How To Be A Lady Killer By Ann May www.Lady-Killing.com i E-PERPETUAL LIMITED Head Office: The Media Centre 7 Northumberland Street Huddersfield, HD1 1RL Tel: +44 (0)1484 483119 Fax: +44 (0) 1484 483120 Web: www.lady-killing.com © Copyright e-Perpetual Limited 2004 The right of Ann May to be identified as author of this Work has been asserted by her in accordance with the Copyright, Designs, and Patents Act 1988. All rights reserved; no part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise without either the prior written permission of the Publishers or a licence permitting restricted copying in the United Kingdom issued by the Copyright Licensing Agency Ltd, 90 Tottenham Court Road, London W1P 0LP. This book may not be lent, resold, hired out or otherwise disposed of by way of trade in any form of binding or cover other than that in which it is published, without the prior consent of the Publishers. ii Copyright  e-Perpetual Ltd 2004 About the Author Ann May is a 42 year old mother-of-two and has been actively dating for over 19 years. Owning and running her own beauty salon for the last 6 years has brought her into contact with thousands of women, their stories about men and their personal relationships. Ann has performed extensive research into dating and relationships, in particular focusing on women’s views of a man’s role in the dating ritual. This, coupled with her own experience and her ability to learn life’s lessons, has given Ann an insight into the behavior of men that few in the world can equal. Ann lives in East Ardsley, Yorkshire with her fiancé Carl. iii Copyright  e-Perpetual Ltd 2004 How to be a Lady Killer. Introduction CONTENTS CONTENTS....................................................................................................................iv INTRODUCTION ............................................................................................................vi ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS ............................................................................................. xiii CHAPTER 1 - AN INTRODUCTION TO THE SEDUCTION PYRAMID .................................1 STEP 1: MAKE WOMEN DESIRE YOU .........................................................................4 CHAPTER 2 – HOW TO BE A SUCCESS WITH WOMEN ..............................................6 CHAPTER 3 – SKILLS THAT ATTRACT THE MOST WOMEN ...................................12 STEP 2: UNDERSTAND WOMEN ................................................................................16 CHAPTER 4 – THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF SEDUCTION ..................................18 CHAPTER 5 – HOW TO SATISFY HER FOUR MOST BASIC NEEDS ...........................25 STEP 3: ALLOW FOR SPECIAL DIFFERENCES WITH WOMEN................................28 CHAPTER 6 - THE MOST IMPORTANT DIFFERENCE WHEN SPEAKING TO WOMEN 31 CHAPTER 7 – TWELVE INSTANT MESSAGES WOMEN READ FROM YOU ...............47 STEP 4: PREPARE IN ADVANCE – TO GUARANTEE MORE WOMEN .......................52 CHAPTER 8 – THREE WAYS TO INCREASE SUCCESS WITH WOMEN ......................54 CHAPTER 9 - FINDING THE RIGHT APPEAL ............................................................57 CHAPTER 10 - HOW TO AVOID EMBARRASSING SILENCES....................................61 CHAPTER 11 – PROVEN METHODS TO ATTRACT MORE WOMEN ..........................66 STEP 5: MAKE YOUR FIRST CONTACT MEMORABLE .............................................70 CHAPTER 12 – HOW TO MAKE THE FIRST APPROACH...........................................73 CHAPTER 13 - RIGHT AND WRONG METHODS TO MAKE A FIRST IMPRESSION .....82 CHAPTER 14 - CONVERSATION STARTERS THAT GRAB A WOMAN’S INTEREST ...86 STEP 6: INCREASE THE POWER OF YOUR WORDS .................................................92 CHAPTER 15 - THE THREE THINGS WOMEN MOST WANT FROM MEN ..................95 CHAPTER 16 - TWENTY-SEVEN WAYS TO HOLD A WOMAN’S ATTENTION ........105 CHAPTER 17 - FORBIDDEN METHODS TO COMMAND WOMEN WITH HYPNOSIS.121 CHAPTER 18 – WORDS THAT ATTRACT THE MOST WOMEN ...............................128 CHAPTER 19 - HOW TO INCREASE HER EXCITEMENT WITH YOUR WORDS ........137 STEP 7: PROFIT FROM TEMPORARY SETBACKS ...................................................142 CHAPTER 20 – THE TWELVE GREATEST MISTAKES MEN MAKE WITH WOMEN .144 CHAPTER 21 – THE FIVE MOST IMPORTANT LESSONS TO LEARN FROM “NO”...147 STEP 8: SEDUCE WITHOUT WORDS .......................................................................162 CHAPTER 22 – ELEVEN SECRET MESSAGES YOUR BODY MAY BE BROADCASTING ..............................................................................................................................164 CHAPTER 23 – EIGHT WAYS TO SHOW HER YOU ARE INTERESTED ...................168 CHAPTER 24 – SIXTEEN METHODS TO SILENTLY SEDUCE ..................................172 CHAPTER 25 - SEVEN SURE-FIRE SIGNS A WOMAN IS FLIRTING .........................184 iv Copyright  e-Perpetual Ltd 2004 How to be a Lady Killer. Introduction CHAPTER 26 – BODY LANGUAGE THAT ATTRACTS THE MOST WOMEN ............188 STEP 9: ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT TONIGHT ....................................................191 CHAPTER 27 - FOUR WAYS TO INCREASE YOUR CHANCES OF “YES”.................194 CHAPTER 28 – RIGHT AND WRONG METHODS OF ASKING FOR A DATE .............197 CHAPTER 29 - SIX STEPS TO BRING HER BACK FOR MORE.................................201 CHAPTER 30 - FIVE WAYS TO MAKE HER WANT YOU NOW...............................206 STEP 10: ENJOY THE RESULTS ...............................................................................212 RESOURCES ...............................................................................................................219 v Copyright  e-Perpetual Ltd 2004 How to be a Lady Killer. Introduction INTRODUCTION Being successful with women has long held a deep mystique for most men. In today’s society men are often unfairly judged on their level of success with women. Why is one man successful while another isn’t? There is almost always no apparent reason why one guy is more successful than another. It seems reasonable to assume that the successful guy has something that the less successful guy does not. A silver tongue, perhaps? A natural aptitude with which to succeed? Maybe. What he will certainly have is a set of skills and a knowledge base that generates confidence. Confidence breeds success. The good news for you is that these skills and the necessary knowledge can be acquired. They can be learned by anyone who wants to be a success with women. You can help yourself to success by learning some simple skills of communication, interaction, preparation and presentation. These coupled with other insights into the expectations of women, the way they think and the way they react to a variety of situations will enable you to confidently approach any woman and win her attention immediately. So, how am I qualified to tell you all this? There are four main reasons. Firstly, I am a woman. As such, I am perfectly positioned to provide a woman’s perspective. Secondly, I run a beauty salon, which means I have more exposure to a variety of other women and their problems (almost all of which revolve around men) than any other person I know. Thirdly, since I decided to write this book I have carried out extensive research into the man/woman mating game and related topics. Finally, I thought it would be good idea to carry out a survey to find out women’s views on specific issues. I wanted the survey to be representative of a vi Copyright  e-Perpetual Ltd 2004 How to be a Lady Killer. Introduction broad cross-section of women, so didn’t limit it only to the views of my clients. That is why you will find this book different from the rest. It is not based on a study of women in a laboratory or analyst’s chair, but largely based on what woman have revealed in a relaxed, female-only environment. They leave their inhibitions at home when they come to see me and what leaves their lips is what they really think. The key advantage of reading this book over many other dating publications is that you will be told how it is in reality and how to put it right. Also, you are getting it from the horse’s mouth, rather than from someone who has a theory, but may know little in practice. I hope you will appreciate the difference. By reading this book you have decided that you do not wish to continue living the illusion that you know all you need to know about women. You have woken up to the reality that you need a little help. Congratulations. You have made a wise decision - one I promise you will not regret. It could be the most important decision you have ever made. You will learn all you need to know about us women, how we want to be treated, what you should say, how you should say it, when you should say it, what you should not do or say and much more. From initial contact to eternal love, I will help you acquire the skills you need. Please note, if you want to fully appreciate the lessons and derive maximum benefit, you will need to read the book all the way through. Each section is linked and supports the others. Merely reading part of this work will leave you short of vital information. Only by reading and absorbing the whole thing can you be sure that you are fully equipped to vii Copyright  e-Perpetual Ltd 2004 How to be a Lady Killer. Introduction make your mark with all those girls waiting for you to come along and claim them. There is absolutely nothing wrong with needing some help in this area. You are certainly not alone. If my experience is anything to go by, the vast majority of the male species could do with some help. Having said that, it can’t be easy for men in this game. I can sympathize with your plight. I would not relish walking into a bar and having to use my charm to approach a complete stranger and win his affections. All this in the knowledge that there is a queue of rivals waiting for me to fail, just so they can step in and take my place. It is a tough life out there for you guys, no doubt about that. Fear not, help is at hand. If you have been swimming against the tide in the sea of love, this is your lifeline. You can succeed and I will show you how. “I can’t change, I will always be me and I am just not any good at this sort of thing”, I hear you say. “Nonsense”, I say. I have always been fascinated by the nurture versus nature debate. Are we essentially who we are because of the genes we were born with, or does our environment and influences mould us into who and what we are? There are experts who swear it is all in the genes, whilst others will not consider anything other than external influences. I have always been of the opinion that the truth falls somewhere between the two. I believe that our genetic make-up is responsible for the very core of our being. For example, some children are born stubborn and continue to have a stubborn nature throughout their lives. This obstinate nature will never leave them as it is in their genetic make-up. For this reason, it will always be a part of them. viii Copyright  e-Perpetual Ltd 2004 How to be a Lady Killer. Introduction Looking at it from the nurture viewpoint, we can be scarred or enlightened by certain events and experiences. It is easy to imagine that a child brought up in an oppressive, abusive environment would be likely to grow up differently than if he or she had been brought up by loving, supportive parents. It is not just children who are influenced by significant events and individuals. We are all learning during every moment we are conscious. We all face cross-roads situations every day of our lives; we just do not see it that way, or at least the mundane experiences of each day do not seem to hold so much importance. We need to remind ourselves that we are all growing, each and every day. It is this ability to develop, learn and grow that gives us the opportunity to change, to broaden our horizons and acquire new skills and knowledge. This is why I passionately believe that even the most shy, bashful, hesitant, faint-hearted man, who can never bring himself to utter a word in front of the opposite sex, can learn from my lessons. If you can learn, you are capable of improving. If you are capable of improving, then heed the lessons that follow. Put them into practice and watch as the clouds of uncertainty fade away to reveal a clear path to your goal. You will achieve this by equipping yourself with everything you require to succeed in your quest for love. I will teach you the things you need to know before leaving home on a night out and how to pick-up the silent signals all around you. I will share with you the techniques that will help you break the ice. From this point there is still much work to be done before capturing the heart of your prey and ensuring that she is yours if you so desire. If she does turn out to be the woman of your ix Copyright  e-Perpetual Ltd 2004 How to be a Lady Killer. Introduction dreams you will need to know what to do to ensure that she stays with you rather than be snatched away by other predators, casting jealous, admiring glances. You should understand how the female species behaves and thinks before you can realistically expect them to take you seriously. Take it from me, most men do not understand the first thing about women and their needs, so once you have learned all about us you will have a key advantage over most other men. You will learn how to prepare for capturing your ideal mate. There are secrets to quickly win the attention of others and sustain it. If you possess these you will gain the confidence to approach members of the opposite sex - anytime, anywhere. My aim is to leave you with a set of personal and communication tools that will ensure that you need never again approach a woman with that tightness in the stomach or tennis ball-size lump in the throat. You will have a plan. Armed with these skills, your odds of success will be vastly improved. Fortunately for you I get to spend lots of time with many women in a relaxed setting, where they let their hair down and talk honestly. An endless conveyer belt of interesting women of all ages and from all walks of life pass through every day. I get them all - from leaders of companies to cleaners of floors. From young maidens to old dears, whether they be married, single, divorced, widowed, big, small, long, short or tall, they all have one thing in common - a story to tell about their love life, or lack of it. But more of that later. As we get to know one another, so our intimacy grows. The resulting knowledge is very enlightening. All these women cannot be wrong. x Copyright  e-Perpetual Ltd 2004 How to be a Lady Killer. Introduction Listening to what they are saying, one can only learn. For the last six years I have spent the majority of my working hours doing just that. They seem to revel in revealing what they like about men, what they don’t like about men, what men do that pleases them and what men do that does not please them. I am sad to say that most men are getting it wrong most of the time. In short, most men do not know where to start when it comes to treating a woman how she wants to be treated. I have acquired a deep knowledge of what women really want from men, the most common areas where men fall down in trying to win their affections and what men should do to remedy this. Up until now I have shared this essential knowledge with only a few people. This is information that most men would never have acquired had I not decided to reveal the truth. Whether you are desperate to turn that sweet sixteen year-old into your sweetheart, need to acquire the attention of that attractive young accountant you admire or desire the demure divorcee at the dance class, I can show you how to succeed. You will learn what to say, how to say it and when to say it. If you feel like the proverbial rabbit in the headlights when approaching women, I will show you how to build your confidence for success. I have been told the answers to your dilemmas so many times I practically recite them in my sleep. I will be expanding on how you can make a woman feel good about herself and also how to make her feel attractive and important. This is crucial if you are to succeed. xi Copyright  e-Perpetual Ltd 2004 How to be a Lady Killer. Introduction Do you think you have to be attractive to get women? Rippling biceps, six-pack stomach, chiseled jaw and all that? Perhaps the answers will surprise you. All will be revealed. One crucial point before we get started in earnest. You must understand from the outset that there is only one person who can put into practice the techniques and lessons put before you in this book. I will provide many tips, techniques and a mountain of knowledge, but your success will be determined by how well you are able to apply what you learn. If there were a sure-fire remedy that didn’t require your participation to guarantee success with women, I would gladly share this with you and become rich enough to buy the world. Alas, just reading will not be enough, you have to play your part too, but I will try to make it fun. Read, relax, enjoy and move forward with your life. xii Copyright  e-Perpetual Ltd 2004 How to be a Lady Killer. Resources RESOURCES Here are some excellent resources and other dating sites that you will find to be extremely helpful in sky-rocketing your results with women. TOOL #1 – How to Seduce Beautiful Women How to pick up the most beautiful women, no matter what you look like. The 7 closet erogenous zones that, when touched, will cause her to faint in delight! TOOL #2 - 1000 Questions For Couples What you absolutely Must know about the one you are with! 1,000 of the most important questions you can ask your partner. TOOL #3 - Beautiful Russian Women Contact and date beautiful Russian "model quality" girls of all ages. Excellent reputation and instant results. 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