bad date,’ and only later acknowledge the violence when triggered by talking about their experience to people who offer her support. We hope that as a society, we are moving to a culture of being the ‘supportive other’ in a survivor’s life; one that does not leave the individual to see themselves as ‘less than’ or shamed because of this unwanted experience. On December 4, 2014, Premier Kathleen Wynne announced a package of initiatives to raise awareness of sexual violence and harassment, enhance prevention initiatives to combat sexual violence, and improve support for victims. As a Centre, we are a member of the Ontario Coalition of Rape Crisis Centres and we are looking forward to fostering a leadership role provincially and locally. The commitment from the province has never been stronger and the Kawartha Sexual Assault Centre is also well positioned to move forward with this work. In addition, as we begin our research study in partnership with local community services, we believe that our community is motivated to move forward. It is with your support that we can continue our work. Let us work together in 2015 to give voice and be heard. 2 Lighting the Way in Our Four Counties Abuse: Survival Stories Comes to Peterborough Take Back the Night is an international movement that is organized in local communities with the purpose of unifying voices in the call to end sexual violence against women. In the four counties of Peterborough, Northumberland, Kawartha Lakes and Haliburton, the Centre welcomed the 230 survivors and allies who participated in four simultaneous Light Your Way Walks as part of this movement. As part of the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence, Kawartha Sexual Assault Centre, Courage Ptbo, the Peterborough SLAM Poetry Collective, and the Survivor’s Advisory Committee of the Peterborough Domestic Abuse Network partnered to host the first Peterboroughbased Abuse: Survival Stories event on Sunday, December 7, 2014. Each county event, partnered with Fleming College, had a different theme on the evening of Thursday, September 18. Haliburton’s walk was lead by bagpipers, Peterborough’s was lead by the Area 705 Roller Derby Team, Kawartha Lakes group met at a Tipi and held a sacred fire, and Northumberland featured singing, poetry and stories. A Toronto-based nonprofit event series, Abuse: Survival Stories supports people who have experienced domestic violence, psychological abuse, and sexual violence. This safe, positive space, which welcomed 50 people to the downtown Peterborough Public Library Auditorium, combined raw testimonials from survivors with inspirational spoken word and song, and creative exercises. Abuse: Survival Stories is a peer-to-peer healing experience that uplifts both the mind and soul. Despite cool temperatures, the events were warm and heartfelt. Kawartha Sexual Assault Centre appreciates the many partnerships we have in the four counties that enabled this event at Fleming College campuses. We want to thank all our performers and volunteers, staff at Fleming College, Ptbo Slam Poetry Collective, Courage Ptbo, Community Care Haliburton and Community Care Lindsay for making this candle lit September evening so compelling and courageous. We want to thank Reesee, Program Director of Abuse: Survivor Stories, Denyce and Paola from the team, for coming up to Peterborough and facilitating this event for our community partners. If you are interested in seeing the event come back to our region, please contact Lisa Clarke at 705-748-5901 ext. 204 or lclarke.ksac@nexicom.net. (Left) On Thursday, September 18, the Centre held the Light the Way Walk, a Take Back the Night event, in the four counties of Peterborough, Northumberland, Kawartha Lakes and Haliburton, with the support of Fleming College. (Photo copyright of the Peterborough Examiner 2014). (Bottom Left) The Centre joined the Peterborough Pride 2014 parade on Saturday, September 20, wearing purple in solidarity with the Courage Ptbo movement. (Bottom Right) To recognize 16 Days of Activism Against Gender Based Violence, the Centre asks us all to “Do Something” in the display window of Brant Basics Office Supply. 3 “My shame was strangling me and now I can breathe.” ~ Client of the Centre Volunteer Hours in a Box: A Community Impact Tool The Volunteer Hours in a Box program is a new initiative that gives potential volunteers and students the opportunity to complete a blocked set of hours in a unique and interactive way. Whether high school or post-secondary students, or community members, the Volunteer Hours in a Box provides an enriched experience by offering various unique opportunities to choose from, such as, hosting a film screening, to advocating through chalk art, making buttons, to starting a bystander intervention initiative. Each box is designed to increase skills, knowledge, and meet the criteria of your community service hours, while supporting our Centre’s mission and services. If you would like to learn more about this exciting opportunity please contact the Volunteer Services Coordinator at 705-748-5901, How to Volunteer Today! Visit www.kawarthasexualassaultcentre.com, go to the volunteer tab and select the KSAC Volunteer Training. Follow the tutorial to help you get started. Through Level 1 training, you will learn more about our Centre and the services we provide. Furthermore, you will be able explore our various volunteer opportunities, the different levels of training we provide, as well as our application process. We offer up to 3 levels of training, plus professional development opportunities, to aide in your volunteer experience depending on your interests. To learn more, we invite you to our next Volunteer Orientation on Tuesday, January 27, 2015 from 6:00 pm to 8:30 pm. Please contact the Volunteer Services Coordinator, Lindsay Haacke, at ksacvolunteers@nexicom.net or 705-748-5901. Level 3 in-class training Tuesday, February 10, 2015 from 6pm to 9pm Tuesday, February 17, 2015 from 6pm to 9pm Tuesday, February 24, 2015 from 6pm to 9pm or to begin the volunteer intake process, please visit www.kawarthasexualassaultcentre.com to complete our Level 1 Volunteer Training. Sowing the S.E.E.D.s for Support Networks Support, Education, Empowerment, Developing Skills (SEED) is a 3-week psycho-educational workshop series for women on healing from sexual violence. The workshop creates a safe learning environment where participants do not have to share personal information or history. Rather, they work together through topics including grounding, self-care, stages of healing, understanding trauma and its impact on the body and mind, understanding and healthy expression of emotions, flashbacks and intrusive thoughts, relaxation techniques, healthy coping skills and resiliency. The workshops use a variety of instructional methods including presentations, grounding techniques and home practice exercises. In the new year, we will be offering a SEED Series for people who support survivors, such as family and partners, and hope to continue to develop our SEED Series to include a workshop for male survivors. After all three workshops are completed; we work with clients to discuss next steps in their healing journey. This workshop series is free, but registration is required. Call Suzie Compeau at 705-748-5901 ext. 206 or our toll free number at 1-866-298-7778. 4 “What I have gained is more self-acceptance, more loving kindness for myself and I am more able to say what I need to say.” ~ Client of the Centre From Our Students: By Amie Kroes -- Doing a student placement at The Kawartha Sexual Assault Centre was the only option I considered when my Masters of Social Work program required a 450 hour internship. I knew I wanted a clinical placement with an opportunity to grow in a variety of areas, such as public education, advocacy, group work, individual counselling and program development. I feel very privileged in that the Centre, and the friendly staff, were able to accommodate my goals. Furthermore, I am thrilled to have had the opportunity to contribute to a Centre where I not only support the mission, but believe it is imperative in our society. At the Centre, courageous souls connect on a daily basis. A part of the work that the Centre does is to support people who have experienced sexual violence. Telling a perfect stranger your story is beyond difficult for many. The people I have worked with have put their faith and trust in me to respond with care, empathy and knowledge that will ultimately help them on their healing journey. In this reciprocal relationship with a client, I have the esteemed privilege to watch a person learn about themselves, learn strategies for coping, learn that sexual violence is never their fault, learn that they are worth ‘it’, and learn how to recreate their new ‘normal.’ People who engage in their own healing work at the Centre parallels to the learning that happens as a student. I now know more about myself, more about strategies for coping, more about sexual violence and its impacts and most importantly, I have learned a lot about the resiliency of humans. If I could only list one take-away moment from my experience as a student at the Centre, I would talk about the inherent dignity and worth of all persons. The Centre’s value of anti-oppressive work speaks truly to my soul, and I can tell that every client who enters through the door feels this. Learning and healing are processes so closely linked. When someone feels valued, respected, able, and supported, they grow. As Benjamin Franklin once said; “Tell me and I forget, teach me and I may remember, involve me and I learn.” I know this to be true because KSAC afforded me these attributes, and I grew. I know this because I saw clients feel this, and witnessed their growth. It was beautiful. It gives me hope. Let’s continue. Tea & Talk Toolkit The Kawartha Sexual Assault Centre in partnership with Elder Abuse Ontario, Community Care City of Kawartha Lakes, Women’s Resources and Adelaide Place, was a recipient of a Canadian Women’s Foundation to fund an abuse awareness project for older adults. In 2014, the Centre launched the Tea and Talk Toolkit for residents of the Kawartha Lakes. In 2015, thanks to the support of the Peterborough Foundation, we will launch a County of Peterborough toolkit! Tea and Talk Toolkit starts a conversation with seniors about healthy relationships, and share resources for support services. Group facilitators may use the toolkit to help talk about maintaining and creating healthy relationships, increasing support networks, and enhancing lives. The kit includes a guideline for exploring the following topics: Dating as an older adult, Communication, Protecting Your Finances, Elder Abuse, Care giving, Self-Esteem, Age and Discrimination. Any seniors group or organization that wants to encourage healthy relationships among seniors can use the toolkit. Its audience is focused on women, but the material is also relevant for a male audience. To order, contact: Karen Basciano at 705-748-5910 ext. 210 5 Update: Criminal Injuries Compensation Board The mission of the Criminal Injuries Compensation Board (CICB): Established in 1971, the CICB is Ontario’s independent adjudicative tribunal that assesses and awards compensation to victims of violent crime in accordance with the Compensation for Victims of Crime Act. Our mission is to respond effectively to the diverse needs of victims of violent crime in Ontario with accessible, fair, respectful and timely assessments of compensation requests. Kawartha Sexual Assault Centre can assist individuals applying for compensation through CICB, by providing application packages, a safe and quiet space to complete their application and mailing their application to ensure privacy and delivery. If someone requires additional one-to-one assistance with their application, we can assist you with connecting with agencies that provide this service. CICB has recently launched several online videos which provide useful tips and information to help guide victims through each stage of the Board process. The videos are: About the Board, Filing a Claim, Preparing for your Hearing, Your Hearing and After the Hearing. They can be viewed on the Board’s website at http://www.cicb.gov.on.ca/en/ news.htm and are available in English, French and with closed captioning. Weaving Our Voices: Re-membering and Reflecting “Art holds out the promise of inner wholeness.” ~ Alain de Botton works of art seemed to latch on to something that had been felt but never clearly recognized before. Weaving Our Voices, an expressive arts group, ran this autumn at Kawartha Sexual Assault Centre. Ten participants met weekly for three months to share in the art of healing. Each weekly session consisted of a poem, a grounding activity, self-care sharing, a discussion and an art project on themes of impacts of the trauma of sexual violence. The goal of Weave is to explore themes of trauma recovery through selfexpression by building a community of women and the arts. Through listening to others, observing their works of art unfold, and marvelling at their own creations, participants also gained self-understanding. Clients saw their resilience; it has value and their lives have worth. There were moments of growth that invited deeper knowledge of art and the expression as a true authentic self. We strived to expand the boundaries of who we think we are. Engagement with art presents us with powerful media that allows us time for the inner work of learning to deal more compassionately and strategically with trauma. Weave is about remembering. Reflecting on past experiences, and “re-membering” (e.g. putting pieces back together in a creative and expressive way). Hope is help and it is cultivated in Weave. With the kindness of others and our own inner resolve, we create hope for healing and hope for a more just society. In the group there is also sorrow; profound losses spill out into the conversation and the art. It is a group for re-balancing, re-centering of self, exploring new media and finding oneself anew. From time to time, participants acknowledged that the Finally, Weave left participants with a sense of appreciation, an appreciation of the survival skills that one has developed through life and for the opportunity to connect and share with others on their healing journey. Weaving Our Voices was facilitated by Expressive Arts facilitator Cheryl Wood, Clinical Counsellor Barb Woolner, and MSW Intern Amie Kroes. The themes in this article come from the seven core functions of expressive arts note in the philosophical work of Alain De Botton and John Armstrong, Art as Therapy, 2013. “I felt very safe emotionally and physically. I was able to deal with and confront many of my fears and triggers.” ~Client of the Centre Upcoming Winter/Spring Events and Workshops CIRCLE OF CARE: Peer Support and Self Care Circle for Women - Second and Fourth Tuesday of Each Month, 10am-12pm at Kawartha Sexual Assault Centre, 411 Water St., Suite 102, Peterborough. Contact ksacvolunteers@nexicom.net or 705-748-5901 for more information. HEALING THROUGH ART: 10-Week Expressive Arts Group for Trent University/Fleming College students Starting January 14, 5-7:30 pm at Kawartha Sexual Assault Centre, 411 Water St., Suite 102, Peterborough. Contact Trent or Fleming Counselling Departments more information. SEED FOR WOMEN: January 14, 21 and 28, 2015 from 1 pm to 3 pm at Kawartha Sexual Assault Centre. Also April 20, 27 and May 4, 2015 from 10 am to 12 pm. SEED FOR PARTNERS AND SUPPORTERS: February 26, March 5 and March 12 from 6 pm to 8 pm at Kawartha Sexual Assault Centre RAISING THE BAR: Helping Survivors Navigate Emotions - This self reflective therapeutic group is geared towards clients who have completed a course of individual therapy. This 10-week group for women focuses on core-mindfulness, distress tolerance, emotional regulation, and interpersonal effectiveness skills. Wednesdays 1:30 pm to 3:30 pm from March 18 to May 20, 2015. Contact the Centre for more information. LUNAFEST SHORT FILM FESTIVAL, a [V]DAY Event: The Centre welcomes back Lunafest, a traveling film festival of short films by, for and about women. Saturday, February 14, 2015 at the Aron Theatre, Campbellford, Ontario. Doors open at 1:30 pm, films start at 2 pm. Call to reserve tickets for $20 for adults, and $12 for students, seniors, and unwaged, at 705-748-5901 (Toll free 1-866-298-7778) or purchase at the door. Visit kawarthasexualassaultcentre.com for more details. This is a One Billion Rising event. FOR THE LOVE OF MOM: CHOCOLATE TEA: A Mother’s Day Family Celebration including a chocolate festival, high tea and a silent auction. Saturday, May 9, 2015 at McDonnel Street Activity Centre, 577 McDonnel St., Peterborough, Ontario, 1pm to 4 pm. Call for tickets, $25 per person at 705-748-5901 (Toll free 1-866-298-7778). Visit kawarthasexualassaultcentre.com for more details. Your Gift Changes Lives Everyday a survivor walks into the doors of the Kawartha Sexual Assault Centre, you know they have made an active choice in their life’s journey to grow and thrive. Your donation empowers the Centre to offer our services in the City of Peterborough and the counties of Peterborough, Kawartha Lakes, Haliburton and Northumberland. Your gift will provide important sexual violence prevention, crisis support, counselling, peer support and public education programs. Stand beside us as we say NO MORE sexual violence in our community. Please DONATE now online at CanadaHelps.org or call Sonya Vellenga, Executive Director, at 705-7485901 ext. 203 or svellenga.ksac@nexicom.net. With Special Thanks to our Funders: Kawartha Sexual Assault Centre, 411 Water Street, Suite 102, Peterborough, Ontario K9H 3L9 Tel: 705-748-5901 Crisis Line: 705-741-0260 Toll Free: 1-866-298-7778 Visit us online at www.kawarthasexualassaultcentre.com, at Facebook and Twitter @ksacstaff
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