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Fish Fry
Spiritual Environmental
Mexico Missions
Do you “Punish” or Discipline” children
October 8, 2014
Wednesday Night | CIA Bible Study at St. Mark's | 6:30pm
Wednesday Night - October 1st - Bring your artistic self - We will be working on our Trunk or Treat
project for October 31. Please bring two new stuffed zoo type animals to donate, we need two of the
same animal. We will also be catching up on Mayberry episodes you might have missed
6:30pm - St. Mark's
Please RSVP, if you are going to the Texas Road House this Wednesday night.
Wednesday Night | October 8th | 5:30pm
Meet at Texas Roadhouse for fellowship and dinner - Pricing for dinner is $8.99 plus beverage
Wednesday Night | October 15th | CIA Bible Study at St. Mark's | 6:30pm
Biblical Theme Commitment - Episode "The Darlings are Coming"
Activities:
Saturday, October 25th | 8:00am | 11:00am
Hike to North Anthony Peak - Bring water, snacks - Moderate Difficulty – RSVP
Sunday, November 9th | ‘God’s Favorite’
El Paso Community College’s Theater Ensemble presents Neil Simon’s story of Job set in Long Island,
N.Y. at the EPCC Trans Mountain Campus Forum. Showtime is 2:30pm
We are looking for volunteers for the following positions:
9am – 1st and 2nd | Grade Sunday School Teachers
11am – Sunday | TNT Leaders for 5th and 6th Grade Tweeners
6:30pm – 8:00pm | Mid-Week Mission Kids Leaders for Wednesday Night
Service Projects
Contact Joyce Yellock, 915-581-4444
Mission Kids, our midweek program for kids 1st-5th grade
Wednesdays | 6:30pm
Contact Joyce Yellock, 915-581-4444
Greg Harrell
Kenneth O. Agbita
Jennie Bouchard-Hall
Taber Bouchard-Hall
Josh Drake
Christinia R.Golden
Paul Herrera
Jason Hill
Aaron Lane
Courtnay Madden
Matthew McMurtry
Carrie Pommeranz
R. J. Rahey
Tyler Ryan
Stephen Marion
“The 2-29”
Walter Golden III
Mark Griggs
Matthew Wingo
Michael Weiss
John Longenbaugh
Robert Ed
Patrick Kilroy
Alton Weber
James Lay
Bryan Ed
Mexico Missions is preparing for our fall activities including “Trunk or
Treat”, “Thanksgiving Turkey Outreach” at the Children’s Home, and
hopefully a food and clothing drive this fall. (Stay Tuned for how you
can help).
A very special thanks to all of our wonderful Sponsors for your
continued support !!!!
Our outreach in Juarez is making a difference in the lives of many
children and their families. These children don’t stand a chance
without God, a safe place to live, nourishing food and an education.
Your support, no matter how large or small, is making the difference.
God Bless,
St. Mark’s Mexico Missions
For more information on how you can help call:
Richard Bookout
915-630-5640
Al Lindstrom
915-833-6555
Adrian Slater
915-740-7140
Church Office
915-581-4444
Wellness Coach, Deborah Haddock & St.
Mark’s invite you to join us on a life changing
journey!
Wellness Coaching is a relationship
between an individual and a trained coach who
assists you in clarifying values, setting goals,
and changing behaviors. It is specifically
designed to help you decrease unhealthy
behaviors and increase more helpful behaviors
in the physical, emotional, spiritual,
or social aspects of life. Wellness coaching is
time-limited and is NOT pastoral counseling or
psychotherapy.
Topics are as varied as the person seeking
coaching, but issues commonly addressed by
wellness coaches include:
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Managing stress
Balancing work/life
Creating exercise and healthy eating
plans
Developing meaningful connections with
others
Developing meaningful spiritual
practices
Deborah Haddock is a member of St.
Mark's and received her Wellness Coaching
training through the Mayo Clinic in Rochester,
MN.
For more information regarding wellness
coaching or to make an appointment, you can
contact Deborah: 612-940-0653 or
Irishgirl.Bray@gmail.com. Appointments will be
available Thursday evenings and Saturday
mornings at the church.
Congregational Care Ministry is in need of
bedroom furniture for an army family and baby
furniture for another family.
If you would like to help, please call:
Frances Gonzalez 915-581-4444
Lillie Harvey is looking for a
roommate to share a 3
bedroom house in the Upper
Valley area.
For more details:
915-587-4537
Mondays
Next Meeting
Conference Room
October 13th
Monday | 10:00am
Choir Room
5:45pm Dinner
6:30pm Study
Anyone interested in joining us?
Please contact Joyce Yellock
915-581-4444
Three Possible Outcomes
As you begin to emotionally stabilize, it is
important to look at the future and decide how
this experience of separation or divorce will
affect the rest of your life. Keep in mind that it is
your choice how this experience will affect your
future. H. Norman Wright discusses three
possible outcomes for the experience of
separation or divorce in your life. Which will you
choose?
Practical Help
Don’t underestimate the value of giving
practical help, But be observant. The kind
of help needed will vary from one person to
another.
Barbara Johnson shares, “I wish people
would have just come and told me they
love me and that God loved me, and then
help me feed the dog, take care of the
house, dump the garbage do some things
like that. Doing practical things would have
been good because so many things were
causing turmoil for me rather than comfort.
So I learned that the words should be few
and that it is better to do practical things to
help the family. Bring some casseroles;
feed the children; do the laundry.”
If you could use practical help, ask for it.
People want to help and usually find it
easier to help with a specific task or
responsibility.
So in everything, do to others what you
would have them do to you, for this sums
up the Law and the Prophets.
Matthew 7:12
Receive help with open arms and an
appreciative outlook. Offer help with the
same caring attitude.
Lord God, even when I’m not sure how
another person will respond to my
overtures, give me the courage to find a
practical way to help and to just do it!
Amen.
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Your life can change for the worse, which
means you continue to let the situation
control and dominate you. You become
so immobilized and damaged by this
experience that you continue through
life crippled emotionally, mentally, and
spiritually.
Your life can stay the same. You aren’t
damaged, but you haven’t really learned
and grown through this experience.
Your life can change for the better. That
means you eventually move away from
asking God, why did this happen, to the
place where you can say, how can I learn
from this, how can I grow through this,
and how can God be glorified through
what I have gone through?
Claim this Bible verse with the psalmist:
“It was good for me to be afflicted so that I might
learn your decrees” (Psalm 119:71).
Dear Lord, this whole experience has been
horrible, but it happened and it’s still happening.
As I live today and as I look to the future, I pray
that my life is changing for the better. I know this
is possible because of who You are. Amen.
By Dr. Scott Turansky
Have you ever thought about the difference between punishment and discipline? There’s really
quite a difference. Punishment gives a negative consequence, but discipline means to teach.
Punishment is negative; discipline is positive. Punishment focuses on past misdeeds.
Discipline focuses on future good deeds. Punishment is often motivated by anger. Discipline is
motivated by love. Punishment focuses on justice to balance the scales. Discipline focuses on
teaching, to prepare for next time.
The child who teases relentlessly, the child who whines for a snack, and the child who bickers
with others all have one thing in common: a need to change patterns of behavior and a need to
change the heart. Some teachers/parents only use punishment or anger to motivate their
children to act differently. This attitude says, “If I just point out the problem enough times, he’ll
eventually change.”
What these kids really need is firm correction with a positive focus. Be sure to tell your children
what they should do in place of the unwanted behavior. Teach them right responses to replace
the negative ones. Have them practice doing the right thing before they are free to go. It takes
more work to discipline instead of punishment, but the rewards are certainly worth it. Children
grow and develop new patterns of healthy responses.
A Blessing for Your Child:
Lord,
Lord, I pray that You would give (name of child) a heart that desires to obey
You. Put into him (her) a longing to spend time with You, in Your Word and in
prayer, listening to Your voice. Shine Your light upon any secret or unseen
rebellion that is taking root in his (her) heart, so that it can be identified and
destroyed. Amen
Proverbs 1:8-9
The Power of a Praying Parent
Weekend Services
Saturday
5:32pm Evening Contemporary Worship
Sunday – Love Road Campus
8:00am
9:00am
10:00am
11:00am
Word & Table
Praise & Worship
Traditional Worship
Praise & Worship
Senior High Youth
Sundays
10am Walker Annex, room 3
Class: Romans, verse by verse
Tuesdays 5:45pm Youth Group
Sunday – Grace Campus
9:00am Traditional Worship
Our Pastoral Staff
Rev. Jon Moore, Sr. Pastor
Rev. Tina Cross, Associate Pastor
Rev. Matt Bridges, Associate Pastor
Mid-High Youth
Sundays - 11am - Walker Annex, room 3
Class: Student Life, The Church
Sundays - 12:30pm Walker Annex
Quick Reference List
Church Office:
phone: 581-4444
fax: 581-1866
Wednesday, October 8
8:45am
9:00am
9:30am
5:45pm
6:30pm
6:30pm
6:30pm
6:30pm
6:30pm
6:30pm
Women’s Bible Study – Ayoub
Women’s Bible Study – Garibay
Blessed and Broken study – Ladybug
Dinner at the church
Courageous- Men’s Bible study - Perales
18-24 Young Adults Group
CIA Singles-OFF-SITE(October 8th only)
Say What?
Bible Study w/ Pastor Jon
Mission Kids
Thursday, October 9
10:00am
11:30am
6:30pm
6:30pm
Women’s Bible Study – Owen-OFF-SITE
Men’s Bible Study at Great American Steakburger
Men’s Bible Study- The Helper
Women’s Bible Study – Rash
Friday, October 10
7:00pm Narcotics Anonymous
Saturday, October 11
5:32pm Saturday Worship Service
Sunday, October 12
Nursery is always available during worship.
8:00am Word & Table Worship Service
9:00am Traditional Worship Service on Grace Campus
9:00am Praise & Worship Service
10:00am Traditional Worship Service
11:00am Praise & Worship Service
12:30pm Mid High Youth Group
12:30pm Fish Fry
Monday, October 13
web: www.loveroad.org
Pastors’ Assistant
Nancy Watters nwatters@loveroad.org
Children and Family Ministries Director
Joyce Yellock jyellock@loveroad.org
Preschool Programming Administrator
Norma Covington ncovington@loveroad.org
Youth Director
Jachin Ford jford@loveroad.org
Congregational Care Director
Frances Gonzalez fgonzalez@loveroad.org
Congregational Care ccm@loveroad.org
Office Manager
Elena Flores eflores@loveroad.org
Office Assistant
Susangail Roberts ladybug@loveroad.org
Communications Director
Terrence D. Johnson tjohnson@loveroad.org
Operations Manager
Arlene Cooper acooper@loveroad.org
Maintenance
Scott Spidel sspidel@loveroad.org
St.Mark’s Early Education Office: 581-2186
stmarkskids@aol.com
St.Mark’s School Office: 581-2032
web: www.stmarksep.com
Rehearsals
Jazz Unlimited
Tues., Oct. 14
6:30pm
5:30pm Connect 3
6:00pm Open Gym
Tuesday, October 14
2:00pm
5:45pm
5:45pm
6:30pm
6:30pm
6:30pm
7:00pm
Bible Study-Grace by Max Lucado-Grace campus
Dinner at the church
Getting Down To Business
Senior High Youth
Program Staff
Tues., October 14
Divorce Care
Worship Planning Tues., October 14
Grief Share
Cancer Care
Parenting small group
Messenger is published weekly
by St. Mark’s UMC,
5005 Love Road, El Paso 79922
Issue 10/2, October 8, 2014
Editor: T. Johnson
Deadline for articles:
Monday morning
9:00am
11:30am