Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc. VALLEY OF THE SUN CHAPTER “For the Families & Friends of those who have died by violence” 19620 North 38th Avenue, Glendale AZ 85308-2215 Chapter Phone: (602) 254-8818 Chapter E-mail: BeckieRose@aol.com * National Organization of Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc. (POMC) 4960 Ridge Ave. Suite 2, Cincinnati, OH, 45209 (513-721-5683) Fax (513-345-4489) http://www.pomc.com/phoenix/index.html Toll Free Number (888) 818-7662 Volume 22: No. 10 October 2013 MONTHLY MEETING LOCATIONS 4th Tuesday Grief support meetings EAST VALLEY SUPPORT Tuesday, October 22, 2013 7 PM 4th TUESDAYS Special Note: For the Eastside Support Group Meeting, please consider bringing nonperishable/canned food items to donate to the church. Mountain View Lutheran Church 11002 S. 48th Street, Phoenix (1/2 mile West of I-10 at 48th Street & Elliot) Room 8 Facilitator: Mari Bailey (602) 405-7401 maribailey@gmail.com Co-facilitator: Mark & Sandy LeGault (480) 242-0038 WEST VALLEY SUPPORT Tuesday, October 22, 2013 7 PM 4th TUESDAYS Antioch Church of God in Christ 9600 West Peoria Avenue (NW Corner of 96th Ave/W Peoria Ave) West of Loop 101 Special Note: Consider bringing some personal hygiene items for the church's donation center. Facilitator: Beckie Miller (623) 582-2406 Co-facilitator: Kathy Hernandez (623) 707-6825 CRIME VICTIMS LEGAL ASSISTANCE PROJECT Free legal aid to help assert victims' rights through Arizona Voice for Crime Victims @ (480) 727-7465, P.O. Box 875920, Tempe, AZ 85287-5920 or contact Mary Wallace at mwallace@voiceforvictims.org SPEAKER/INFORMATION MEETING (2nd Tuesday Meeting) Tuesday, October 8, 2013 7:00 p.m. (PLEASE NOTE NEW LOCATION) *** Mountain View Precinct 2075 East Maryland Phoenix AZ (off AZ 51 at 20th Street between Glendale Avenue and Bethany Home Road) Our meeting this month will feature Sunny Dawn Johnston, a psychic medium, teacher, speaker and author. Sunny first came to our meetings as a member of the Find Me organization, a group of retired law enforcement, psychics and search dogs who find missing homicide victims. She has presented at several of our POMC National Conferences as well. NEWSLETTER EDITOR Mail Memorial Page items for “The Journey”, by the 10th of the month prior to publication to: POMC Newsletter 19620 North 38th Ave Glendale AZ 85308 Please use order form on Page 11 You can also email items to beckierose@aol.com Be sure to place any article or picture in an attachment, otherwise it can’t be accessed properly (especially pictures) and may not be used. Also, be sure to put POMC Newsletter in the subject line of the email. “Death leaves a heartache no one can heal. Love leaves a memory no one can steal.” Tracy Beattie October 1, 1995 Michael Arballo, Jr. October 6, 2001 Paul R. Leyvas, Jr. October 10, 2001 Gilbert Alanis October 1, 1999 Joanna Youngdog October 7, 1988 Jessica Sue Kosobucki October 10, 2004 Gracie Zazueta October 1, 2002 Daisy Del Rio October 7, 1997 Donald Martinez October 10, 2004 Daniel Todd Richardson October 2, 1995 Rachelle Gonzales October 7, 1999 Doni Carnesi October 11, 1993 Joshua James Wolfe October 2, 1996 Lisa Fishbacher October 7, 2006 Kimberly Rowe October 12, 2001 Candace Cheney October 2, 1998 Gregory Eli Holman October 8, 2006 Addison Kiman Baldwin October 12, 2010 Chris Hess October 2, 1999 Joe Andriano October 8, 2000 Samantha Ackland October 14, 1994 Aaron Sweeney October 3, 1995 Henry E. Verdugo October 8, 2000 Teofilo “Terry” Dante Ranieri, Jr. October 14, 2002 Jaime David C. Hernandez October 4, 1992 Charyl Campbell October 8, 2006 Frank Vasquez October 4, 2011 Shelly Dupee October 9, 1988 Mary Gonzales October 5, 1997 Bobby “BJ” Pimbert, Jr. October 9, 1993 Brendon Eric Chavez October 5, 2001 Anthony Lee Hernandez October 9, 2006 Leon Villareal October 5, 2006 Anthony Romero October 9, 2006 Glen Tate October 6, 1997 James & Josephine Fanciullo October 10, 1999 2 DeRon A. Self October 14, 1991 Karen Campbell October 14, 2007 Gabriel Rodriguez October 14, 2007 Barbara Cappe October 15, 2009 Monique Cota October 15, 2011 Kyle Chipley October 15, 2012 Continued. . . . . Carolan Evening Wind Eaks October 16, 1978 Chad Barrick October 20, 2007 Robert Johnson October 26, 2008 Daniel Justin "DJ" Rodgers October 17, 1997 Kimberly D. Rowe October 21, 2001 Janet Marie Leonhardt October 27, 1986 Stephen Campbell October 17, 2000 Nathan Campbell October 21, 2005 Angelo Miguel Martinez Mack October 27, 1997 David Wayne Brown October 17, 2002 Shannon Hughes October 22, 1996 Eddie Villalobos, Jr. October 27, 2004 Zachary Joseph Marco October 17, 2010 Jeffrey Coyle October 22, 2001 Paul James Kapitz October 27, 2009 Brandon Rumbaugh October 18, 2003 Sean Goodpasture October 22, 2003 Benny Espejo October 28, 1990 Lisa Gurrieri October 18, 2003 Rashelle Lauren Carpenter October 22, 2005 Cheryl McGaffie October 28, 2002 Kauri Greene October 18, 2008 Derrick Goode October 22, 2006 Ysidro Losoya, Jr. October 28, 2005 Randy Metheny October 18, 2008 Christopher Paul Schultz October 23, 2001 Santiago Zaragoza October 29, 1996 Brian Ray Miller October 19, 1991 Robert Diez October 24, 1994 Jeffrey Arigoni October 30, 1995 Jesus Tanon October 19, 2003 Roy Munoz October 25, 1991 Robi Yaramata October 30, 1995 Bruce Liptak October 20, 1980 Leanee Marie Donoghue October 25, 2002 Jeffrey Arigoni October 31, 1995 Michael Anthony Chiara October 20, 2000 Vincent Garcia October 26, 1997 Schara Irene Marshall October 31, 1998 Paul Leyvas, Jr. October 20, 2001 Richard Ruiz October 26, 1998 Joey Romero October 31, 2010 Jermaine Johnson October 20, 2006 Jesse Aguilar October 26, 2006 *Every effort is made to ensure accuracy on these pages. Please notify us if changes need to be made or someone added. 3 VALLEY OF THE SUN CHAPTER NEWS TRIAL, JUDICIAL & ARREST UPDATES ● The convicted murderer of Paul James Kapitz, son of Ken and Carolyn of Wisconsin, was found dead in Florence prison in August. Apparently he committed suicide though an investigation is ongoing. Paul was murdered in October of 2009 by a co-worker. “Our hearts, thoughts and prayers are with each and every family member as they endure this necessary but difficult process.” IN LOVING MEMORY GIFT DONATIONS (THANK YOU!) (*All donations are tax deductible: Our chapter exists on the generosity of others and grants) ♥ Debbie Spencer in very loving memory of her son, Justin Spencer. ♥ Don & Beckie Miller in very loving memory of their son, Brian Ray Miller. ♥ Carolee Holbrook in very loving memory of her son, Brett Holbrook. CORPORATE & OTHER DONATIONS THANK YOU! UNITED WAY (Please Note: the write in number to designate funds to our chapter through your employee contributions is 0772) You must use this number for designating any funds to go to our chapter. Our chapter name is not listed except by number.) MARICOPA COUNTY ATTORNEY'S OFFICE RICO FUNDS (for the chapter printing costs) WALMART ◄◄◄ PLEASE NOTE NEW ADDRESS FOR CHAPTER MAILING►►► We have a new address for the chapter, 19620 North 38th Avenue, Glendale AZ 85308-2215. We closed our PO Box and mail is supposed to be forwarded to us but that has not always been happening so if something you sent was returned, please resend. COLD CASE REGISTRY FOR HOMICIDES The Phoenix Police Department now has a Cold Case Registry on line. The link is http://phoenix.gov/police/investigations/coldcase/index.html. The second phase of this website project will eventually include a searchable listing of cold cases with a brief synopsis of each case. Interested persons can then send us information on the case or be routed to Silent Witness should they want to do so. Hopefully, this will generate more tips and leads and move more cases to successful resolution. Many family members just need to know their loved one's case is still open, and hopefully this will give them solace that the case is not forgotten. SPEAKER INFORMATION MEETING IN SEPTEMBER Our meeting this month featured our own Kathy Hernandez presenting on "Healing Through Music and Movement." Kathy dances hula at many of our chapter events and also presents this workshop at our national conferences. The power of music and movement (dance) can help us to heal if we open ourselves up to the possibility. Kathy has always loved dance and was on her way to doing so professionally when a car accident at the age of 17 nearly severed her foot. She still has a tremendous amount of scarring and a lot of pain constantly in her foot but it does not stop her from doing what she loves. We have a lot of scarring and pain in our hearts and experiencing joy or doing what we love after the murder of our loved one (s) is not an easy task. If we work hard on our grief and realize our loved ones would not wish up to give up enjoying whatever life we are granted, we can allow ourselves the freedom to have fun, to do what we love and to DANCE, even if we can't do it well, as a few of us learned at the meeting. We had fun, though and even Lt. Tomory got up and danced as well as a staff member from the precinct who heard the music and joined us. NEW NAMES ADDED TO THE MEMORIAL WALL "IN THEIR LOVING MEMORIES" Jesse James Ortiz, Age 44, Murder Date 9/12/2012 Darrick Michael Hendrix, Age 23, Murder Date 6/6/2013 Jesse M. Casillas Age 7 & Edwin Pellecier, Jr. Age 10, Murder Date 12/26/2008 4 ►CHAPTER WINDOW DECALS AND BRACELETS FOR SALE◄ We have custom made white window decals in a beautiful circular design with our name, chapter web site, and logo with a sun surrounding a parent/child for sale. They are $10 and they are for the outside of your car window and last through weather and car washes or you can even put them on house windows ( I did). Also our Chapter Bracelets are black and red multi with “POMC” and “Always in our Hearts” (our loved ones) on them. These are only $3. To order, just send a note and payment to: PO Box 39603, Phoenix AZ 85069-9603. The window decals are better than bumper stickers, easier to remove when needed and come with instructions for attaching and help bring awareness to POMC and let others who need us know about us. SIBLING ON LINE SUPPORT Amanda Harris, a member of our chapter, has formed an on line Sibling Support venue. www.unitingsiblings.com or phone her for more information at 623-866-3189. Amanda lost her brother Joshua to murder and understands the sibling grief in a way only siblings can. NATIONAL POMC INFORMATION ☺ CINCINNATI, OHIO OFFICE☺ ● NEW POLICY BY NATIONAL BOARD OF TRUSTEES: At the recent board meeting, the Board voted to adapt the policy that: every chapter that has been in existence for one year or more will be required to pay to National POMC $200 a year or 10% of funds raised - whichever number is greater. Money must be sent along with the Chapter's Annual Report. ● NATIONAL LOOKING FOR YOUR EXPERTISE: If you are an attorney, CPA, skilled writer or other professional who can lend some time to help POMC with your professional skills, please contact the National Office at: natlpomc@pomc.org. ●NEW POLICY BY NATIONAL BOARD OF TRUSTEES: "The National Organization of Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc., shall not assume a position on matters regarding religion, political elections, the death penalty or gun control and shall remain neutral regarding these issues." ●SAD NEWS: We are so sorry to let you know that Bob Matthews died last month. He was a past Chapter Leader of the Maine Chapter and he will be greatly missed by the Chapter and his POMC family. ● THANK YOU: A great big THANK YOU to Sherry Nolan, Terry Barton, and the Greater Cincinnati Area Chapter for a wonderful conference. We received a lot of positive feedback on everything involving the conference such as the beautiful historic hotel, the different workshops and the food was excellent! Thank you to all who attended and we hope that they found comfort and made many new friends. ● ACTS OF SIMPLE KINDNESS SCHOLARSHIPS: Acts of Simple Kindness, Inc., ("ASK") provides financial assistance for dependent children of widows and widowers under the age of 18. The financial assistance must be used to fund a program or class within the areas of education, sports, music or the arts. Applications that are for purposes other than these four will be discarded. For more information, please go to http://actsofsimplekindness.org/grant-program/ ●DONATIONS AND SUPPORT OF NATIONAL POMC: There are many ways to help with much needed funds for POMC, including any items you buy on Amazon.com, as well as if you shop the Kroger Stores. It is very simple and does not cost you anything and yet your purchase allows a percentage from these companies to go directly to National. Please go on-line to www.pomc.org and see how you can sign up for this or contact dslone@pomc.org ● AUTO DONATIONS: We are encouraging all chapters and contact persons to get involved with POMC Debit Authorization. You can now donate to NATIONAL POMC by setting up an automatic withdrawal from your bank account to National. Contact National for a debit authorization form. This is a fast and easy way to make a donation to National to help us help others. Your donation is withdrawn at the same time of the month each month and no amount is too small. We appreciate your help during these difficult economic times. ●PAROLE BLOCK PROGRAM: To date this program had kept more than 1357 prisoners who committed murders from being released early. Parole Block was begun in 1990 and all members across the United States whose loved one’s killer is up for early release/parole consideration can file a petition with National that is sent nationwide for signatures protesting their release. 5 TOPIC FORUM: POMC has a “Topic Forum” on its web site. It provides a place where survivors all over the U.S. can communicate with each other. It’s a good place to suggest to those who aren’t able to attend monthly grief support meetings to utilize the support. Please let your members know that it is there for additional support so that they can tell their other family members, co-workers and friends who may be in states where we have no POMC chapters. SECOND OPINION SERVICES: A program that provides second opinions on unsolved or complicated cases by a national board comprised solely of experts in the medical, law enforcement and investigative fields. MURDER IS NOT ENTERTAINMENT (MINE) PROGRAM: Through this program, POMC raises public awareness to the insensitivity of murder as entertainment through toys, games, murder mystery weekends, drive by shooting fashions, serial killer trading cards and anything that glamorizes violence. BIG TURN OFF: This is an annual event, each January, in which citizens are asked to turn off their televisions for one evening during prime time hours to protest the violence on television. MURDER WALL: (A traveling tribute honoring the memories of murder victims). A photo album is also available with each plaque. Currently, the cost is $75 to add your loved ones names to the Walnut Plaques that comprise the Murder Wall. You have two pages for the photo album to add information, poetry or pictures. SILENCED VOICES: A program begun in January 2002 which advocates for the vigorous investigation and prosecution of those responsible for the murder of abused children. The first case was that of Brandi Conley. POMC was instrumental in bringing charges against her parents. ●SURVIVORS NEWSLETTER: This is a newsletter provided through National POMC and your subscription helps support national programs and services. Order form below. NATIONAL POMC SURVIVORS NEWSLETTER SUBSCRIPTION FORM Please find enclosed $10.00 for my annual subscription (three issues) for the Survivors Newsletter. Please consider adding an extra subscription fee to help defray the cost for someone who cannot afford it. Name:____________________________ Address:__________________________ City:_____________________________ State/Zip:_________________________ Phone: ( )______________________ Mail to: POMC, Inc. 4960 Ridge Avenue Suite 2 Cincinnati, OH 45209 Enclosed is my _____Check _____Money Order In the amount of $_______for _______year (s) subscription. Please charge $___________for ____year(s) subscription to my: ____Visa ____Master Card Card Number:_________________________ Expiration Date:_______________________ ____I have enclosed an extra subscription fee to defray the cost for someone who cannot afford a Survivors Newsletter subscription. must find my own path. 6 BRENDON ERIC CHAVEZ 12/10/77- 10/05/2001 A Picture Of You I only have a picture now, A frozen piece of time, To remind me of how it was, When you were here, and mine. The angels came and took you, That really wasn't fair. If only they had asked me, If I would take your place, I would have done so willingly, Leaving you this world to grace. I see your smiling eyes, Each morning when I wake. I talk to you, and place a kiss, Upon your lovely face. You should have had so many years, To watch your life unfold. And in the midst of this, Watch me, your Mum grow old! How much I miss you being here, I really can not say. The ache is deep inside my heart, And never goes away. I hope you're watching from above, At the daily tasks I do. And let there be no doubt at all, I really do love you and miss you every day. I hear it mentioned often, That time will heal the pain, But if I'm being honest, I hope it will remain. Love you always, my son! I need to feel you constantly, To get me through the day. I loved you so very much, Why did you go away? MOM & Dad Through the Fall (By: Laurel Dammann) Today I saw the world fall apart before my eyes, All of it blown away into the burning colored skies. I thought no one could hear me Crying lonesome in the street, But someone took my hand and helped me to my feet. I found a lonely stranger Lost in the darkened night, I told him that together We could find the flickering light. I kept him from going under, I kept him standing tall, Because we came together We helped each other through the fall... They kept me from going under, They kept me standing tall, Because we came together They helped me through the fall. 7 LISTEN TO OUR STORIES (by: Nita Aasen, St. Peter, Minnesota) Reprinted from Bereavement Magazine March/April 2000 I was in my middle-adult years when I found myself reflecting on life and how lucky I had been to not have experienced any major catastrophes. I wondered if it were possible I could actually go through life without experiencing some kind of tragedy. A few months later I had my answer in no uncertain terms. Two of my three young-adult sons, Erik and David, were killed in a freak car accident on Thanksgiving Day, 1994. Several years after experiencing this personal disaster, the entire community of St. Peter, Minnesota, experienced a full-blown tornado on March 29, 1998. When the sirens began wailing, I turned on the local radio station and heard an urgent warning: "Anyone who lives in St. Peter get to your basement, NOW!" The urgency in the broadcaster's voice was real; this was not the ordinary run-of-the-mill storm warning. Our community was in for the storm of a lifetime. Within two minutes, a tornado wall one-and-a-half miles wide roared into town at twohundred miles an hour, disrupting the lives of more than ten-thousand people. What I saw when I emerged from the basement took my breath away. It looked like a war zone! More than a thousand homes were destroyed or damaged, twenty-thousand trees were gone, and nearly everyone shared loss of power or phone service for at least three weeks. Disasters are life-changing experiences for most people. Most hurricanes, tornadoes or earthquakes, devastate an entire neighborhood. In contrast, the devastation resulting from individual disasters, such as accidents, diseases or debilitating illnesses, are primarily limited to the immediate family. A common need among people experiencing disasters, no matter what kind, is to tell their stories. Yet, prevailing cultural norms suggest that there is a greater comfort level in listening to stories about a disaster that effects the community than there is for personal tragedy. The post-tornado victims were asked over and over again, "Where were you during the tornado? How much damage did you have? What did the tornado look like?... sound like?...feel like?" These questions were conversation ice-breakers! Instant connections were made. The questions invited everyone to tell their stories over and over again. Kiwanis, one of the community service clubs, invited people to submit their stories for publication in a "Tornado Book." Everyone, kids and adults alike, was given the opportunity to tell his or her story so that years from now others would have a sense of what really happened that March tornado day. A friend observed, "Anytime someone brings up the tornado experience in a conversation, even fifty years from now, they will be able to tell their "tornado story." The destruction from the tornado is mind boggling, but as a bereaved mom, the devastation that occurred from my personal tornado is even greater. A living nightmare follows the death of a child. The debris from the loss magnitude defies description. On the horrific day when my two sons were killed, I began a grief journey the likes of which I could never have imagined. Experiencing both kinds of disasters has helped me become aware of how they differ. While a community disaster affects a large number of people, an individual death is felt only by immediate loved ones. When the impact of a loss is limited, it becomes more difficult or uncomfortable for grievers to find others to whom they can tell their stories of loss, grief and pain. "Talking about our loved ones will not increase the level of sadness, instead, bringing the name of a loved one into conversation is a treasured gift regardless of the length of time since the loss." Sharing an individual loss with others is more likely to be a conversation stopper. Because of personal discomfort in confronting an individual's grief, the window for sharing stories about a loved one tends to close rather quickly. In a community-wide tragedy, it usually remains open for a great deal longer. In a few short days or months after a personal loss, a loved one's name may be dropped from conversations. Yet the need of the loved ones left behind to tell their story is ongoing. The bereaved may try to slip their loved one's name into conversation, only to have the subject changed abruptly. Because they are sensitive to social cues, the bereaved "button up." Any further sharing of personal thoughts and feelings about loss, and life after loss, tends to become dependent on invitation. 8 One of my son's good friends was a reporter for the local newspaper, and during the first year following my sons' deaths, his assignments would routinely bring him to my work site. He made a point to check in with me each time. The conversations would invariably come around to talking about our mutual loss. His statement, "I think about it all the time, but I can't say anything," was revealing. So, we conveniently gave each other a safe place to talk about "it." Compassionate and caring people often fall silent because they don't know how to respond appropriately to grievers, especially when it involves the death of a young person. Feeling obligated to abide by this unspoken request for silence, often the bereaved become silent as well. What accounts for the difference in the level of ongoing interest in a community disaster versus a personal tragedy? What makes it more difficult to hear grief stories that relate to the death of an individual loved one? Might it be more comfortable to talk about things that can be replaced, homes that can be rebuilt, or trees that can be replanted than it is to talk about people who can never be replaced? Is it too difficult to hear how family members or friends are struggling to manage their grief? Or is it too hard to understand how a griever's entire view of the world, and his place in it, may have taken an 180 degree turn? Does seeing obituaries day after day, or hearing stories about death in all media forms, desensitize us to death, grief and pain? When death is seen "from a distance," it just doesn't seem like that big a deal. However, when a personal disaster strikes, loss is personalized into every fiber of one's being for all time. Is there a lack of awareness that acute grief tends to transition into chronic grief and may even be lifelong? In those situations, when grief may have no ending point, finding meaning and purpose in one's changed life becomes the ongoing story. Or is it because of "all of the above" that caring others do not know what or how to say it that keeps personal grief out of conversations? Is there a fear that bringing the name of a loved one into a conversation will resurrect painful memories and make the griever sad? Talking about our loved ones will not increase the level of sadness, instead, bringing the name of the loved one into the conversation is a treasured gift regardless of the length of time since the loss. One bereaved parent captured the sentiment well, "I need to hear my daughter's name brought up in conversations. I need to talk about her. I need to know she has not been forgotten." Many bereaved parents will speak of the fear that their child (or children) will be forgotten. And, if they never hear anyone speak their name, it's easy to assume that they have been forgotten. How does one invite grievers to tell their stories? They can continue to share their personal memories and what that person taught them about life. Besides affirming that the spirit of their loved one continues to live on in others, it also invites grievers to share their own reflections. Others can get a sense of the loss experience from the griever's perspective by asking a "how" or "what" question. Those openings have the advantage of encouraging the bereaved to describe their grief journeys. Questions such as, "It's been a year...How are your days going?" Or, "What have you found most helpful in getting through the days?" "What kind of support have you found to be the most (or least) helpful?" Also, "In the time since (name) died, I'm wondering what experiences you have had, if any, that have implied that you should be "over" your grief?" I posed this question to a middle-aged widow, whom I had never met before, and her stories poured out. Even though I was a stranger to her, somehow she sensed she was safe with me, and she wasted no time in accepting my invitation to tell her story. Thankfully, there are earthly angels: friends, family members, co-workers, and strangers, who continue to share memories and reflections about our loved ones, listen when we share our stories, invite us to share our grief journeys with them, and support us in our efforts in learning how to live with and manage our grief. They are lifelines to our future, but more are needed. There can never be too many earthly angels! 9 Brian Ray Miller Age 18 Murdered 10/19/1991 My dearest son. While it has been 22-years without you in our lives, I still envision you as in the poem below: forever 18. I am amazed my life continued on for this long without you and that I managed to find joy again in living. It is still never easy though. The pain is softer, but the journey without you is always difficult. I cannot imagine how you would look now, though I try. You are forever young, forever smiling, forever full of hopes and dreams. I love you dearly and always will...and look forward to the time we meet again and I can hold you in my arms once more as does Dad, Christie your sister, her sons Brandon and Dillon, and sister Kimberlie. Forever Eighteen (By: Beckie A. Miller ) His tender smile, that slightly crooked tooth, Warm loving eyes that spoke life's truth. As the years pass by in my own mind's eye, He will always be, forever eighteen. If love could only turn back the hands of time, My son would again be alive. Of his limited time for us to share, Were whispers of warnings to help me prepare? To lose a child before his prime, To bear the grief for all time. Living, loving, laughing, trying so hard to grow up, Against a mother's tugs to keep him close and in arm's reach. To learn that sometimes love is not enough, And yet... it's all that is. I see him clearly now as I will always see him. Never more to grow and age even as we do, Now, I can only cherish my memories, And see him always as he was then: forever eighteen. A man-child, still more child than man, taken before his time. Never more to dream and love, his future lost too. Written August 26, 1992 10 Memorial Wall Order Form Please add my loved one’s name to the “Valley of the Sun Memorial Wall in their Memories.” Each Nameplate is $10. Our wall is displayed at many special events across the valley during the year. NAME__________________________________ Age:___________ Murder date: _____________ Picture Board ___Check here if sending picture for the picture board & Holiday Memorial (no cost). Picture Buttons ___Please make #____picture buttons of my loved one. (Enclose photo) Each button is 3”, and costs $5. ** Send a Self Addressed Stamped Envelope if you want your photo returned. You may also e-mail photo to beckierose@aol.com *Make all checks out to POMC …. *Mail to 19620 North 38th Avenue Glendale AZ 85308-2215 THANKS FOR CARING To the Mountain View Police Precinct for donating our Speaker meeting room; to Antioch Church of Christ in God & Mountain View Lutheran Churches for the Support Group meeting rooms; to The Department of Public Safety VOCA for the grant for our newsletter & everyone who has donated gifts of their time, talents and energy to our chapter activities. With your help we are able to continue the outreach that is needed by our community. THE VALLEY OF THE SUN BOARD OF DIRECTORS (2013) Beckie Miller, Chapter-Leader .......... (623) 582-2406 Sue Osolin, Co-Leader ..................... (602) 938-4593 Don Miller, Treasurer ....................... (623) 582-2406 Mari Bailey, Co-Leader……………….(602) 405-7401 Kathy Hernandez- Secretary ............ 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Her contact info is 623-866-3189 or www.unitingsiblings.com POMC (after hrs V/M).................. ..(602) 254-8818 Chapter E-mail……………………. BeckieRose@aol.com CRISIS LINE/MOBILE CRISIS TEAM Empact Crisis Line ....................... ..(480) 784-1500 OTHER HELP LINES Teen Lifeline ....................................... …....... .(602) 248-8336 GrandCare (Grandparents help line)….........(602) 274-5022 Crime Victims Legal Assistance Project.......(480) 965-5640 Maricopa County Attorney Victim Services...(602) 506-8522 Crime Victim Compensation.......................... (602) 506-4955 11 Return Address PARENTS OF MURDERED CHILDREN, INC. VALLEY OF THE SUN CHAPTER 19620 North 38th Avenue Glendale AZ 85308-2215 (602) 254-8818 Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc., is a self-help organization dedicated to the aftermath of murder. The success of its mission depends upon the participation of the families and friends of those lost to murder. POMC number (602) 254-8818 WHY WE ARE HERE: MISSION STATEMENT: “POMC makes the difference through ongoing emotional support, education, prevention, advocacy, and awareness.” VISION STATEMENT: “To provide support and assistance to all survivors of homicide victims while working to create a world free of murder.” This project is supported by Grant No. 2012-VA-GX-0022 from the US Department of Justice - Office for Victims of Crime. The opinions, findings, and conclusions or recommendations expressed in this publication/program/exhibition are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the US DOJ or the Arizona Department of Public Safety.