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December 2014
Kislev/Tevet 5775
Vol. 64 No. 12
The Oldest Congregation in Monmouth County,
and the One with the Youngest Attitude.
Newsle er
From Rabbi Cy Stanway
It is hard to believe that it is Hannukah was turned into a
December already. Where Fes val of the soul and not a
did Heshvan go? But when celebra on of the deaths of
Heshvan goes, Kislev comes. even our our enemies.
And you know what Kislev
means – Hannukah! Indeed, There is a lesson in this, of
course. Jews don’t celebrate
Hannukah is right around
the deaths of even those
the corner. It is a me of
dreidels, too much fa y food who seek to destroy us. In
(yum), donuts, par es, and fact, we are forbidden from
hannukiot in the windows doing so. You may know the
burning brightly. It is a joy- very famous midrash that
ous holiday. But its joy was says, "The Egyp ans were
drowning in the sea. At the
redirected.
same me, the angels wanted to sing before God, and
You see, the rabbis had a
the Lord, God, said to them:
tough me with Hannukah. In fact, they turned the 'My crea ons are drownholiday (it is technically not ing and you are singing before me?' And then there
a Fes val) from a celebraon of a victory in the War is this Midrash, "Why does
of Independence against the Scripture give no [explicit]
Greeks into a celebra on of command to rejoice during
the oil, the light, the rededi- Pesach? Because the Egypans died during Pesach.
ca on of the Temple and a
rededica on to ‘Chinuch’ – And similarly do you find
the root of the word ‘Hannu- that although we read the
[en re] Hallel (Psalms of
kah’ meaning ‘educa on.’
Praise
recited on
a Fes val)
on each of
the seven
days of
Sukkot,
on Pesach we read the enre Hallel only on the first
day and on the night preceding it. Why? Because of
what Samuel would quote:
"Bi-nefol oivekha al smach"
- "Do not gloat at the fall
of your enemy." (Proverbs
24:17) As it is said in the
Talmud, "The Holy One,
Blessed be He, does not
rejoice over the fall of the
wicked."
(ConƟnued on page 2)
Michael Gross, President
Cy Stanway, Rabbi
Marnie Camhi, Cantor
Stella J. Stanway, Principal
www.templebethmiriam.org
180 Lincoln Ave. Elberon, NJ 07740 • 732.222.3754
(ConƟnued from page 1)
It is a hard thing not to celebrate your enemy’s fall. With so many enemies around
us, Muslim terrorists, extreme right wing groups, hate groups of all kinds throughout the world, and so forth, when they fall – as they inevitably do – how can we not
rejoice? It is in that ques on and that answer that we find what Jews are made of.
We do not celebrate because celebra ng the death of even our enemies takes away
whatever remnants of humanity may s ll reside in us. Yes, during war we are called
to do terrible things, to defend ourselves, our families and our country, and it brings
out the very worse in us. Jews aren’t pacifists by any means. But neither are we
animals. The Torah contains rules of war and though some mes we do terrible things
to stay alive, our tradi on commands us to keep the small eternal light of humanity
burning in our hearts. It is easy to snuff it out. Too easy. But the Jew’s task is to keep
it burning, always.
The parallels with the Hannukah story are astounding. Maybe the rabbis were telling us that the light that was kept burning for eight days was really the small flame of
Jewish humanity that s ll survived a er years of a terrible war with great losses but,
ul mately, a Jewish victory. It was a light that would be used for the altar at the Temple from whence, our Sages tell us, peace between God and humanity and humanity
with others would happen. It is a flame that has survived for thousands of years and
will con nue to burn for thousands more.
There are plenty of others who have lost their humanity and they prove it every day.
Hannukah teaches us never to lose ours. Now that’s a Hannukah gi I can really
unwrap!
rabbicy@comcast.net
A Word from Michael Gross,
Our Temple President
This is my last column as President and I would like to thank
the Execu ve Board, the Board of Trustees, Commi ees, the
Rabbi, Cantor, Administrator and office staff. We have accomplished a lot since I became President in February.
We are pleased to announce that Shari Nigh ngale is our
new part- me Temple Administrator. Many of you know her since she has been our
Administra ve Assistant. We wish the best to Marje Richter, our former Administrator, and thank her for her many years of devoted service to the Temple. Transi ons
are always difficult, however, we are trying to make this one as smooth as possible.
Please be understanding and if you have any ques ons about this transi on, please
don’t hesitate to contact me.
The driveway has been completely repaved and because there was a drainage issue.
The contractor placed a patch in the driveway in the affected area so that water would
not pond.
We hired two new custodians and I hope that all of you have had a chance to meet
Shamar and Byron Campbell.
Thanks to Cantor Camhi, we have sold numerous copies of her Frozen Purim Spiel
and the proceeds will be divided between the Conn Music Fund and a fund to purchase new children’s prayer books.
Due to the un mely death of our accompanist, John Shaffer, we have a new
accompanist, Andy McDonough. I hope that all of you introduce yourselves to him
when you are at services.
We hope to have a balanced budget star ng in 2015 since we have made the
custodian and the administrator’s job part- me instead of full- me.
The Rabbi will hold a class to teach how to lead a Minyan at a Shiva. The class will
be held on Sunday, December 7, 2014 at noon. Please RSVP to the Temple since food
will be served. This is a mitzvah that is a real service to the mourners.
Lastly, I would like to wish all the best to our incoming President, Harry Silverman. I
am sure that he will do a great job as President.
Michael Gross
President, Temple Beth Miriam
Temple Beth Miriam
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Miriam’s Newsle er. If you are in need
of more informa on about the temple,
we are always ready to help out.
If you are ‘shul-shopping” we would
love to show you around the temple.
Just drop in to the Rabbi’s office (but
call first at 732.222.3754 to make sure
he is there) and he will be your guide.
You are welcome to worship with us
any me. We hope you do. Check the
calendar for details.
If you have never opened a Chaverweb
account, please call Stella Stanway at
732-918-1940 and she will set you up.
THANK YOU!
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What’s Happening at Temple Beth Miriam
December 2014
Wednesday, December 3
NO Theology Class today
Hannukah Gi Gallery today
during school hours
Tuesday, December 16
Hannukah begins at sundown!
Wednesday, December 17
Theology Class 10 AM
Friday, December 5
Chassidic Text Class 11 AM
Social Ac on Shabbat 7:30 PM
Friday, December 19
Chassidic Text Class 11 AM
TOT SHABBAT 6 PM
Shabbat Service & Birthday Blessings with
a special performance by Youth Choir 8 PM
Sunday, December 7
Talmud Study 8 AM
Teen Academy
"Learn to Lead a Minyan" Class
12 PM
(lunch included). See ad in this issue for info.
SOUP SALE at TBM 10 AM - 12:15 PM
Youth Choir rehearsal a er school
Hannukah Gi Gallery today during school
hours
Saturday, December 20
Tamtams Hannukah Cupcake Workshop 4 PM
SALTeens Hannukah Cupcake Workshop 5:30 PM
Sunday, December 21
Talmud Study 8 AM
RSB Mee ng 10 AM
Hannukah Luncheon 12 PM
Everyone welcome!
Wednesday, December 10
Theology Class 10 AM
Hannukah Gi Gallery today during school
hours
Wednesday, December 24
No Theology Class today
No School
Thursday, December 11
Membership Commi ee Mee ng 7:30 PM
Thursday, December 25
Office closed
Friday, December 12
Chassidic Text Class 11 AM
Shabbat Service & Anniversary Blessings 8 PM
Friday, December 26
NO Chassidic Text Class today
NFTY Winter Kallah
Shabbat Service 8 PM
Saturday, December 13
Olivia Gill Bat Mitzvah 10 AM
Sunday, December 14
Talmud Study 8 AM
Congrega onal Mee ng and a performance by
our Youth Choir 10 AM
Board of Trustees Mee ng (a er Congrega onal
Mee ng)
Hannukah Gi Gallery today during school
hours
Saturday, December 27
NFTY Winter Kallah
Sunday, December 28
NFTY Winter Kallah
No Talmud Study & No School
Wednesday, December 31
No Theology Class & No School
Happy New Year!
IMPORTANT ANNOUNCEMENT!
STARTING IN JANUARY, SHABBAT SERVICES
WILL BEGIN AT 7:30 PM WEEKLY.
The Religious Prac ces Commi ee and the Board of Trustees of Beth Miriam have
approved a change of Kabbalat Shabbat Friday night services to 7:30 PM beginning in
January, 2015. We will be announcing this at all events, in all E-lijahs, at services and
in the bulle n un l then. This will be a permanent me change to keep service mes
consistent throughout the year (with the excep on of the 6:30 July-August Shabbat
services). Please make a note of this me change.
Yahrzeits are a very special moment in the service especially for those who are remembering a deceased loved one. The Religious Prac ces Commi ee would like to
add even more meaning to this ritual.
When a name is read for the Yahrzeit, you may send us (tbmoffice@bethmiriam.org)
a two sentence descrip on of the person you are remembering (eg. Joe Horowitz, a
wonderful father and avid Jets fan who loved his grandchildren so much and is fondly
remembered). If the descrip on is more than 2 sentences, the office will edit it down
to two sentences so as not to unduly lengthen the service.
You are also invited to bring a picture of a loved one on the night of the Yahrzeit with
a paragraph about the person and their rela onship to you, etc. Those pictures will
be put out in the foyer for that Friday night service.
Friday, January 9, 2015 at 7:30 PM
Join us at Shabbat services for the Board Installa on.
We hope to see you as we start the new year.
Sunday, February 8, 2015 at 12:00 PM
2nd Annual Canadian Picnic
A Note from our Cantor
We have some exci ng musical opportuni es coming up at TBM! Our Youth Choir
started rehearsing last month for our Shabbat Hannukah Service on Friday, December
19 and our performance at the Congrega onal Mee ng on Sunday, December 14. If
your child in grades 3-12 is interested in par cipa ng, there is s ll me to join! There
are 2 rehearsals remaining on Sundays, December 7 and 14 immediately following
religious school. Please contact me to let me know your child will be par cipa ng and
send them with a light lunch (no pork or shellfish please).
Our "Frozen" Purim Spiel cas ng has begun! All the lead roles have been filled, but
there is s ll plenty of room in the chorus! We are looking for adults (members in good
standing) and religious school students in grades 2 and up! Rehearsals begin on Sunday, January 4 immediately following religious school. The Spiel will be performed on
Sunday, March 8.
Speaking of Purim, on Wednesday, March 4, we will be having a special Purim service
and song session. We are looking for parents and students to chant from Megillat Esther! I will provide a recording and the text for you to prac ce at home. Please email
me: cantor@bethmiriam.org to par cipate in Youth Choir and/or the Frozen Purim
Spiel or Megillah reading.
Thank you!
Cantor Marnie
cantor@bethmiriam.org
Shari Nigh ngale
Temple Beth Miriam’s New Administrator
I would like to introduce myself as your new temple administrator.
Many of you know me as the former administra ve assistant or as
your child’s religious school librarian. I am honored to announce
that I have accepted this important new role here at TBM.
My professional experience working in the Jewish community began at Temple Beth Miriam a few years ago, then at Jewish Federa on of Monmouth County, where I worked for a
year, before returning to the temple last year. I have learned a great deal about the needs
of the Jewish community at large, and specifically how I can help your congrega on grow.
I have witnessed first-hand how generous and vibrant you all are (from the smallest child
to the eldest members), how passionate Rabbi Cy and Cantor Marnie are about every
Shabbat and life cycle event, and how innova ve and crea ve Stella and her teachers are
in crea ng a dynamic religious school. Quite frankly, there is no place I’d rather work than
at TBM.
My goal is clear: I want to do whatever I can to make sure your needs are met, so that
you’re happy when you step out of my office or hang up the phone a er speaking to me.
I encourage you all to stop by and say hello any me. I am eager to hear your sugges ons
about how I can provide the best experience for you at the temple.
Last, but certainly not least, I would like to thank Michael Gross and Harry Silverman, and
all of the board members, for their confidence in me! I would also like to thank Marje
Richter for being my mentor and friend.
While I am sure we will have a few bumps in the road during this transi on, I am op mis c
that with everyone’s support, we will succeed in becoming the best we can be at Temple
Beth Miriam.
Shari Nigh ngale
Administrator, Temple Beth MIriam
732-222-3754 (office)
tbmoffice@bethmiriam.org
EBRS School Calender 2014-2015
Every member of the Eisenberg Bierman Religious School can be reached by email:
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Nancy Maling:
Jill Herbert:
Sharon Silverman:
Karen Pingitore:
Gayle Hackman:
Lisa Jacobson:
Adi Raz:
Stephanie Harari:
Marian Gross:
Orna Tuvy:
Cantor Marnie:
Stella Stanway:
Rabbi Cy:
nmaling@bethmiriam.org
jherbert@bethmiriam.org
ssilverman@bethmiriam.org
kpingitore@bethmiriam.org
ghackman@bethmiriam.org
ljacobson@bethmiriam.org
mraz@bethmiriam.org
sharari@bethmiriam.org
mgross@bethmiriam.org
otuvy@bethmiriam.org
cantor@bethmiriam.org
stellastanway@bethmiriam.org
rabbicy@comcast.net
www.bethmiriam.org • Tel: 732.222.3754 • Fax: 732.222.1238 • 180 Lincoln Ave • Elberon, NJ 07740
Hannukah Gift Gallery
Need to do hannukah shopping?
The sisterhood will be at tbm for you and your families to purchase items from our gift shop, including
brand new judaica that just arrived directly from
israel!
The days of operation are: Wednesdays, dec 3 & 6 and sundays, dec 7 & 14
during the hours of religious school.
come take a look...there's plenty for all your hannukah gift needs!
TEMPLE
NEW!
December Book Selec on
LEARN TO PLAY MAH JONGG
WITH CINDY SINGER
"The Marrying of Chani Kaufman"
by Eve Harris
Our very own Cindy Singer will be
teaching Mah Jongg here at TBM
every Tuesday from 10 AM - 12 PM,
star ng January 6th!
Everyone is welcome, so bring a friend!
Join us even if you already know
how to play!
We will meet on December 16th
at 6:30 PM at All Seasons Diner
Join a Class!
Learn Something New!
Make Friends!
Learn to lead a minyan
TALMUD CLASS
Every Sunday morning at 8 AM
whenever there is religious school
THEOLOGY CLASS
Every Wednesday at 10:00 AM
CHASSIDIC TEXT STUDY
Every Friday at 11 AM
MAKING PRAYER REAL CLASS
will resume on January 25 at 9 AM
Everyone is welcome!
One of the great mitzvot is bringing
comfort to the mourner. One way we
do this is by bringing the temple to
them in mes of sorrow during shiva
for a loved one who has died. The
minyan is an important part of that
process and Beth Miriam needs more
minyan leaders.
Rabbi Stanway is happy to announce
a one hour training session on how to
lead a minyan. The training will take
place on Sunday, December 7th at
12 PM right a er Religious School.
There is no charge.
Anyone who is Jewish and over the
age of bar or bat mitzvah can par cipate. Younger minyan leaders will
also have the opportunity to work
with an adult to help them perfect
their leadership skills. If you ever
wanted to lead a minyan, now is the
me to learn.
A special THANK YOU to
Carole Maling, Jane Gerechoff & Pat Shapiro
for volunteering in the office this month!
We appreciate your help!
with
RABBI CY & CANTOR MARNIE
Friday, December 19th at 6 PM
Join us on the following Friday evenings at 6:00 PM
for a warm and welcoming introduction to temple worship.
Parents and Grandparents are most welcome to sit on the bima
with the children and sing along with us!
Schedule
December 19
March 27
January 23
April 24
February 20
May 29
Teen Academy
with Rabbi Cy
See you Sunday,
December 7th!
Teen Academy meets monthly on
Sundays.
Grades 8 & 9 will meet from
9 AM- 10:30 AM.
Grades 10, 11 & 12 will meet from
10:30 AM - 12:00 PM
A delicious breakfast will be
served!
SCHEDULE:
December 7
January 11
February 8
March 15
April 19
May 3 (w/ 7th grade)
Upcoming Events!
THIS FRIDAY NIGHT!
December 5th
SOCIAL ACTION SHABBAT
Bring pasta or canned goods for the food pantry...please!
THIS SUNDAY, December 7th
HOMEMADE SOUP SALE at TBM
10 AM - 12:15 PM
Help the Food Pantry
Please remember those who are less fortunate during the
year. Bring non-perishable food and school supplies when
you come to temple.
We will bring it to the food pantry to help those in the area
who are needy. It’s a mitzvah that you won’t soon forget!
Thank you!
Thank you to those who helped at the pantry this month:
Pat Shapiro, Gail Kass and Gayle Topper
Also, thank you to Rachel Cofer, Anna Vernick and
Milton Ziment for leading services at the Atria.
Mazel Tov to Laura Krantz for the honor of winning "Board
Member of the Year" at Jewish Family & Children's Serivce
of Monmouth County!
Mazel Tov to ClaraGee & Milt Ziment on the marriage of
Mark Alan Stamaty, to Lynn Holtz on December 6th.
Mazel Tov to Olivia Gill as she becomes
Bat Mitzvah on December 13, 2014
My name is Olivia Gill, but I prefer to be called Liv. This year
I will be turning thirteen on my Bat Mitzvah date, 12-13-14.
My favorite things to do are play sports, read, direct music
videos, play with my dog and sister, and hang out with my
friends.
My volunteer project was based on making meals for the
parents staying at the Ronald McDonald House in Long
Branch. I took my friend and my mom to go and cook the
day a er Thanksgiving to make two nights' worth of food. The first night was Shakeand-Bake chicken with potatoes. The second night was chili with rice with side toppings. I really enjoyed this experience because I felt that I was taking some of the
things I own for granted, to see that these people needed others to help them cook
dinner. I have homemade meals, a shelter, and I’m not in the hospital, which was
more heartbreaking. This was a great life lesson to use what you have and don’t take
others for granted.
I’m excited to have my Bat Mitzvah coming up.
Thank you,
Liv
Thank you to TBM Sisterhood for a Successful Rummage Sale
Thank you to all our volunteers and donors. A special thank you to Rabbi Cy and temple
president, Michael Gross, for all the announcements and to Stella, Marje and Shari. We
couldn’t have done it without the help of everyone.
We cleared $4,700 and to that amount was added a $2,500 anonymous dona on from a
Sisterhood member!
Some of you worked an hour or two and some came in over several days. If we missed
you in the lis ng please let us know.
We also want to thank those of you who “schlepped” extra tables, chairs and racks! Thank
you to Karen Hodes for the great signs and Andrea Phox for sisterhood e-mails and Valenna Li on for making up our street signs all over town. Thank you so much for making our
Rummage Sale a great success!
Vivian Fried, Joni Darnell and Cindy Singer
THE GRAND LIST
Judy Benn
Dawn Berkeley and her
daughter, Frankie
Joni & Alan Darnell
Grace & Roy Dressner
Vita & Darrell Dworkin
Joanne & Barry Edison
Vivian & Al Fried
Debbie Gerbman & kids
Amy Goldman
Irene Goldman
Lori Goldstein
Gail Kass
Bobbie Katz
Ilene & Bob Kellert
Meryl Ledwitz
Lela
Rebecca Levin
Katherine Levine
Valen na Li on
Larry Nagel
Arlene Oser
Kelly O erbine
Jill Panone
Andrea Phox
Karen Pingitore & kids
Barbara & Sydney Prestup
Annie Raulerson
Carol Roman
Janet & Greg Rosen
Darlene & Hanania Shauriki
Judy Sherman
Shriva
Cindy Singer
Wendy Sloter
Judy Steinweiss
Miriam Tetelbom
Jean Vitale
Denise Wagenheim
Laura Ziegler
ROSH HASHANAH AT THE ATRIA
On the second evening of Rosh Hashanah, the Social Ac on commi ee of TBM
joined Milton Ziment in leading services at Atria Senior Living in TInton Falls. Thirtytwo residents, friends and family members including children and grandchildren,
a ended the service.
Steven and Michael Topper helped Milt lead selected prayers. Readings were done
by Jane Gerechoff and Elliot, Robert and Gayle Topper. The en re congrega on
joined in God Bless America and Ha kvah a er the prayers for America and Israel
were read. The shofar was blown by Robert Topper.
Following services, the Atria provided a holiday meal for everyone, including challah,
apples and honey. Thanks to Pat Shapiro for your support and a endance, TBM for
the use of the siddurim and Rabby Cy Stanway for the shofar. This was a wonderful
event allowing residents and their families rejoice together for this New Year
celebra on.
The Congrega on Acknowledges
with Thanks the Following Contribu ons:
CONN MUSIC FUND
In memory of John Shaffer
Michael & Marian Gross
In memory of my father, Solomon Sagalovsky
Filipp Sagalovsky
2014 KOL NIDRE DONORS
(conƟnued from the names already listed
in the November NewsleƩer)
Mr. & Mrs. Eric Casriel
Mr. & Mrs. Malcolm Deener
TEMPLE BETH MIRIAM WISH LIST
In memory of John Shaffer
Sharon & Harry Silverman
In remembrance of Gilda Lillian Stanway
Lyle Stanway
In remembrance of Sidney Cohen
Kathy & Mark Cohen (for temple firepit)
Mr. Paul Edelson
Mr. & Mrs. Robert Farber
Mr. & Mrs. Sco Gerbman
Dr. & Mrs. Norman Glassman
Mr. & Mrs. Jason Harkavy
Dr. Edward Lieberman
TZEDAKEH FUND
In memory of my father, Solomon Sagalovsky
Filipp Sagalovsky
In memory of Allen Schnur
Pipper & Bob Segall
ROZ NAGEL FUND FOR RELIGIOUS SCHOOL
SPECIAL PROJECTS
In memory of John Shaffer
In honor of Miriam & Seth Friedman on the birth
of Leah Friedman
Larry Nagel
Ms. MaryBeth Nadler
Mrs. Melissa Peck & Dr. Stuart Rosenberg
Dr. & Mrs. Gary Pess
Ms. Norma Rosenbloom
Mr. & Mrs. Jerry Wagenheim
Mr. & Mrs. Robert Weston
RABBI DISCRETIONARY FUND
Thank you for your support and for a beau ful
service at Richard's funeral
Fran Applebaum
In honor of Cheryl Feigenbaum and Richard
Sheklin for speedy recoveries
Ron & Meryl Ledwitz
DONATIONS CAN BE MADE TO ANY OF OUR MANY FUNDS
• In memory of • In honor of • Bar/Bat Mitzvah • Birthday • Anniversary
• Birth • Thank you • Marriage • for any occasion...
A complete list of TBM funds appear in this newsleƩer
The Midnight Run
The Midnight Run is a social ac on based tradi on that SALTY
has been conduc ng nearly every year for the past decade.
On one cold winter night, typically in January, a group of teen
volunteers and several gracious chaperones from our temple
travel by bus into New York City, along with as much food and clothing as the bus can
fit. Once in the city, we begin to search for any of the many homeless of New York.
They are given whatever clothing they need to outlast the cold weather, along with a
sandwich and a bag of hygiene products. The amount of gra tude is truly heartwarming, and it is definitely a life-changing experience for anyone who a ends.
SALTY is happy to announce that the date for this year’s Midnight Run has already
been confirmed! It will be taking place on January 17. This Midnight Run is going to be
a li le different, though. We will be traveling with several other temple youth groups.
Hopefully, it will be a great bonding experience for all of the teens involved, although
this also means that there will be limited available transporta on. Thus, we ask that
any interested teenagers stay in touch with the youth group so that they are able to
sign up as soon as they can, seeing that we will be accep ng kids on a first come, first
served basis.
We would like to thank the Sisterhood for their generous dona ons, and would like
to ask for any lightly used coats, sweaters, long-sleeved shirts, jeans, hats, gloves,
scarves, shoes and long underwear that the congrega on has to offer, along with hygiene products such as toothbrushes, toothpaste, dental floss, soap, and deodorant.
If you have any ques ons, or would like to know more about the Midnight Run, feel
free to contact Stella Stanway or me.
Wil Wiener, Social Ac on VP
saltysavp@gmail.com
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DEC 21-27
DEC 28-JAN 3
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David Berger*
Helene Baron
Harold Aaron
Mary Beam
Julius Appplebaum
Lucille Brand*
Zena Barr
Adah Ash
Mar n Blank*
Teri Berkeley
Lena Budish
Dorothy Burnhardt* Charles Brand*
David Bosniak
Bernice Cholminski Pauline Bi erman
Steven Brower*
Mor mer Cole*
William Davis*
Edward Brosniak
Rose Denburg
Pearl Dworkin*
Estelle Eisenberg* Gert Conn*
Nathan Cohen*
Marion Dent
George Eichler*
Sol Friedman
David Emmering
Sidney Cooper
Michael Erhard
Adele Elsas
Nathan Glick*
Daniel Goldman
William Falk*
Jerome Feldman
Benjamin Goldwasser* Ethel Elsas
Sidney Goldstein
Anna Fisher
Morris Fine*
David Elsas
Marion Grad*
Harry Gorsky
Erna Friedman*
Beatrice Frankel*
Mimi Fink
Adolph Haupt*
Pauline Green*
Mary Gladstone
Gloria Franzblau
Bernard Fromkin
Morris Leibowi *
Stuart Haupt
Michelle Goldman
Frank Freidlin
Julius Golden*
Carrie Hamburger* Herbert Lippse
Leon Gordon*
Eugene Fried
Eva Goldstein
Richard Hamburger* Delores Lorber
Marjorie Hersch
Simon Gillet
Rose Haber
Jeanne Michel*
Stuart Haupt*
David Hershoff*
Estelle Hershoff*
Rose Hasburg*
Edith Moore
Louis Hersh*
Frederick Housman*
Mollie Hodes
Jack Herbert*
George Moss*
Mary Keller
Flora Housman*
Henry Jacobs
Millicent Kaplan*
Solomon Neimark*
Miriam Klein
Morton Kavanaugh Rose Kochansky*
Howard Kastner
Benedict Neimark*
Israel Kotkin
Lori Levine*
Charles Kaye*
Richard Klein*
Joseph Rosen
Albert Parker
Lena Malachowsky*
Anna Kern
Charles Rosencrans* Irving LaKritz
Jerie Sloter
Morris Pilver
Louis Levy
Samuel Lane*
Anna Stamelman* Edith Shaw*
Michele Raskin
Minnie Mintz
Sadie Lawn*
Adolf Strauss*
Gilda Stanway
Oscar Reiner
Jacob Norman Stanley Levine
Milton Tenzer*
Nathan Strauss
Harry Reingold
Posner
Ki y Lubin*
Harry Vesell*
Barbara TanenSadie Roseman
Elaine Res fo
Barbara MacArthur
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Moses Scher*
Lance Rowland
Harry Marshall
Juliet Weiss
Ira Tiplitz*
Rachel Sagalovsky Irving Schnur
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Ruth Tucker*
Shirley Skloff
Mary Schapiro*
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Helen Spitalny*
James Schneider
Harry Raffel*
Samuel Wetzler*
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Susan Warshauer*
Frances Sidorsky
Diana Schatell
Ruth Weber*
Maxwell Spector
Carl Schultz
Dorothy Steinweiss* Kalman Weinstein*
Harry Singer
Ellie Yankow
Laurence Stamelman* Harry Vogel*
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the Passings of:
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Jacob Tanenbaum*
Midge Berkowitz
Elias Teich*
Seymour Van-Wiemokly
Rita Silverman
Sheldon Wolpin
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Memorial Plaques, which are dedicated to a loved one, can be purchased through the
Temple Beth Miriam Office. They are hung on the side walls of the sanctuary.
Cost per plaque is $500. Please call the office at 732.222.3754 for details.
December
18 and under
December
80 and over
Norma Rosenbloom
Shirley Berman
Richard Agisim
Please join Rabbi Stanway
for Shabbat Services on
Friday, DECEMBER 19TH at 8:00 PM
to receive your Birthday Blessings.
Aaron Tretsky
Anna Greenberg
Lyla Gill
Danielle Goldwert
Sarah Kaye
Olivia Gill
Lucas Seckler
Lucas White
Robert Reisler
Jonathan Krantz
Lena Goldfarb-Rivera
Samuel Fisher
Theodore Fisher
Robert Greenberg
Happy Special
December Anniversary!
Marian & Howard Jewell
65 years
Jill & Paul Levchuk
40 years
Please join Rabbi Stanway
for Shabbat Services on
Friday, DECEMBER 12TH at 8:00 PM
to receive your Anniversary Blessings.
Volunteers Needed to Shop for Onegs
To Our TBM Family,
As many of you know, Frank re red this summer. He is a one-of-a-kind friend who will be greatly missed
by everyone in our TBM family.
The Sisterhood has set up a volunteer sign up for oneg shopping each week. This is NOT a request for
set up or break down of the oneg, just shopping for some food items and bringing them to the temple
prior to that week's service. Volunteers are only needed to shop for onegs that are not being sponsored
by a bar/bat mitzvah family, religious school class, or other special event. This should mean that each
temple family should only have to shop once every 2-3 years! A new list of dates, along with the guidelines below, will be posted every 3-4 months. Please go to this link to sign up for a week to volunteer:
h p://www.signupgenius.com/go/70A0E4CACAC29A20-tbmoneg. (If the link does not work, please type
or copy this address into your web browser).
Items can be dropped off in the TBM kitchen on Wednesday 9-6, Thursday 9-4, or Friday 9-12. Please
use the labeled areas in the refrigerator, freezer, and on the counter for the purchased items. Although
we ask you to pick items from the list below, please feel free to put your own flair on the foods for that
week. You can get more items from any of the lists if you like, add an interes ng item not listed, or
maybe bring things made at home. Variety is always nice! No Shellfish or Pork Please.
List A - Pick at least 2: Berries, Pineapple, Grapes, or Melon
List B - Pick at least 2: Cookies, Brownies, Cupcakes, Other Small Por on Cakes
List C - Pick at least 1: Cheese and Crackers, Dips (Hummus, Spinach, Veggie, etc.) and Chips/Bread, Frozen Appe zer, Small Veggie Pla er, etc.
Items do not need to be cut up or pla ered, but if you have the me it would be greatly appreciated.
Receipts with your name and "Oneg Shopping" wri en at the top can be le in the office or in the white
mailbox outside the office for reimbursement. Total to be reimbursed should be a maximum of $40.
Thank you again for your help in making our weekly worship an even more wonderful experience. If you
have any ques ons, feel free to contact me. Have a wonderful day!
Debbie Gerbman
732-383-8575
New! Guidelines for Sponsoring an Oneg at TBM
Sponsoring an Oneg-Shabbat a er Friday night services is a great way to honor someone you love, or to
celebrate an upcoming simcha. We ask all Bar/Bat Mitzvah families to sponsor the Oneg on the Friday
night before the Bar Mitzvah, but everyone is welcome to celebrate a special occasion by sponsoring an
Oneg.
Prepara on before the Oneg: (things you need to provide)
Table cloths for four (4) 72” round tables in the color of your choice
Table cloths for three (3) 8’ X 3’ rectangular tables for food and beverages
Milk, half and half, and/or non-dairy creamer for coffee
Drinks – juice, seltzer, soda
Paper products – plates, cups for cold drinks, cups for hot drinks, silverware, and napkins
Assorted kitchen equipment, glassware, pla ers, creamer and sugar bowl, serving utensils, pitchers, urns,
and risers are available for your use in the TBM kitchen.
On the day of the Oneg:
Please plan to arrive 20-30 minutes before services to set up the food.
Make sure to bring two (2) challahs – one for the bima and one for the Oneg.
You can drop off the food before noon on Friday, and leave perishable items in the refrigerator.
Remember when planning for the Oneg to increase the number of guests you expect by at least 20 or 30
for other congregants who are a ending services. TBM does not keep kosher, but NO PORK OR SHELLFISH
products are to be served.
Recommenda ons for minimum amounts (serves max of 40):
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At least 3 pla ers of assorted sweets – brownies, cookies, cakes or other pastries
One pla er of cut up seasonal fruit
At least one addi onal item such as cheese and crackers, chips and dip, nuts, cut up veggies, hummus and pita, or any other hors d’oeuvres (things can be heated at TBM to be served warm)
Please call the TBM Office at (732)222-3754 to set up a date to sponsor an Oneg. Also, please remit $50 to
help pay for the addi onal kitchen staff on that evening. Please realize that you may be asked to co-sponsor the Oneg, as there are some mes mul ple events occurring on any given evening.
If you have any addi onal ques ons, please contact:
Debbie Gerbman at dgerbman@comcast.net
Meryl Ledwitz at mhlinder@optonline.net
TBM FUNDS
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Tree of Life - A beau ful way to honor any occasion of your family with an engraved leaf on the tree bearing the name
of the person honored on occasions such as Bar/Bat Mitzvahs, birth, marriage or any other simcha. Contribu on $180.
The Yahrzeit Memorials - Purchase a sanctuary plaque memorializing a loved one who has died. This memorial provides
that the name of the loved one will be recited yearly on the anniversary of his/her death. Dona on $500.
Prayer Book Fund - Maintains our supply of prayer books for worship services. Bookplates are inserted in recogni on
of dona on. Contribu on $36.
Social and Community Ac on Fund - Provides support for local community programs.
Family Affair - The goal of this program is to bring a li le relief and a sign of caring to any of our temple members
experiencing difficulty in life, by providing and delivering meals to their homes.
Heimlich-Aaron Library Fund - Maintains an in depth library of books on current and historic themes for the use of all
age groups in the congrega on. A growing library of video tapes is available for members use. Bookplates are inserted
in recogni on of dona on. Contribu on $18.
Wish List - A fund for non-budgeted temple expenses.
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The Endowment Fund - For the preserva on of our temple and to enable us to fulfill our spiritual, educa onal, cultural
and social needs.
Centennial Fund - Proceeds from this fund are used to underwrite two categories of temple ac vi es; up to 50% of
the programs and programma c ac vi es; up to 50% of the annual proceeds can be used to underwrite under-funded
pensions of Temple staff members.
Tzedakeh Fund - To be able to help congregants who are in needs of financial assistance.
Rabbi Joseph Goldman Fund for Jewish Learning - Proceeds from this fund will be used to underwrite and support an
array of educa onal programs and ac vi es for all age groups within our synagogue. The objec ve of these ac vi es
will be to enhance Jewish knowledge, experiences, and commitment of temple members.
Heimlich Memorial Scholarship Fund - Established to honor the memory of Ernest Heimlich.
Proceeds of this fund are to be used to underwrite a par al scholarship to a college or school of higher educa on
awarded to a Temple Beth Miriam Confirm and who has dis nguished him/herself through excep onal Temple
Community ac vity. High school and college students.
Dorothy Hirsch Scholarship - Honors the memory of Dorothy Hirsch. Proceeds of this fund provide scholarships to
leadership training ac vi es sponsored by the Reform Movement for high school and college students.
Rabbi Discre onary Fund
The Carolyn Meyer Memorial Lecture Fund - Proceeds from this fund will enable the temple and community to enjoy
a biennial lecture on a theme related to Jewish teaching per nent to a rich
congrega onal life.
Neimark Shabbaton Ins tute - Honors the memory of Solomon & Regina Neimark. Proceeds of this gi of $10,000
is to be used yearly to underwrite ac vi es of temple seniors. The proceeds may be used for the members of the
Shabbaton, but are not limited only to seniors.
Berg-Bialek Youth Leadership Retreat Fund - This fund is used to supplement the cost of youth leadership retreats
which may include conclaves, biennials and other leadership events. The use of these funds will be at the discre on of
the Rabbi, Temple President and Religious School Director.
Conn Music Fund - Established to honor Gert and Ralph Conn. Proceeds of this fund to be used to provide special
musical programs and/or performances during holiday or special celebra on.
The Rhoda & Norty Kern Youth Scholarship Fund - Proceeds of this fund will be used to send students of the 7th grade
in our Religious School on a class trip. The preferred trips to be of Jewish interest, that will be decided upon by the
Rabbi and the Mens’ Club.
Arthur and Hazel Harmon Fund - To honor the memory of Arthur & Hazel Harmon. Proceeds of this fund are used to
purchase a prize for a student of the Religious School who has performed outstanding congrega onal or community
service during congrega onal year.
The Milton Ziment Fund for Scholas c Achievement - The purpose of this fund will be to provide an annual prize(s) for
students of the Religious School who gain recogni on for excep onal academic performance.
Sonya Grossman Art & Beau fica on Fund - This fund is for purchasing works of art& enhancing the beauty of TBM.
The Katz Family Fund - Proceeds of this fund are used to help families in need of funds for Religious School educa on.
Temple Beth Miriam Wish List - Proceeds are used to help provide needed upgraded technological items and furnishings.
Library Shelves - Available for dedica on $1,000.
Evelyn Blank Choral Fund - To be used for choral and other musical events.
Pess Family Youth Group Fund - Established by Lois & Gary Pess & will be used for all Youth Group ac vi es not covered
by other exis ng funds. It also provides necessary funds for Youth Group members who do not have financial resources
to par cipate in ac vi es & trips.
The Roz Nagel Fund for Religious School Special Projects - To honor the memory of Roz Nagel, proceeds of this fund
will be used for relgious school special projects.
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President
Rabbi
Cantor
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Administrator
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Youth Group President
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Family Affair
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Rel. Sch. Bd.
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Scribe
Relig. Pract.
Special Events
Youth Group
Social Ac on
Programming
Fundraising
Rabbi Emeritus
Immediate Past President
Vice Presidents
Secretary
Financial Secretary
Trustees
Chairperson
Michael Gross
Cy Stanway
Marnie Camhi
Stella J. Stanway
Shari NIgh ngale
TBA
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Sallie Haas
Byron Campbell/Shamar Campbell
Lois Pess/ MaryBeth Nadler
Bob Kellert
Eric Levin
Harry Silverman
Emily Feldman
Dr. Faith Lessig
Debbie Gerbman
Cindy Singer
Annie Raulerson
Sharon Silverman
Marian Gross
Bob Kellert
Gary Pess
Steve Peckman
I. Mark Cohen
Steve Peckman
Joseph Goldman
Paula Rowland
Robert Kellert
Lori Goldstein
Steve Peckman
I. Mark Cohen
Barry Edison
Emily Feldman
Harry Silverman
Deborah Cotler
Emily Feldman
Andrea Fiest
Sco Gerbman
Brian Gillet
Lori Goldstein
Marian Gross
Karen Hodes
Bob Kellert
Joel Kreizman
Faith Lessig
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